by Esther IS Flesh and Blood S.
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May 8, 2007

Sexy Question of the Day

May 12, 2009 05:48 PM UTC
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Would you rather be, Single and in love or Married and Miserable?

 

Let's Discuss.

Comments: 81

From personal experience, everytime I was Married and Miserable, I opted for single once again. Now I'm Married and Happy, so the last thing I want is to be single again.
Lisa Frost Bailey May 12, 2009, 5:50pm UTC
I think that there are alternatives. I plan to eventually be married and happily in love. I would be happy to be single and have a mutual love to start, and build to the kind of loving partnership I have always wanted!
Rae M. May 12, 2009, 5:54pm UTC
I would like to think if you are in love you will eventually get married. I think there is a certain wonderful feeling that comes with being single and in love, but it is even better to be secure in love. You don't have that high feeling, but you have a feeling of comfort. Of course I would choose not to be miserable.
unmarried and in love is the best!
Peter Joseph Swanson May 12, 2009, 5:58pm UTC
IF I had the choice ...
Peter Joseph Swanson May 12, 2009, 5:58pm UTC
(ha ha WHO would choose to be miserable ???!!!!!!)
Rebecca P. May 12, 2009, 6:03pm UTC
If I had to choose, i'd want to be single and in love, since there's a chance of happiness there, it would depend on the situation I guess
Deloris Wright May 12, 2009, 6:03pm UTC
I have been married and unhappy. Now I am Married and very happy. So I would rather be married and happy
Kelly Kay May 12, 2009, 6:18pm UTC
Let me ponder this... SINGLE and IN LOVE!! Says the married miserable woman.
Elle L. May 12, 2009, 6:18pm UTC
Love makes everything better!
kimberly g. May 12, 2009, 6:31pm UTC
I am married and happy.
sally g. May 12, 2009, 6:44pm UTC
i am happy and married.
Cathi L. May 12, 2009, 6:53pm UTC
Why's sparrow boy single and miserable?!?

Give your two choices, no doubt I would rather be single and in love. What a wonderful time in any relationship!
Nancy Paoletti May 12, 2009, 6:54pm UTC
Single and in love... David and I waited six years before we actually tied the knot, and would probably still be waiting, if health insurance hadn't been an issue. We were perfectly happy not being married, but sometime things just work better the other way. I'll never do married and miserable again... I did for almost 20 years ... it's not worth it.
Rob Appell May 12, 2009, 6:59pm UTC
Of the two choices, I'd take single and in love...because the love is there and there's always the future to get married. Being married and miserable, you might as well admit there's nothing there and it's all over. (I'm with 'Sparrow'...I'm single and miserable, too.)
Kimberly Ripley May 12, 2009, 7:20pm UTC
Well....I'd always opt for love. Having once been married and miserable, and later single and miserable....I'm quite happy now with "married and in love!"
Jennifer F. May 12, 2009, 7:32pm UTC
Well of course, single and in love! I can't think of anything in this world worse than being married to the wrong person.
Spencer T. May 12, 2009, 8:29pm UTC
There is no real choice. Single and in love is the only real answer. But I was married and in love before.
Katie R. May 12, 2009, 9:09pm UTC
Single and in love ... Life is too short to spend it being miserable.
Linda T. May 12, 2009, 9:21pm UTC
Married and miserable works for me. Okay it doesn't work so well but no relationship is perfect. We have our ups and downs. I would love to be happy regardless of my relationship status.
meg pattinson May 12, 2009, 11:09pm UTC
single & in love ! like Katie said.. life is too short ! why spend it being miserable with someone you don't wanna be with?
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 12:42am UTC
Katie ~ I am so glad that you are now married and happy. Something we all strive for and sometimes never achieve.
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 12:43am UTC
Lisa ~ We can all dream and pray and have faith. I know that you will find your one true love as you deserve it my friend. ;)
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 12:46am UTC
Rae ~ I think there is a certain wonderful feeling that comes with being single and in love, but it is even better to be secure in love. You don't have that high feeling, but you have a feeling of comfort. Rae M., May 12, 2009, 5:54pm EDT

Very well put my friend, very well put. Thanks!
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 12:53am UTC
Altair ~ unmarried and in love is the best!
Altair driving around the neighborhood and waving , May 12, 2009, 5:54pm EDT

I like being in love period!
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 12:54am UTC
Peter ~ Peter dear, but you do have a choice. I've given you one...
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 12:56am UTC
Peter ~ I don't know who would consciously choose to be miserable but sometimes we get caught up in a relationship that started out in love and somehow along the way turned into misery...

