Let's Get Real!

why don't you pray for them Kim?

The name is Kimberly, Georgiana, and I will.

I know what you mean, as I only have one group but had to go to moderated, as I was getting all sorts of "stuff" and it took forever to clean the "non related" stuff.

That's why I just have a post it all group :) That way everything is ok in my group.

Kimberly,

Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but I have to disagree with you on this one. Gather has hundreds of groups to choose from. I you want to post whatever you choose, then you need to post only to "Post It All Groups."

Specific themed groups are just that...not a post it all group. There were created for posts and pics related to the theme. I can imagine the hassle of reviewing all the posts and pics to assure compliance with the theme.

When one joins these groups they are aware of the nature of the "moderated" group. If one is not willing to abide by the rules of the group, then they should pass that one by.

Kimberly, reread your post a few times. Do you not see that you don't want to take the time to click on each group but you want all those group owners to take time to delete your unrelated posts? And how do you know the owner's don't have dial up??

The reason there are "groups" is so people can find topics of interest and if they are filled with unrelated topics it defeats the purpose of the group.

If a group is "moderated" as you say the owner still has to look at each post and accept or decline it--it still takes a ton of time to go thru unrelated posts and decline them.

It is just selfish to join groups and choose to follow your own rules and not those of the owner. The owner has the right to make the rules and each gatherer has the right to accept those and join or not join if they do not accept the rules.

Isn't there a place for your favorite groups, especially somewhere? Good luck, anyway-specific groups also judge people, just my opinion, not just their statements.

I also disagree. I used to have a slow, old computer and a slow connection. But I would have never assumed that my time was more important and valuable than that of a group owner and just posted to any and all groups to save myself time. If you don't have the time to go through your groups, then just join "anything" groups.

Now I understand why some of your posts have shown up in one of my groups where I didn't think they belonged. I looked and looked at those posts, trying to see where I was missing how they related to the topic. I thought I was missing something. Obviously not.

not getting into this one

i think i will stay out of this too. i think gather needs to help us make it easier to organize our groups when we post but i think its wrong to just post to whatever groups.

I have to disagree with you and agree with Nurse Nancy, CLR, and Marilyn.
I have one group in particular that is only about Flowers. I don't have a lot of time to spend on Gather, but I like to try to keep up with that group and it is a pain to go thru and delete stuff that shouldn't be there, but I don't want other stuff in the group or I would have made it a post anything group. I am not on gather every day or I would moderate the group, but I don't want stuff to have to wait days to be accepted if I am not on to accept it. I
You don't want to take the time to go thru and decide which groups to add to, well why do you think any of us group owners want to take time to delete the stuff from our group??? Some days I spend so much time taking care of my group I don't have time to get thru my feeds and see all my connections content. I think that is rude and disrespectful to group owners for you to just say you are too lazy to pass by the groups that don't have anything to do with the subject you are publishing. If you don't want to go thru and be specific only join groups that don't care what you post. We made our groups specific because that is what we want our group to be, if all Gather was was a bunch of post anything groups I probably wouldn't want to be on here. I like being able to search a group and find just what I am looking for, and not have to always go thru pages of stuff that has nothing to do with the subject I want. I have a sewing group too which I do moderate, but that is because it is much slower and I don't get as much stuff published to it, but my flowre group gets several posts every day.

You have a point, Kimberly (a bitty one at that). I think it's really a matter of respecting group owners intentions for their groups, & taking the extra time to do just that (respect).

Please don't misunderstand. I do try to be careful of which groups I post to and I agree that the group owner's time is just as valuable as mine. What I was trying to say is that we are all human and at times it's easy to get lazy. I do think people should be careful about which groups they are posting to but I understand both sides of this.

I think that sometimes people hit the wrong group when they have so many they belong too. It's happened to me. If the group leader gets ticked, I just sign out of the group. This is supposed to be fun and happy, not stressful.

