Hey Gathererererers!
Today there are officially 30 days (or less) until hubby gets out of the state pen. I'm in the process of being approved as his host. I have to bring a copy of my lease, electricity bill, phone bill, and driver's license to the probation/parole center in order to get a background check and be approved as his host while he is on home confinement for the next 6 months. They will ONLY let you use Verizon or Cavalier as your phone provider, and it's been a big pain in the ass opening a new account with them and canceling my account with Comcast. I still haven't gotten my first electricity bill since moving in, so I'm not sure what's going on with that. So, basically, it's a hurry-up-and-wait kind of situation. The good news is that the lady at probation/parole said that there is no wait at all for the equipment and ankle bracelet. That means that the day of his official release, he won't have to wait around behind bars still for the equipment to be ready! Yay!
We are a little worried because he got so much "good time" applied to his sentence that they won't get him a probation officer until the last minute, and we have so many questions and so much to do before release date! I did find out that I won't even be picking him up at the actual prison, but will be picking him up at the probation/parole center the instant he gets his ankle bracelet on. :) He will call me that morning for a ride home, and I will bring him his street clothes.
In the meantime, we have our honor visit coming up on June 28, which we are both really looking forward to. I'm going to bring him some stuffed crust pizza and some wings from Buffalo Wild Wings. I probably won't be able to eat a thing because I'll be so anxious about the whole ordeal, but I'm happy that he'll have something from the "outside" to chow down on. I can't believe how nervous I am! I haven't laid eyes on my husband for more than 9 months now! Despite hearing his voice every day or every couple of days, I am still so nervous to see him in person! LOL! I have no idea what my first reaction is going to be... Am I going to laugh and smile with glee or am I going to break down crying? Will it be both? LOL! How odd it will be to feel his arms around me and his lips on mine again after so long...
In other news, I had surgery to remove a cyst behind my left ear on Monday afternoon, and today is the first day that it hasn't been THROBBING with pain. What really sucks about it is that as a medical transcriptionist, I have to use headphones to hear the doctors really well for my job, and wearing those headphones HURTS! What hurts the most, though, are the tender, hard lymph nodes that run from behind my ear all the way down my neck into my shoulder while this thing has been healing... At least the cyst/abscess is gone now, and it will be back to normal in a week or so.
I've also decided not to take on anymore work for JLS Transcription Academy until August 1. I just can't deal with the added responsibility right now in my life. Hubby will be home in less than a month, I have a lot of things to take care of here at the house, I'm working full time, and my father is still REALLY sick. In case you don't know, he was diagnosed recently with small-cell lung cancer which is pretty much the most aggressive and horrible form of lung cancer there is... The prognosis isn't good at all, and I need to make sure that I travel down to southern Virginia soon to go see him. I want to make sure that my schedule is open enough in case he should need me...
I hope everyone is having a great week! There are lots of rumors flying around concerning the point system here at Gather... I guess we'll all just have to go with the flow and see how it all pans out. I'll still be here, though, reading, viewing, and posting like I normally do. :) Have a great one, friends!
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Wow 9 months! That should be exciting for you!
how exciting, 9 months is a long time...I think you will cry tears of joy when you go to see him..Keep us updated!!
That is wonderful.
I am so happy for you. I wish you guys all the best.
The time will fly by fast I'm sure. Good luck with everything.
Good luck with everything. I sure hope it all goes well. Enjoy your visit too.
THis is wonderful
less than 30! great!
sorry to hear about your dad. Sounds like you got a lot on your plate right now. take a few breathers every so often so you don't get too stressed.
take care.
Wow you have alot on your plate, but with the excitement of that magic moment arriving soon, you won't dwell on it too much. Heck you won't have the time too, and it will make that last stretch go by even faster. I'm truly sorry about your father's illness. Thats alot to have to deal with. As to how you will feel when he is in your arms, will most likely be a range of emotions. Just let them all go, whatever it is you feel, then go enjoy having your husband home once again.
Not too much longer and yes the points blow
I was just thinking this morning about your countdown and wondered where you were at in it.
Wow, what an update! I hope the thing behind your ear heals ASAP.
