by Ang, wandering aimlessly, G.
Member since:
September 10, 2006

My daughter and daycare...so far not so good...

March 25, 2009 09:55 AM EDT
views: 85 | comments: 16

Last week my daughter had to start going to the daycare where I work because dad is no longer home to keep her while I work.

I've been having a rough time with her, she hates going there.  I really don't blame her but my only other option is quitting and right now we need to get back on our feet. 

Every morning she has a meltdown begging me not to make her go!! I know its cause the teacher is kind of rough and loud (no not rough like hitting the kids just rough around the edges). We have a lot of kids at that daycare that don't know how to listen even school age kids so the teacher does yell quite often.  This is probably one of the worst daycare centers that I have ever worked at!

I don't know what I should do.  Should I quit and stay at home with her or make her go with me until we get back on our feet.  I know I won't be working there this summer, its just not an option for me!  So that only leaves about 2 months left with her going. 

I would let her come in my room and stay with me but state law says she can't because of the age difference in the kids.  You can only have them so many months apart and well my daughter is 7 and my two rooms that I float between are the babies and the 2 year olds. That is just too much of a difference.

Any advice? 

 

 

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Comments: 16

Katie Scarlett (Site Bouncer Wanna Be) O. Mar 25, 2009, 10:03am EDT
I would try to talk and reason with her and explain that it will only be for a short time more. I know she hates it and that makes you feel bad, but Mom, sometimes the best lessons we learn are the ones we dislike the most. It will be a character building experience for her to learn to tolerate it. It's not like she's in an abusive situation, she just doesn't like it. It may be to both your benefit if she understands, even a little.
Brittney R. Mar 25, 2009, 10:08am EDT
If you know you're not going to be there much longer anyway, and you need to work, she just might have to tough it out.

I don't know how hard it is to see her that upset, because I've never been in that situation. Sit her down and explain to her that you don't have a choice. Right now you have to work, but it won't be for much longer, and she would be helping you and dad out by being a good sport and going to work with you. Maybe make a compromise with her...if she can make it the next few months without any trouble, you and dad will treat her to something special (within reason of course, LOL!) of her choice.
Karen M. Mar 25, 2009, 10:08am EDT
If she is not in any iminent danger, I would make her hang in there. She is going to have to deal with many types of adverse situations in life and at least this one you can monitor. Call it character building 101...Good luck !
Elaine B. Mar 25, 2009, 10:12am EDT
I agree with Katie.
Nora Davenport Mar 25, 2009, 10:30am EDT
Is there maybe another daycare close by that you could take her to, if she hates that one so bad? That must be a really tough situation for you, but if she's so dead set against it, the situation could just get worse.
Good luck!
Priscilla (wishing I was in Costa Rica) ~. Mar 25, 2009, 11:04am EDT
I agree with Katie & Brittany~
Chris E. Mar 25, 2009, 11:32am EDT
I agree with Katie too.
Marianne R. Mar 25, 2009, 12:05pm EDT
I think you've already been given good advice.
Renee S. Mar 25, 2009, 12:31pm EDT
I agree with the suggestions given. Try to explain the situation to her and that it won't be for that much longer.
Sandy (back in Ohio...blah!) Mar 25, 2009, 2:59pm EDT
I think you have been given some good suggestions. My question to you is if you were a single mom and had no other choice for her to go how would you handle this? I know you are not a single mom but thinking that way can help you come up with a way to deal with your daughter. I do know first hand that some kids do not handle sudden changes real well at all and will bulk or resist them. It sounds like that with your daughter. Good luck and let us know how it turns out.

By the way in my opinion, if you quit just because she doesn't like it. You are setting yourself up for trouble down the road later.
Sue * Mar 25, 2009, 5:47pm EDT
As long as you know she is safe, I would continue to take her. Once she realizes that she isn't going to win the battle, she will adapt.
JoAnn C. Mar 25, 2009, 8:54pm EDT
Looks like you got some good advice.
The Red Headed Witch of Gather G. Mar 29, 2009, 1:50pm EDT
I hope it works out sweetie
Janet Somewhere Up On The Mount May 9, 2009, 9:33am EDT
You got some good advice up there.
Hope it worked out.
Tiffany G. May 12, 2009, 11:03am EDT
well it sounded like from your coment on my post that this job will be ending Friday.. I am guessing thats a good thing.. I wish you all the best of luck getting back on yuor feet!!!
Deborah R. May 24, 2009, 5:19pm EDT

I hope that everything has worked out for you and your family.

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