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Today is the big day -- my son sees his dad for the first time in about 5 years

April 04, 2009 01:45 PM EDT (Updated: April 04, 2009 01:46 PM EDT)
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Well today is the big day.

My son is going to see his biological father for the first time in about 5 years. He hasn't been with his dad alone since he was 2 and Alex will turn 8 in a few months and the last time he saw him it was during an 'observation' visit at our parenting study. The counselor who was doing our parenting study wanted to observe his dad's parenting skills with Alex and that was when Alex was a little over 3 years old. That was the last time they were together.

So today at 11:30 the visit starts. I bring Alex in to the building at one end and Ray comes in the other. The Building Blocks staff takes Alex back to one of their playrooms and Ray will be waiting for him there. Everything is monitored and recorded... in fact there can't even be any whispering. Alex is really excited about meeting his dad, which is promising, but I'm so worried about everything. This first visit will last just an hour long but the next visits will be 2 hours each - they'll happen every weekend.

So ... please send good thoughts our way. This is a HUGE event for us... something that we never thought we'd have to do since it seemed like Ray was out of our lives forever.

:o)

~ Faith

 

P.S. In case you want to read the history of this story:

04.02.09 - My life is full of accidents

03.20.09 - Well, I had to go to court...

02.13.09 - An Update on my upcoming court appearance...

02.13.09 - I've been ordered to appear in court...

07.18.07 - I am a survivor of domestic violence

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Comments: 28

Rae M. Apr 4, 2009, 1:48pm EDT
That is huge. I hope your son has a good visit with his father.
Lisa B. Apr 4, 2009, 1:48pm EDT
I'll keep you guys in my thoughts today. I hope the visit goes well and that Alex comes away from this experience happy. Please let us know how it goes.
Sherry W. Apr 4, 2009, 1:48pm EDT
Hoping for the best, Faith.
Kelly K ~ ready for the New Year ~ Apr 4, 2009, 2:08pm EDT
prayers being said for you all.
hugs =)
Ashley M. Apr 4, 2009, 2:16pm EDT
I hope everything works out well for you and your son.
carolyn b. Apr 4, 2009, 2:39pm EDT
Oh, Faith, I'm sure everything will be alright, your name says it all, just have Faith!
What a big day. I hope it goes well for your son & that it is a good meeting.
Jessica S. Apr 4, 2009, 2:49pm EDT
wow! that IS a big day! i hope everything goes well!
Sophie S. Apr 4, 2009, 2:52pm EDT
Sending those positive vibes. I'll have to catch up on the reading since I have missed the last two or so of your posts on this.
J F. Apr 4, 2009, 2:57pm EDT
Hope it works out for everyone.
Sharon R. Apr 4, 2009, 3:03pm EDT
You and Alex are in my prayers.
I wish I could work something out for my grandson - but his mother refuses.
As long as the dad owes child support she refuses visitation.
They too, live only 15 minutes apart.
They have not seen each other for about 5 years... my grandson is 14.
He has so much rage built up against his mother, but she can't see it.
Her words are always "your dad is a no good loser deadbeat and you're going to grow up to be just like him."
And then she wonders why this super intelligent child gets Fs on his report card. Yes his dad dropped out in the 9th grade. But people make mistakes - we shouldn't keep emphasizing them and using them for our own selfish means.
I pray daily. I have my grandson for Spring Break, you don't know how hard it is to keep my nose out and not do something that could cause big problems with my dauther. Some days I am so torn.
Amy just hangin' out M. Apr 4, 2009, 3:04pm EDT
we went through something similar to this last year with my ex. it had been over 3 years since my daughter had even heard from him. my prayers are with all of you today.
♥ Adair ♥ K. Apr 4, 2009, 3:50pm EDT
My prayers are with you. I hope all goes well.
Heather ~of the Whippets~ M. Apr 4, 2009, 4:02pm EDT
I hope things work out for you and your son. It is unfortunate that his father is being thrust back into your lives.
Ang, wandering aimlessly, G. Apr 4, 2009, 4:29pm EDT
Wow, sounds like Alex is going through some big stuff today. You guys will be in my thoughts and prayers. Let us know how it turns out.

I have court in a couple of weeks and not looking forward to it.
Stacey *Mamasaid* D. Apr 4, 2009, 4:31pm EDT
Faith, my prayers are with you and your son.
White light and love headed his way (and yours). I'm sure all will be well.
Maryjo E. Apr 4, 2009, 4:45pm EDT
God bless him I pray he does good I'm also going thought this with my son right now ... Its scary but God will see it thou ... Hugs Mj
Larry H. Apr 4, 2009, 4:56pm EDT
HOPE THE VISIT GOES WELL THANKS FOR THE UPDATE..
Janet H. Apr 4, 2009, 5:00pm EDT
I hope all will go well.
Dagmara H. Apr 4, 2009, 9:06pm EDT
I hope it all works good
Linda T. Apr 4, 2009, 11:44pm EDT
Hope the visit went well. I am glad that Alex was excited. It would be so much harder for everyone if he was upset about it.
Sandy (back in Ohio...blah!) Apr 5, 2009, 7:44pm EDT
Oh This is a big event in both your lifes...scary to.
Also...........I forgot to mention on your previous article, I absolutely love the fact that Ray thinks he can BUY Alex's love and acceptance. I love that he thinks that treats and presents will make up for a five year absence and I really hope that Building Blocks notes in your case file that this is Ray's mentality!
Beth - Doing God's work Daily J. Apr 6, 2009, 8:34pm EDT
Good luck on the visit.
Andrea (Ms. Conservative) L. Apr 7, 2009, 12:58pm EDT
Stopping by to say
Jean Herby Apr 28, 2009, 12:23am EDT
I too am grandmother in a tough situation. My daughter and her ex-husband can’t get along. It is hard on my granddaughter. My daughter talks bad about dad to my granddaughter and it really hurts her. He wasn’t a great husband, but he is a great dad. She has tried to keep my granddaughter from seeing him because of her feelings for him. I just feel awful for my granddaughter. She is 12 years old and has a hard time because she loves both of her parents. Jim brought her presents because he was so happy to finally get to see her. He has missed all of the holidays with her for the past three years. Things are going better lately for my granddaughter. She is so happy to be able to spend time with her dad. Children need a relationship with both parents if at all possible. I pray that things will be good and work out for the best for your little Alex.
Shannon W Jul 18, 2009, 3:41pm EDT
I'm glad it went ok.

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