Poll: What do you think about Open Relationships?

It's not for me.

IMO there's no sense in having a marriage or significant other if you are going to run around with others aside from them. Just my outlook. I'm a one man kinda woman. I know some that choose it, but I can't personally see the draw in it. :-)

Good luck if you choose it's to your liking.

Ummm so your definition of an open relationship would be?  Being free to to have multiple physical relationships and still have the security of a committed marriage/relationship?  I don't think I could go that route.  It might be nice to experience some variety or in my case any physical encounters, but I would not feel like I could have a true commitment in a marriage/relationship and have a commitment to another.  Nor would I want to share. 

Open relationship?  No responsibility?  Self-gratification?  

Well, you asked!

I don't think it's sustainable for most.  But for a few couples it's probably the ticket - especially couples that are in marriages of convenience in the first place.

I know it's not for me, but I don't fault anyone for choosing that route. I think if it works for you, then go for it. I could never do it, I'm an only child and don't share well, especially relationships.

My guess is that more men would entertain the idea than women. I believe there is a biological imperitive.

Still, all Open Relationships that I have known in my lifetime did not survive.

Personally, they are not for me and I do not think they are an idea.  I have friends that are in them and doing just fine though.

Monogamy is a myth. I've read where socialologists estimate there an astonishingly high number of dad's raising children that are not theirs in this country. When it comes to what type of man women want to physically father their children, they gravitate towards stronger more aggressive men. But when it comes to the type of man they actually want to live with and help raise their children they gravitate towards men that are more genlte and empathetic. So, a woman may want to marry a "nice" guy, but they want to breed with the "bad" boys. It's all supposedly subconscious, but I think the desire for multiple partners exists at some level for most humans. It's how we deal with these natural urges that seperates us from wild creatures.

OK on the face of it, I would say that what goes on between 2 consenting adults is ok.  The trick is the "consent" part.  If all parties know going in that the relationship is going to be non-monogamous and agree to it, that's one thing.  But people can change over time, so what works now may not work later.  The participants would have to work hard to stay open with each other about what they want from the relationship.

That being said, I personally am so monogamous it's scary.  "Casual sex" is an oxymoron to me.  So I couldn't see myself as ever being a part of an open relationship.  As has been said above, if there's no commitment, why bother?  I think wanting a relationship with a specific person without exclusivity or any real commitment is selfish and childish, and the relationship destined to fail.

I dont believe in it for myself but to each his own. For the invalid people or others it might be okay.

I have know several people that were able to make their open relationships work. If you really think about your actions and their consequences, and still come to the conclusion that an open realtionship would work best in your situation, do it.

PersonallyY, if that is what you want and I work. Than  say go for it. Not allof these relationships die. My best advice I can give is be totaly open and honest.

if all parties are in on the planning of what is said and done then  i think it is fine but if  it is only one partner  of a stable couple it wont work to much drama

As long as a couple has a strong foundation to start with, being completely open and honest with each other; then I think it can strengthen a relationship. Monogamy isn't necessarily for everyone, and forcing someone to conform to that standard; causes problems too.

If it feels right and it works for you , go for it. Don't for get, you get what you put in to it. Well thats how its suppose to be !!

*BLESSED BE*