I know. I've been there a time or two before and it was nothing that was planned or wanted. It just happened just like that!
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 12:57am UTC
Rebecca ~ I do believe that one can be in love and get married and stay in love with the caveat that there will be good times and bad times throughout. Take the good and the bad and one can still remain in love in my humble opinion.
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 12:58am UTC
Deloris ~ So glad to hear that you are happy in love and married. ;)
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 1:08am UTC
Karen ~ GREAT for YOU!
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 1:09am UTC
Kelly Kay ~ Let me ponder this... SINGLE and IN LOVE!! Says the married miserable woman.
Kelly Kay, May 12, 2009, 6:18pm EDT

Awww hon. So sorry to hear it. I sure hope something good comes your way in the future.
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 1:10am UTC
Elle ~ You said "Love makes everything better." You can say that again!
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 1:11am UTC
Sparrow Boy ~ can i be single and miserable?
sparrow boy, May 12, 2009, 6:20pm EDT

Only IF you really want to be hon. There are alternative ya know??
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 1:12am UTC
Kimberly ~ I am happy for your happiness! ;)
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 1:12am UTC
Sally ~ I am happy for you too!
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 1:14am UTC
Cathi ~ Don't rightly know why Sparrow Boy is single and miserable. Perhaps he doesn't have a significant other right now and is lonely and miserable.

You're right! Being single and in love is the best feeling in the world. Of course if you can extend that into a life long relationship it's even better!! ;)
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 1:16am UTC
Nancy ~ Glad to hear that things worked out for you this time around. I KNOW how horrible being married and miserable is and you're right, it's not worth it!
Elizabeth O. May 13, 2009, 1:16am UTC
Interesting...I don't know how to answer..I enjoyed being single although it got lonely, I've enjoyed being married, and sometimes not....as for being in love, well, of course that would be the ultimate, if the one you are in love with loves you back.
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 1:17am UTC
Rob ~ Your words of wisdom are spot on! Once married and miserable one could surmise that there is NO love there any longer. Why stay in that type of relationship? Life is too short in my opinion.
Dan R. May 13, 2009, 1:18am UTC
From what I have seen of relationships, Single and happy is a lot more pleasurable.
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 1:19am UTC
Kimberly ~ Well....I'd always opt for love. Having once been married and miserable, and later single and miserable....I'm quite happy now with "married and in love!"
Kimberly Ripley, May 12, 2009, 7:20pm EDT

Awww. A romanticist in our midst, how sweet!
Phyllis R. May 13, 2009, 1:30am UTC
Thank God, I've only been married and in love (28.5 years)! I just can not imagine living life "married and miserable" but unfortunately I am very close to one that does!!!!
Deserthope *. May 13, 2009, 1:46am UTC
Single and in love but sometimes in marriage you can be miserable and just need to work it out and move on and grow from your troubles. But I would choose the first choice any day over a life full of misery no matter how it was given. Good night.
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 2:12am UTC
Jennifer ~ HI!!

Well of course! Love any way I can get it for sure! ;)
Tabitha Cowan May 13, 2009, 2:27am UTC
Well seeing as I am married AND in love it's kinda hard to answer that question.
~Jamie W. May 13, 2009, 3:32am UTC
I would much rather be single and in love, if just given the choice of the two. But honestly, I'm still holding out for my prince to sweep me off my feet and live happily ever after together.
Edward W. May 13, 2009, 3:43am UTC
Single and in love, of course.
Hopefully, this fictitious woman is in love with me and not already married.
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 4:30am UTC
Spencer ~ Single and in love is the way to go but if one can find true love and happiness within their marriage, I feel all the better.

