Losing Her Existence

I started thinking, shortly after I married for the first time at 48 "I WANT MY LIFE BACK"!! Now I have it back and things are hunky dory!

Powerful poem Robert. Great job.

Losing a little of her life... you said it all. Sometimes every relationship like that of a husband and wife are taken for granted. Hence,lost.

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You said so much with so few words.  I am so blessed to have Larry in my life.

All too many men don't know how to treat a woman, and too many women accept less then what they need from men in the name of love or protecting their ego. If you can't talk to the one you are with about your needs, then you have a long way to go.

Good write

I can so relate to this.  Well done, Robert!

I could completely understand this poem, great job Robert!

Boy am i glad i am divorced now

This is wonderful.  I think even happily married women feel neglected and unappreciated at times.

Amen to that Jan!

Very good job, I'm happily married but like Jan says sometimes feel neglected and unappreciated. Even to society sometimes they look at woman who stay home so much differently.

Robert you could have written this with me in mind.  Except for the making beds and pies bit.  I became a stay at home mother (not housewife) 18 years ago.  My "baby" just flew the nest and I am faced with empty nest syndrome.  Over the years bit by bit I felt as if I was losing my existence.  I am a displaced mother.  No job skills and no reason to stay at home anymore.  I feel lost.  Your last few lines summed it up perfectly.

I see you've ead my life story! LOL

Why is Poddar the only male represented here?

Thanks to everyone, I've seen to many ladies in such situations.

Robert, you might be hanging around too many married women.  :-)

See your ping.  it will self-destruct soon.

I can definitely relate to this and you know it!

Unfortunately Esther I do.  I may no longer be in TX but our friendship remains and I am still ready to drive your getaway car when you decide you've had enough.  My prayers are always with you.

- R

One must always treat one's spouse with affection and attention.

nice job

Too many women subscribe to what they believe women should be and do.

Be beautiful, get a man, get married, have kids and let the man take care of you.

WRONG.

A woman always needs to be independent.

Men marry a woman when she is young and beautiful and want her to stay that way.

Women marry a man when he has the potential to be a good provider, husband and father.

Women forget they must become beautiful again after having kids, otherwise they lose themselves.

The only way a woman can be happy is to be young and beautiful and slim again after having kids. That means being selfish. it is the only way. Too many marriages suffer because women believe the crap they are taught: give, give, give, give. They die, the marriage dies, and it is all over.

Bye. My beauty sleep and my exercise routine.

This touches me very deeply, dear Robert.  Good wishes to the ones who can escape it.  Not all have the best choices.  :)

Aaah, the never ending plight of us women.

How true, dear Robert... how sad and how true.

Blessings and best wishes - S.

she sounds very unhappy and lonely. i hope not too many women feel this way

Good poem. The truth of this is everywhere. Women must keep their identity and not be an extension of some guy.

"sometimes its hard to be a woman"

Hmmm is this why so many women felt I should go out and get a job outside the home?   This is not how I feel, I LOVE my job, it is what I wanted and still want after 39 years and I do have my freedom, my indpendance and my husband does appriciate me.  It is the government that does not accept or recognize the worth of the homemaker and those of us who take great joy and delight in staying home and doing all those things plus.    I am fulfilled except financially and our government and other women and society thinks I should go get a job outside the home.   NO THANKS.   I DON'T LIKE people I like being away from people, crowds and being My own boss not punchng a time clock or having to dress to please some boss or other or wear my hair a certain way or having to pay someone else to care for my children teaching them their and not my values.      "The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world"    To many women working out of the home make latch kids who become resentful, angry, rebellious.    I am very content to be a stay at home, mom,  grandmother and I write, do surveys,  sell things,   I am fulfilled.  It is not a plight it is a joy.      I NEVER EVER want to escape the life of a HOMEMAKER it is the best of all worlds.

Giving is a two way street,  it is both men and women who need to learn this.   If a marriage falls apart it is because both parties did not work at it.   As far as being slim and beautiful  if that is what a women believes that is sad.   I am no longer slim.  I am working on becoming slimmer again but not for my husband, but for myself because of my health.   He encourages me and works out with me and we eat the same.   He still thinks I am beautiful and says  "No dear your never in my way"  If I ask him if I am.    We both came from abusive homes.   We determined from day one to NOT be like our parents.     We put God at the head of our marriage. Marriage takes three,   God, my husband and I.    We will celebrate 40 years of marriage in 11 months.    I get my exercise routine and my beauty sleep most the time and me time and do things I love doing.     Homemakers should be paid like everyone else.   Rather than stupid government telling homemakers and society telling them to go get a job and hire a daycare to care for her children.   Just pay me to stay home and raise them.    It is a wonderful job.    Why give up my freedom to kiss someone elses pututi.   NO THANKS

very well done, Robert...  sad but too true...  Blessings always...

Hubby and I are going to work outside today in the flower beds,  We do things together,  right now he is washing dishes and I am going to go hang some clothes on the line, love the fresh smell of clothes off the line and hanging them gives me exercise, pleasure and love the sun and birds sounds and seeing butterflies, hearing the creek across the road.  Peaceful.

I have known those girls

Lonely inside, though wed

Unappreceated is not the road I took

I left the bum behind

When I saw the road he wished to take

I took my freedom instead.

Jen D. I am soooo happy for you, that you are happy, truly happy, and that your marriage is a good one!  You are very blessed, it does take two people to work at a relationship, and having the Lord first in your life, I am sure has made it much easier for you two, and he does dishes!!!!!!!!! yep he is a keeper!!!!!!

Robert, well done — as you can see from the comments.

Jen brought up some very excellent points. Even though I'm mainly a stay at home mom, I work on the weekends. And, the issue about having to dress the way the boss wants, I've come against that lately and it's been very aggravating and depressing.

I don't wish to work there anymore after almost 9 years because of this jerk. Before, I was happy to do my job and not complain. Not all I want to do is put my fist through his jaw. But, I can't so, I stand there and boil all day.

Whew, not that's off my chest..

Thanks for posting to my group, Anythingwriting

Sorry for the generic comment... have not been around for a while and have well over 5000 e-mails.. in my attempt to get to everyone that has taken the time to make a link, I am just leaving this generic comment....

thanks

I HAVE TO AGREE WITH MOST, NICELY DONE

Wonderful....and unfortunately too true too often!