by Rae M.
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April 13, 2008

I Had To Call The Pinciple Today

March 31, 2009 06:15 PM UTC
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My middle child is in Junior High School, 6th grade to be exact.  He was barely old enough to enter kindergarten back at that time, but his preschool teacher felt he was ready, so he is probably one of the youngest 6th graders in his school and at the age he is he could easily be a 5th grader.  So he is probably a little less mature than most of the kids in his grade level.  He is also not very athletic. 

There has been a kid picking on him pretty much all year long.  He has been making fun of and teasing my son about his lack of athletic ability.  My son would come home once a week telling me some nasty thing this kid said to him, and was even harrassing him in the locker room, and even said somthing sexually inappropriate to my son.  After that incident my son went to the principle and told him.  The child was talked to and the verbal abuse stopped for a week or so, but soon started back up again. The verbal stuff did not bother me as much because I know my son said some things to this boy as well, mostly in defense, but occasionally my son would try to joke around with the kid.  My husband and I have told my son to not even talk to the kid and to ignore him, but my son can not seem to manage that.  

So today my son tried to joke around with this kid again, and the kid rammed into him with his shoulder and then punched him in the stomach.  And while I know my son should just not even try to talk to this kid, this kid had no right to hit him.  None of the teachers saw this, only one other kid saw it.  This other kid told my son to tell on him and that he would back him up, as this bully picks on that kid as well.  Apparently he picks on all the smaller kids. 

Principle was really nice and said he would talk to the boy and my son tomorrow, and if he ever touches my son again  or any one for that matter serious displinary measures will be taken. 

I am just hoping things will get better after this and not worse. 

Comments: 31

DIANE D. Mar 31, 2009, 6:17pm UTC
So sorry to hear this~
Shannon W Mar 31, 2009, 6:17pm UTC
I hope it will get better for your son too. It's heartbreaking to think of what can happen to our kids at school by a bully.
.* Sandi * Mar 31, 2009, 6:20pm UTC
I hope it will get better for your son
My teen had a lot of trouble in middle school by just the same type of kid. Even down to the sexually suggestive comments that would make my son very upset. We eventually went to the principal, the boys' father, and even the local police. My son was labeled the bad guy even though his entire class backed him up that he was receiving this abuse. My son held his head high, went back to the same school/class the following year, then about a month later told them all (nicely) where they could go because we were moving south. He learned how to handle himself when he became the 'new' kid and did very well. I don't know if it was worth all the pain he went through, but he did turn out wonderfully now.
Shaunee C. Mar 31, 2009, 6:26pm UTC
I hope things gert better for your son.
Poliwonk USA Mar 31, 2009, 6:28pm UTC
DO NOT let up! You must make sure the Bullys parents know as well. A Just get along chat is not sufficient. If the principle does not call the bullys parents then you should. We had a similar issue with my son in Fourth grade. We knew the mom, and when she found out what her son did, she almost fainted. This kid has never messed with my son again, and when another kid was giving my son a bad time, this year (6th grade), the first kid told him to leave my son alone.
Karen A. Mar 31, 2009, 6:29pm UTC
I hope things work out for your son. Sounds like you are on top of the situation. Middle school is the roughest time for kids.
Holly K. Mar 31, 2009, 6:29pm UTC
I'm sorry to hear this. It seems to me that the Principal should be taking serious disciplinary action this time - not waiting for it to happen again.
Renee S. Mar 31, 2009, 6:33pm UTC
I'm sorry your son is going through this. Document everything! Most schools are now getting or have some kind of anti-bullying programs and/or policies.
Marci M. Mar 31, 2009, 6:35pm UTC
Thats got to be tough for your son. I hope things work out soon.
Chris E. Mar 31, 2009, 6:36pm UTC
I hope it all works out. If not I suggest you talk to the parent too.
Meagan T. Mar 31, 2009, 6:41pm UTC
Sorry to hear about that hope things get better
Jo N. Mar 31, 2009, 6:48pm UTC
I hate to hear that because my daughter went through alot of that before I started homeschooling her and when she would tell the teacher, the teacher would punish her for being a tattle tell. I really hope that you get it worked out okay for your son though, it sounds like the principal is going to try to get something worked out at least.
Ms Lee P. Mar 31, 2009, 6:51pm UTC
I'm so sorry he has to go through this. I too hope it gets better. Tell him to hang in there because he'll get older and bigger an eventually and out grow the bully.
Winona (the crazy rat lady) Mar 31, 2009, 6:54pm UTC
Sorry your son is having to put up with that. Hopefully between your son and the other kids testimony something will be done to keep this bully in his place.
Debby C. Mar 31, 2009, 6:54pm UTC
hope things get straightened out before anymore problems occur
Marilyn M. Mar 31, 2009, 6:55pm UTC
Kids can be so cruel.
Gather Rocks Mar 31, 2009, 7:04pm UTC
jr high is rough, but he had no right to hit him.
timi A. Mar 31, 2009, 8:42pm UTC
We've been trying to stop bullying in school for a while now and i feel some parents are still not doing their job.