You've been lucky in marriage and love before and you shall be again dear friend. ;)
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 4:31am UTC
Katie ~ Single and in love ... Life is too short to spend it being miserable.
Katie R., May 12, 2009, 9:09pm EDT

You can say that again!
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 4:34am UTC
Duffy ~ in love. Married or not.
Duffy E., May 12, 2009, 9:20pm EDT

Great answer!!
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 4:38am UTC
Linda ~ Married and miserable works for me. Okay it doesn't work so well but no relationship is perfect. We have our ups and downs. I would love to be happy regardless of my relationship status.
Linda T., May 12, 2009, 9:21pm EDT

Cute answer! I'm sure my Parents could agree with you about the ups and downs after having been married for 53 years (Mar30th, 2009). Heck you'd think they were going to kill each other some days and others you'd think they were newlyweds.

I hope you continue being happy in your marriage! ;)
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 4:40am UTC
Meg ~ HI!! Long time no see around beautiful lady!
single & in love ! like Katie said.. life is too short ! why spend it being miserable with someone you don't wanna be with?
meg pattinson, May 12, 2009, 11:09pm EDT

You are so right and young enough not to make the mistakes with this love thing that some of us have when we (I) was your age...
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 4:41am UTC
Tony ~ Right answer! You have just won the million dollar question of the day!! Hip, Hip, Hooray for you. ;p
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 4:47am UTC
Elizabeth ~ Interesting...I don't know how to answer..I enjoyed being single although it got lonely, I've enjoyed being married, and sometimes not....as for being in love, well, of course that would be the ultimate, if the one you are in love with loves you back.
Elizabeth O., May 13, 2009, 1:16am EDT

Ya know it was difficult for me to answer as well. The reason? I guess because I've never really know what romantic love is. I don't guess I've ever known that insane sort of blind love that is supposedly written about in poetry. I've only heard about it. :(

I guess I have loved but whether I have been loved back is the real question. To be loved purely for you and only you and what you are all about and not about what you can bring to the table, how much money you have, what you look like on someone's arm, etc., etc, love without jealousy or rancor or hatred is the sort of love that I would love to taste just once in my lifetime.

I've had too many men in my life who think they own me and or are so insanely jealous that they can't stand for other men to look at me let alone speak to me is sick and very sad. You obviously have a bit of experience under your belt to know what it is that I am speaking of; or at least I think you do.

I hope that you find the love of your life...the one that loves you back and of course the one that we read about in all of those romance novels and poetry.

Now wouldn't that be SWEEEEEET??
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 4:50am UTC
Dan ~ Dan!! Hey, how ya doing??
From what I have seen of relationships, Single and happy is a lot more pleasurable.
Dan R., May 13, 2009, 1:18am EDT

I don't blame you. I have too many married friends who are miserable. 10% of the married couples that I know are happy. Of course I live in plastic land, Dallas so that could be the reason...who knows?
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 4:53am UTC
Phyllis ~ Hey lady! Long time no see!
Thank God, I've only been married and in love (28.5 years)! I just can not imagine living life "married and miserable" but unfortunately I am very close to one that does!!!!
Phyllis R., May 13, 2009, 1:30am EDT

Wow! Twenty eight and a half years is a long time! Great for you! I can't even fathom the thought of being with someone that long.

Too bad about your married and miserable friend. I know it can't be fun for anyone involved. :(
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 4:55am UTC
Eileen ~ From what I have seen in relationships and in long term married couples is that a lot of times one or both don't want to take the time to work things out and only want to take the easy way out. I hate seeing that as it reminds me daily of how expendable we are in our society. I wish it weren't like that but far too many more divorces over marriages it seems these days.

Thanks for your input.

Night, night.
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 4:57am UTC
Tabitha ~ I am very happy that you are married and in love! That's an ideal way to be. ;)
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 4:58am UTC
Jamie ~ Your prince in shining armor is there waiting for you and ready to sweep you off of your feet! ;)

Believe it!
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 4:59am UTC
Edward ~ Single and in love, of course.
Hopefully, this fictitious woman is in love with me and not already married.
Edward W., May 13, 2009, 3:43am EDT

The fictitious woman is alive and well and not already married...she's there, waiting for YOU! ;)
Deb J. May 13, 2009, 7:44am UTC
Definately single and in love....or even not in love than married and miserable. That's what my Mom is unfortunately!!!
David P. May 13, 2009, 8:45am UTC
Single and in love is great. I'm one who needs his freedom. I don't think I could handle marriage and being miserable. I'm very upbeat and optimistic. I never get into any arguments. Marriage could be like hell to me, but I know being single and free is like heaven. However, having a harem of beautiful women to be friends with sounds mighty good to me.
Stacey Mamasaid May 13, 2009, 9:23am UTC
I've been both and married and miserable and it definitely stinks. I'll take single and in love anytime - at least there is hope! Of course, married and in love is the best :)
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 9:53am UTC
Deb ~ Hey Deb!! Long time no see hon. I guess my feed is so darn limited, I only see the same ol' folks day in and day out and not a one that ever reads my stuff. Gosh darn it why do people ask for connections if they never ever comment on your stuff? Uh, sorry. Mini-rant there...ho hum...


