We live in a rather secluded neighborhood where the neighbors are very nice, but keep to themselves. The few children are either too young or too old for my fourteen year old. There is no one for her to play with, but boys flock to her, and I have to chase them away. I feel like she is so isolated.
I can't send her to church because of gang activity outside our neighborhood.
Gather has always helped me before, and I could really use some help. This neighborhood is so secluded, and needs to be because of gang activity. I had to pull her out of school, but it's a shame, but I'm the only friend she's got.
Any ideas besides church which I would love but the gangs are to prevalent and dangerous.
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Can you move?
Can you go to a church that is farther away?
Maybe she can make friends online, but it seems so sad that you guys are living there in a place where you can't really "live."
We put the house up for sale, but in this market we'd lose our shirts. It's just not an option right now. A church far away is a possiblity.
hmmmm, are there any Girls, Inc. programs in your area?? They are a program for girls to get together and do activities. It empowers girls and allows them to form friendships in a safe setting. Great program!!
Thanks, I'll check it out.
Yep, she needs friends for sure. My suggestion, seriously, move. If the gangs are that bad and it's that unsafe and she's already being home schooled it's time to get the heck out of Dodge. Why stay there and live like you are a prisoner in your own home, her too. She can't be happy and neither can you so why stay there?
We put the house on the market but didn't get an offer. When houses in Oklahoma are over 200,000 they don't move quickly, and ours didn't sell. We live in a new neighborhood so everyone wants a new house. My house if 5 years old. So no sale.
have you considered leasing the house? and while leasing your house, you could rent another house or apartment, in a safer neighborhood.
What about Gather? I've met some great people that I have actually met here. It would be best to move though. I know that sometimes that's not fiesable.
She is on Gather, Danielle. She's getting started. I'll have her comment here, so you guys can meet her.
If you are homeschooling there should be events your family can join to hang with other kids that are homeschooled.
I would consider moving as well. If it's so dangerous that you can't even go to church, it's not a good place to be.
Then my recommendation would be to find a new church. :-)
If you were closer, I have some nieces and nephews around here that she might get a long with. But we are a long ways away.
I know it's not the same but what about some penpals or "e"-pals?
relocation might be wise.
I find it funny that no matter how many times you say it, or how many ways you put it people keep telling you to move...
...I think your daughter has had the best idea yet...buy her a friend!!! :P
Hey...I found a website for buying friends, you should check it out!...
www.buyafriendforyourlonelydaughter.com