I have to disagree with this one also. I too have many groups to sift through to get content to specific groups. If I am too tired that night I only send to a few groups and then give up instead of sending to the wrong groups. This is one thing here that I try and be careful for. Reason being, last year I started a cookie recipe group. It was around election time and all I was getting was election things sent to the group. I didn't think it was fair for someone looking for a recipe to have to sift through all the garbage that was being posted. So I changed it to a moderated group. I am still getting things off topic but it has cut down a lot since I started declining things. I can understand mistakes, but when it is on a regular basis I can understand the leaders banning someone from a group. It is much more time consuming for them, then it is for us to check who we are sending our content to.

"Gather is social networking grown up -- the place where adults go to keep up with the people, conversations, and moments that matter. "


This is what gather is about, not "to earn points, to earn money or gift cards to make our lives a bit easier". Points, money & gift cards are a bonus....

I suspect if gather eliminated the points system altogether, possibly lots of this foolishness and those splitting hairs and griping about it would then travel to other media platforms from which to show off, mock, police or otherwise seek their illusions of self importance... My Lord, don't folks have a real purpose driven life or agenda these days? Have fun people..... the so called gather appeal is pretty much a mirage...... A pseudo so to speak...... The real life deal is yet to come and I doubt gather will be much of an executable part of it?...... So in the meantime, try to enjoy yourselves, share your own qualities of which each has some and learn what you can from others doing the same....

Jeanna, sadly I personally see to few although precious "grown up" examples of adult and genuine behavior while entirely way too much 3 yr old temper tantrums being thrown around and tolorated..

Have a great gather day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thank you for posting to sparealine.gather.com

My solution to this problem is that I have limited my total number of groups to about 25. You don't have to be a member of every group under the sun... especially if it gets easy to be lazy when posting. I would rather be a really good member to a couple groups, than to be a really crappy member of 300 groups. KWIM? Do you really NEED to be a member of that many groups? I personally don't ever look at my "group" content feed. I just stick to what my friends feed shows me and that's enough for me. Points are great and all, but that's not the only reason Gather is here.

I'm glad you are careful about posting your content to the right groups, but lot of people aren't.

I understand that once in a while someone might make a mistake and for me, it's generally not a problem. But, there have been times when someone repeatedly sent me dozens of photos over and over again in which only about five or six were related to the theme. When I asked the person not to do that, she said she wouldn't do it anymore, but did it three more times. I just ended up deleting everything she posted even though some of them fit the theme. I just don't have time to go through all of them over an over again.

This is why I have removed my membership from everything that is not a "post it all" group.  Not because I was angry at other people for removing my stuff, but because my schedule is so crazy that it is just easier to have groups that I can post all of my stuff to.

Your words in your post and title say one thing, but then when people said that it is rude of you to think your time is more valuable you change your tune. 

At first you say things like, "I get tired of going through all the groups I am a member of to select the right ones.  My internet connection isn't fast enough and it takes me sometimes 10 - 15 minutes to select all the groups to post to. "

And, "I just think that group owners should be a little flexible."

Those are awfully selfish statements.  Why is your time more precious?  Is it fair for you to expect a group owner to read then reject your post about dogs when their group is about medical issues?  That group owner might have dialup and 50 other members who feel as you do.  They end up spending hours sifting through things that don't belong in their group because you were too lazy to make sure that you only posted to groups where it belonged. 

I'm glad that you later say, "Please don't misunderstand. I do try to be careful of which groups I post to and I agree that the group owner's time is just as valuable as mine. What I was trying to say is that we are all human and at times it's easy to get lazy." but it does contradict most of what you said in your post. 

This is just a friendly comment to tell you that your content has reached 50 views and will now be removed from 50 Views Per Content Congrats

Hope your day is a good one

If you can't take the time to post only to on topic groups, maybe everyone would be better served by your deleting those groups. Making someone else go to the trouble of deleting your post because you don't want to bother is inconsiderate at best. I have dial up and I recognize your problem. It is time consuming. But moderators have chosen their groups for whatever subject that may be and deserve the respect to post appropriately.