Well I've done it. It's come full circle and everyone in my family and my friends know that I'm gay. Most of them knew anyway but who was really left was my dad. I sent my dad a letter and he got it yesterday. I haven't talked to him and he very well may disown me but that's ok because that's HIS issues, not mine.
I'm coming up on my one year anniversary. One year. Seems so short, seems so long. In the beginning our romance was a whirlwind. We moved fast. She moved in after 2 months of knowing each other and here we are, going strong.
Our only regret is that we didn't meet each other sooner so we could get married. But I am glad that the 18,000 couples who did get married, are STILL married and will continue to be married. I am very confident that someday, all LGBTQ couples in California will be able to get married. I've heard that it may be back on the ballot again in 2010 and I know that I'll be doing my part as best I can.
It's kind of funny about telling my dad when I did because the next day, my partner and I were in the newspaper so he would have found out anyway but best to come from me I think.
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I hope your father can accept this. If not, its his loss.
glad that you can be proud of who you are and if your family accepts you great but if not hope you can be happy anyways
If you were in the newspaper like that then it was very classy of you to send the letter.
because that's HIS issues, not mine.
You think so do you?
Yes. It's his issues with the LGBTQ community. I already knew he had issues and by keeping it a secret from him, it was hindering me. His issues are not mine. Heck I have enough of my own issues to deal with, I don't need his too.
I am so glad that you wrote the letter and got it off of your chest! I know that took a lot out of you, but you should be so proud:)
I agree, if your dad can't deal, it is his problem. He is entitled to his opinions/feelings, but that doesn't mean that you have to accept them.
Thanks. I agree. He is entitled to his feelings. If he ever comes around, I never want to discuss religion with him because we're destined to disagree. He's good at talking the talk about religion but he's never lived it the way he talks about it. Which is what makes it sad that he can't be more accepting.
Exactly, I will never understand why many use religion to divide people, as opposed to unite us more. It is sad, but surrounding yourself with people that do support you is the key.
I'm glad you're happy......my hubby and I will be celebrating our 31st wedding anniversary in August! Wow, that's an awfully long time to be married to the same person! Sometimes it seems like 100 years, most of the time much less......LOL!!!!!!!!
Congrats! That is quite an accomplishment in our society. Are you doing something special?
Always be proud of who you are!
It's been a long road, but I am becoming more that way!
I'm sure you feel very liberated now. Congrats!
Thanks! It does make me feel better.
Best of luck to you. Society is coming around. I hope one day soon the two of you can enjoy all the rights that you deserve!!
I hope so also! Thanks for stopping by.
My sister faced similar barriers in coming out... my mother was not the most understanding human on earth, and she was very, very bigotted. My sister hid her life for years and years, even after getting into a relationship. She finally found the courage and strength to tell our mom. Mom didn't take it well at first, but within a few months, my sisters Partner, Brandi, was invited over for gatherings and holidays, and mom came to love her as well.
I know it must be scary... losing a parents affection often is. You and your partner make a lovely couple, and I know you support each other fully. It does not replace a father's affection... but if he does not come around, it will be him that regrets it. You must be true to yourself, and to hell with the rest of us.
I pray that what he will find when he searches his soul is happiness that his daughter has someone who loves her, and he will realize it does not matter who, or what sex, color, creed or anything else, that person is. Love is all that matters.
{{{HUGS}}} (by the way, I pray each day that my sister and Brandi can finally get married. Its so unfair that they cannot.)
Thank you. I hope that your sister and partner can get married too. I still have faith that someday...someday it'll happen....
I'm sure it's a relief to have told him! I agree with what others have said-- only he can choose whether or not he takes it like a mature, open individual or not. Your job is simply to live your life happily and do what you need to do! :)
Thanks for stopping by Tory. I hope in time he can see that.
Good for you! =D Im glad you came out to your family and you dont have to hide who you love anymore. Congrads!
Congrats Shannon on finally being yourself. I wish you and your partner many years of happiness and hope that your father can accept it.
I hope things will work out with your father.
I dont think there is a law againt pretending to married. Or is there? You cannot marry a tree or your pets in this world also. Marriage is between a man and a woman. We are only here in this stage of life for a very short time. sodomites will have a price to pay when they part from this world my friend. I do wish you would thing this out. Perversion is not the way to go.
I will pray for you two. God bless
Wile praying, pray for the removal of hatred and bigotry in your heart.
The only hate I have is for evil. Do you understnd Leo? Bigotry? If something is ok with God, then it's ok with me for sure. Do you have a problem with God, Leo? In the end you will understand. Time is short, don't waste it. Good day Sir.
Have you actually read Leviticus? If you have, you know that you are evil for several reasons.
You are certainly welcome to your opinion Scott. God Bless You... I think you need it more then I.
OK, the above comment was disgusting. Congrats, Shannon.And I apologize on behalf of Scott.
Thanks Jane. There is a nut in every crowd. I've never believed that real Chrisitans act like that. And if they do, who'd want to be a part of that??
1 Peter 4:14-16 (NIV)
14 If you are insulted because of the name of Christ, you are blessed, for the Spirit of glory and of God rests on you.
15 If you suffer, it should not be as a murderer or thief or any other kind of criminal, or even as a meddler.
16 However, if you suffer as a Christian, do not be ashamed, but praise God that you bear that name.
The only way to be happy is to be out--no deceit, no lies, freedom.
Why do they change the order of these comments?
You can reply to the group or the person Jane. If you are the first to reply to a person you will see the "reply to this comment" under their comment and it looks like when a person replies to a person and not the group it bumps a reply down or up , now im im mixed up : )
Wow, you know I love you no matter what darling, you are my baby girl and always will be! Sounds funny saying that to an adult but still, it's true!!
Congratulations on the relationship, and for standing up for yourself. If he can't accept all of you, it is his problem.
i'm having a hard time with this one. not because of reasons you may think, but because it saddens me that those in the GL community still feel stressed & overwhelmed at the thought of "coming out". is this not 2009? why should anyone in this the united states of america ever have to pretend to be someone they are not?
a closed mind is a terrible thing to waste. stand tall ladies. :)
Shannon,
Congratulations! As long as you're happy, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.
And I can't imagine any father not loving and accepting his daughter because of who she is. Hopefully, he'll surprise you. Good luck!
I hope it all works out with your dad. However, you have the final word when it comes to who you are and how you feel about yourself.