by Gene P.
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November 11, 2008

Police send warning letters to wives of prostitutes' clients

March 23, 2009 04:15 PM EDT
views: 445 | rating: 10/10 (19 votes) | comments: 30

Soon wives could receive letters from the Escambia County Sheriff's Department letting them know when their husbands are arrested for soliciting prostitutes.

"I don't think it's people's right to do that. I really don't," said Trishanne LaFreniere, a woman who opposes the letter.

"She has the right to know," said Laurie Thuma, who likes the idea of alerting wives. "This impacts her on many levels, including her health."

Even the men in Escambia County can't seem to agree whether or not the letter is a good idea.

Read the full story at 9news.com

I think this is a good idea.  It would suck if your husband is bringing home STD's and you don't even know about it.  Don't be fooling around with prostitutes if you don't want your wife getting angry.

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Comments: 30

Lori S. Mar 23, 2009, 4:20pm EDT
I agree!
LEЯA © Politcally Incorrect M. Mar 23, 2009, 4:21pm EDT
Oh ... I looove the idea of sending them a letter. In fact, there use to be a county that published their pictures on a website along with the hookers who were arrested. The guys must have been drunk to have touched those skanks.

I think there faces should be published in the newspapers.
t w. Mar 23, 2009, 4:22pm EDT
They should sent out letters to the wives/ girlfriends
Tammy N. Mar 23, 2009, 4:23pm EDT
I'm torn.... I think it is a serious health issue for the wife and she should be told... but on the other hand, it seems like it is an invasion of privacy. What happens to unmarried men, do they send a "tattle-tale" letter to their mothers so they can be equally embarrassed? Seems like unfair justice.

Maybe the answer is having the police blog printed in the local newspaper. That should be fair warning... and a deterrent. Maybe if "johns" thought their wife, girlfriends, mothers, employers, etc would find out... they would stop the (alledged) illegal behavior.
adam w. Mar 23, 2009, 4:27pm EDT
Great idea. Lots of diseases out there and the partner has a right to know and the ability to get a medical check up.
juley g. Mar 23, 2009, 4:30pm EDT
I think it is a great idea!
Andrea H. Mar 23, 2009, 4:35pm EDT
great idea!
David C. Mar 23, 2009, 4:39pm EDT
It's a good idea only if the "John" has actually been convicted of a crime. I have read from other cities that names get published on a county website before someone is convicted and the person is eventually found not guilty. You can't take it back once it's out there.
RJ H. Mar 23, 2009, 4:43pm EDT
I love this idea!
Kimber L. Mar 23, 2009, 4:56pm EDT
I think it is a great idea - if they don't want their wives to know they shouldn't be doing it in the first place
Susan V. Mar 23, 2009, 5:24pm EDT
Good Idea!
Bryan "That 80's Dude" B. Mar 23, 2009, 5:26pm EDT
I personally think they (the guys or girls, and yes there are women, that go to prostitutes) and are caught, should be registered as sex offenders. If what they do is a sexual offense, shouldnt they be required to?
Debby O. Mar 23, 2009, 5:41pm EDT
It's about time!
Μόףףý ● ķ ~ Mar 23, 2009, 5:53pm EDT
I think its an awesome idea.
Samantha V. Mar 23, 2009, 6:52pm EDT
I think wives or husbands either one, should get letters if their spouse is caught "visiting" prostitutes. This is a major deal, and if the guys dont' want their wives finding out, then don't do it....
Renee S. Mar 23, 2009, 7:33pm EDT
That could make for an interesting discussion after receiving one of those!
julie b. Mar 23, 2009, 8:15pm EDT
I do not think sending a letter is an appropriate way to communicate unfaithfulness in a marriage.
Patty Mayonaise Mar 23, 2009, 8:17pm EDT
its a great idea, the wives need to know what their husbands are doing!
Beverly T. Mar 23, 2009, 10:12pm EDT
Heck! don't ask the men, of COURSE they don't think it's a good idea!! Duh!! Bravo, if they go ahead and send the wives those letters. It could save lots of lives. Think of the hell an unborn child could go through if there was an STD involved. Think of the misery the wife would go through. It's all called "natural consequences," and I'm all for it.