I feel for your son and i hope things get better soon.Regards to your son.
Christine G. Mar 31, 2009, 9:26pm UTC
Hope things get better soon.
tammie p. Mar 31, 2009, 9:54pm UTC
how terrible. i hope things get better soon too for him
Risa G. Mar 31, 2009, 10:34pm UTC
I've been through this a million times. You have to talk to the parents - even if they are in denial about their son. The school will do anything they can to fix the problem because they don't want a lawsuit. My son used to get in trouble for doing practically nothing and the school even suspended him for 6 days for trying to stop a distracting kid from bothering the class. He hit him with a book. Instead of the kid who started it being sent out of the room and to the principal, my son was sent to the principal. When he explained himself, they thought he was malicious and sent him home for 6 days!

So I would talk to the parents about what their child has been doing and I would get some of the other kids to back up your claims.

In 1st grade my son was being chased by 2-12 year olds. He was being picked on by them too. I put a note under the mothers door and she came to visit me with her son. He lied right in front of me and told me that maybe my son was lying. I told him that my son didn't lie (at that age he didn't) and that I wanted the harrassment to stop. The mother said she would ask the other kids. She did and she never got back to me. I knew why because my son was telling the truth. Your sons friends will back him up. Have the boys parents call around to speak to the other kids that are in the room every day. That is my one big piece of advice.

Until this year, my son was being picked on mercilessly. I went through years and years of bullying. Finally he is maturing and all the kids like him this year. I'm thrilled.

Good luck.
Darin Waugh Apr 1, 2009, 4:21am UTC
I always hated bullies growing up, I use to protect other kids from bullies, I kind of matured faster than most kids my age, so I didn't get messed with, plus I started martial arts at twelve years old.
Bullies really annoy the heck out of me. I am glad you went to the principal about it.
I know my daughter was picked on alot last year. mainly because she was the only white kid in her class. Not many white kids went to her school. Yes, color was a big factor as my daughter was being called racist names as well. When I went to the principal about it. She stuck up for the bullies. Until I mention my daughter would learn a few words and I dared them to punish her when they would do nothing to stop the bullying of my daughter. Well, that must of got their attention because the bulling stopped.
Jodie C. Apr 1, 2009, 11:49am UTC
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Heather M. Apr 1, 2009, 3:09pm UTC
Unfortunately, this will continue. Yes, the principal will scold the kid; he will behave for a few days. Then, it will be back to the same routine. The only thing that would actually stop him is for your son to turn around and knock his teeth down his throat, because that is the only language bullies ever understand.
Nikki S. Apr 1, 2009, 3:10pm UTC
sending good thoughts your way
Marsha C. Apr 1, 2009, 4:48pm UTC
Just letting you know your content has reached 25 comments and has therefore been removed from ~3,000 Here We Come!~
Abby N. Apr 9, 2009, 6:50pm UTC
Happy Easter and thanks for posting to Image Points group! :)
Tara C. May 1, 2009, 9:53pm UTC
Sounds like the kid should have already been suspended for trying to start a fight!

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