Sorry to hear about your Mom's marriage being miserable. I hope things turn around for her.

(((Hugs)))
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 9:56am UTC
David ~ A harem, uhuh. Alrighty then.

Marriage doesn't mean that the love and loving is over. It means a heckuva lot more than that. Most of all it means compromise and putting the other person before yourself from time to time. It isn't easy at times but if you love each other, everything is possible.

I hope that you get your harem David. In the meantime, you have at least me. Haaa! ;)
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 13, 2009, 9:57am UTC
Stacey ~ Being married and in love IS the best you're right; if and when you find it.

Good luck to you hon!
Ruth Luce May 13, 2009, 10:51am UTC
Nothing to discuss, been married and miserable more than once, know single and miserable and there ain't no advantage that I can see in being married! No aspirations there for sure, but to be in love, AND happy I think I could learn to deal with, especially single for sure
happy..........
not miserable..............
happily single in this scenerio Esther........

but I've been happily married for 27 years now.......
I guess that if Mary hadn't been the one, I more than likely wouldn't have gone through this wedding too though........
barb n. May 13, 2009, 3:53pm UTC
I was in "love" and married, but it was horrible, eleven years of hell, I will take single, and happy any day!!! But, when you are in love, it takes work on both sides to keep that going, too many people think that being in "love" and getting "married" makes everything easy, no relationship is easy... it takes time, effort, and it also takes two people to say hey, am I going to argue over the toilet seat left up? you have to be friends I think, best friends!!!! and it takes work, not really hard work, if you both truly love each other, you just have to talk things out, no name calling and be there for each other no matter what.. did I get off the subject? sorry, I would never, never, never, never again marry someone unless we were best friends and this is where I am in a quandry, maybe this could be your next sexy question ( I love that!!!! LOL) but, I think you should live with someone for a minute, before you marry them, I mean, you have to find out if their quirks, can be cute, like, if they could deal with my bra or panties hanging up to dry on the shower, absolutely drives them nuts, or if they leave stinky socks in the middle of the floor drives me crazy, you know, you have to really KNOW someone before you get married I think... and I know that you are not supposed to do that, but, if you marry and find out that they dont do dishes, and leave the toilet seat up so that I fall in it in the middle of the night, do I want to kill them, or do I laugh and go on..... lol, sorry, I guess my answer is that I need to be happy, married or single, life is way tooooo short, as others have stated....
barb n. May 13, 2009, 3:55pm UTC
p.s. I really hate falling into the daggone toilet!!!!! My boys will probably leave the toilet seat down even when they get their own places!!!!! LOL
David P. May 13, 2009, 4:51pm UTC
Esther, you can be in my harem anytime. I can just imagine you in those skimpy outfits. Ou la la!!
Charles T. May 13, 2009, 5:52pm UTC
Been both. Since I'm happily married (and yes in love) I'll take that!
Leo Lemmer May 13, 2009, 6:12pm UTC
Whatever. It is better to be miserable alone than to be miserable because of someone else.
Jean E. May 13, 2009, 7:22pm UTC
single and in love, of course. Marriage doesn't make a person ~ happiness is much more important ~ hugs to Esther
Brad D. May 13, 2009, 9:45pm UTC
I'd rather be single and in love than married and miserable.

Luckily, I have the best of both worlds - I'm married and in love!
donna h. May 13, 2009, 9:46pm UTC
hmm have to think about this one
Missy Cline May 14, 2009, 9:03am UTC
How about happily married? but if that isnt allowed then single and in love!
Angie O. May 14, 2009, 9:45am UTC
Well I am single and looking which I hate so I guess single and in love would be a lot better.
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. May 16, 2009, 2:00pm UTC
Ruth ~ In love and happy is the BEST!

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