considered a bitch because she stands up for herself and says whats on her mind? Or is just a strong independent woman who knows what she wants in life?
This is something my son and I were just talking about this morning. He has a new girlfriend who is quite verbal. She will tell you straight out what she thinks of you, nice or not. She is also only 19, lives on her own, works two jobs and doesn't drink or do drugs. Very independent. (I like her)
My son cringes when she says things, and one of them is about the condition of his clothing. He wears baggy clothes. I, myself, do not like his clothing style himself, but I know why he does. (not for fad, it is because he hates the feeling of clothing on his body, it is to do with his OCD) He has explained that to her, but she just boo-bahs it off.
One thing about her on clothing...she only wears brand names, goes to the beauty parlor twice a week, tans five days a week and has her nails done every two weeks. She is beautiful girl, but my son is starting to think she is ugly on the inside.
So his question was what I started this post with.
I think it confuses him because I am very blunt. I tell people exactly what I am thinking, but I think I do it in a more obtuse way. He says I am not a bitch, but he don't see her in the same light as me..
so what are your thoughts?
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I am actually glad that females are responding to this. I hope a couple guys chime in also though.
Men?
She doesn't like that he dresses that way, can't understand why he won't change, he won't change and that's something she can't control, so she keeps bringing it up. Viscious circle.
I've seen a lot over the course of my jobs, and for the most part there is a double standard where men and women are concerned. A man can be forceful, blunt, and almost rude, but if he is smart and sharp, he is considered successful in the business world. People may not like him personally, but he is still respected and admired. Women who act the same way with the same level of intelligence are considered 'bitches'. They are resented by men who see them as competitors and 'castrators' and they are hated by women for the most part. I don't see this changing much. Men will always resent a woman in any kind of position of power.
On a personal basis, I like women who are straight-forward and honest and aren't game-players. That said, I don't think being rude and unfeeling towards anybody else is acceptable whether you speak plainly or circumvent the truth. There is always a way of saying things with honesty without attacking or hurting someone else.
Thanks for bringing this up - I think it deserves discussion nowadays. I was just talking to someone about the fact that the word 'feminist' seems to be thrown around at the same level as 'nazi' these days. I grew up in the 60's and 70's and saw my mothers' generation who lived under the old societal rules of 'mother and homemaker only', alongside those women who were just older than me and fighting for equality. Some people think it was a joke - just to put men down and burn bras. When you really look at what they accomplished over those decades it is amazing how far they took women out of the dark ages and almost to an equal view in the eyes of the law. Unfortunately, the conservative right has done a lot to reverse those gains lately, as has media images and icons that revert back to the slavish, sex-kitten model of earlier times. It's a real shame that young women today cannot understand and appreciate how much their mothers have worked to provide them the equal opportunities they now enjoy, but many times don't appreciate and squander.
When someone asks me hey how are ya, I always ask if they really wanna know because generic "great";s don't do it for me. When a problem is presented, I go into lets solve it mode, which turns me into a 'cold bitch' who doesn't wanna listen to hours of whining over the same shit.
The girl in question does sound like someone who is not blunt but arrogant, a I can do no wrong and know everything better than you kind of gal, which isn't necessarily a bad thing overall, it just doesn't seem to go well with what your son may be looking for in a girl?
Like Kim said, a lot of times it's now WHAT is said, but HOW it is said.
He did read all your responses and he says thank you ladies and he agrees.
It just took one more push to set him off...he did like having her as eye candy in front of his friends.
A slut will sleep with anyone, a bitch will sleep with anyone but you :)