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Dorothy H. Mar 23, 2009, 10:59pm EDT
I think their names should be published in the paper with pictures, just so they are properly I.D.'d. Yes. It's a big health risk to the spouse of an offender.
Alan D. Mar 23, 2009, 11:18pm EDT
Why is prostitution illegal?
DesertDarlene L. Mar 23, 2009, 11:26pm EDT
I know that in Africa, AIDS was spread around because the husband had mistresses when he traveled. I remember seeing a story where a man was told by a doctor that he had AIDS but he absolutely did not want to tell his wife about the disease. That was horribly unfair to her and their children. I think the wives should know if this is happening with their husbands so, at least, they can take precautions.
Heather C. Mar 23, 2009, 11:34pm EDT
Great idea. I think all spouses should know when their mates are cheating.
Tina K. Mar 24, 2009, 7:45am EDT
I agree! It IS a great idea! Many men have the attitude that what their wives don't know won't hurt them. WRONG!!! Sometimes when they DO find out, it is too late to do anything about what hurt them! Kudos to that police department!
Devin Barber Mar 24, 2009, 11:37am EDT
My city broadcast photos of "johns" on our local public access channel. The problem was that nobody watched the public access channel. But that didn't stop a guy whose face was broadcast on TV from suing the city after he was acquitted. I agree that anyone has the right to know if someone they are intimate with is engaginging in sex with other partners. But this goes a lot farther than prostitution. This kind of treatment fo individuals who are accused of but not convicted of crimes is very dangerous territory. Innocent people have been brutally murdered because they had been "accused."
LeeAnn D. Mar 24, 2009, 12:30pm EDT
Love this idea, too. That said, one can get STD's from anyone. Not just from prostitutes. There are so many different types of STD's out there. A person can be a carrier and never show symptoms. The nicest appearing woman or man can be carrying them. One never knows.

Darlene...That's only a small fraction of why AIDS is so prevelant in Africa. Lack of resources and education is a big factor.
ALSO.....Many African's still believe in the Sangoma's treatments for illnesses. Sangoma's are our version of witch doctors. They say that having sex with a virgin will cure AIDS. Thus one reason for so many children and INFANTS with AIDS. They have sex with as many virgins as they can in belief they will be cured. Spreading the disease.
Julie Ann Dawson Mar 24, 2009, 12:50pm EDT
I don't think that prostitution should be illegal to begin with. So...what...if a guy pays for it, it is OK for the government to violate his privacy, but if he gets it for free then its nobody's business?

The government should not be regulating the sex lives of citizens. Differentiating between paid sex and free sex is a ridiculous notion to begin with. This is not about the wife's right to know. It's about having a completely different set of rules for one small portion of the population just because you don't agree with the morality.

There is enough real crime out there that I don't want police resources (which are already stretched thin) to be wasted on providing ammunition for divorce lawyers.
Jeannie B. Mar 24, 2009, 1:59pm EDT
The wives do have a right to know, but just the accusation isn't enough to jeopardize the men involved. The letter shouldn't be sent unless, and until, the man is found guilty.
Julie Ann Dawson Mar 24, 2009, 3:58pm EDT
The wives do have a right to know

But is it the government's job to do so?
And why are only wives granted this special right? What about girlfriends? Or same-sex partners?
Why does the "wife" have the legal right to have the government inform her of her husband having sex with a prostitute, but not if he just has an affair?
Amber C. Mar 27, 2009, 10:59pm EDT
It is an excellent idea. It isn't fair. I don't care what people might say about the men's rights. A woman has the right to know her husband might be bringing home a death warrant called AIDS, or just something that will never be cured, like herpes.

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