What's going to happen with Hubby at home, if your father gets sick? Are you allowed to leave him for a few days, if you have to go down there? I cooudln't imagine having a sick Dad, and a husband on house arrest.
leah, hubs and i were just talking about that the other day... i mean, as his host, is it possible for me to leave and go out of state if i have to? we don't know the answer to this... i guess we will find out soon enough, though! we do know, however, that hubby will NOT be able to leave the state, let alone the house, for at least the next 6 months.... but, ANYTHING is better than where he is now!
good luck
I hope all will go well for you and your husband, and your father too. With your husband on house arrest, is he allowed to look for work and to work? Or does he have to just sit at home for 6 months? I know prisons/jails usually like for those they release on parole to be working.
janet, as a part of the house arrest/probation deal, an inmate HAS to find a full-time job or be in school full time. otherwise, they are technically violating their parole! so, as soon as he gets home, the job search is ON! we have no idea what he will do, but at this point, if he works at mcdonalds, it will be SOMETHING rather than nothing...
I hope your husband will be able to find work. Everyone is having so much trouble getting jobs these days, even people with college degrees. I think some places get a tax break for hiring an ex inmate, so maybe that will work in his favor. My daughter works at Goodwill and she said that some of the employees there are ex prisoners, so maybe he could try there. My daughter gets $7.40 an hour there. Not a lot but better than nothing.
i know... the job market is HORRIBLE right now... my husband has a bachelor's degree in mathematics and a master's degree in finance... i'm not sure what kind of job he'll get... we're just hoping it's SOMETHING! thanks for the tip! he's going to be applying absolutely anywhere right at first until he gets his bearings and can then look for a better job...
Wow, the day is almost here, for your hubby to be back home again!
I'm here for you if you need to talk about your Dad, that cancer really sucks & I went through it with my Mom not that long ago. Please make sure you spend some time with him as often as you can.
thanks, priscilla! yeah... i don't think i have my dad for much longer on this earth... what really sucks is that i'm two states away from him right now with a full-time job that i can't just leave any time i want to... i will definitely be spending as much time as i can with him, though! he's a fighter and will be starting chemotherapy on monday morning.... i just don't want him to suffer or be in any pain, ya know?
Good thing about getting to see your hubby on the 28th! I am sending you positive energy and thoughts so that everything will continue going smoothly for you!!
wow! it seems like yesterday you were talking about 99 days to go!! sucks about the other stuff though! life sounds crazy for you!
thanks for the update, hope all goes well. Hope he able to find a job right away.. Seems like they would help him find one..
Job! I never thought of that!! Is there anything he'll be qualified to do in the house on house arrest for the next 6 months? Do you have another computer? You could get him on Gather! :)
i'm not sure what he'll do, leah... larry, it would be nice if the probation people would help him find a job, but the state has no programs to help ex-prisoners find jobs... despite the name "correctional facility," they do nothing to "correct" or "rehabilitate" prisoners... they just lock them up and let them go. period.
Thought I heard that some places won't even let them out if they don't have a job. Is there a Goodwill where you live, the one here is hiring people the get paroled.. Could try there..
That's really exciting. I agree with S.M.K., it was only yesterday! I hope the job hunt goes well. What city will you be in?
hey walker, thanks! we'll be living Newark, Delaware for the 6 months of his house arrest... after that, we're hoping to move to south Jersey, where his family is from... perhaps you have some contacts here in Delaware? ;)
I didn't spend that much time north of the canal :) Newark (locally pronounced New-Ark, not New-Erk like the Jersey city) is almost normal. Once you go south of the canal you enter a time warp and are transported to 19th century Mississippi...
yep... everyone says i'm saying it WRONG when i say "new ARK" and not "new ERK," but you're right! i live in NEW-ARK, Delaware! ;)
They certainly make you jump through hoops to get approved as a host. I can understand why but the process must be challenging. Nine months is a long time to go without seeing your spouse.
I am so excited and happy for you.
thanks, linda! :) yeah, 9 months ago, i couldn't even fathom this day coming, and here it is!
wow the wait will be worth it,, thing wil soon be back to normal, also sorry to hear about your dad,,,
Your world is filled with so much now. I'm glad you took the time to care for yourself. I wonder if there is a way to have someone else be approved as a backup "host" so you can leave and be with your father when you need to be.
Best of luck with everything.
I'm glad to hear that you won't have much longer to wait.