If you read my post yesterday about my one of my 5 year old son's preschool teacher's getting on my nerves, you knowI am already pretty upset with this woman. Today I have even more reason to be upset with her.
My son had a pair of Diego mittens, but he lost one of them. The only other lttle glove that is small enough to fit him is a plain black glove but two unmatching gloves are better then no gloves right? So the kids got to play outside today on the little play ground, and someone found my son's Diego mitten and brought to the teacher in question. She must have asked whose glove it is and my son said that it was his. She told him that it was not his. Now he can be a persistant guy when he wants to be and he insisted that it was his.
When I went to pick him up the nicer teacher walked him to the car and was carrying the mitten. She asked me if it was his, and I said yes, and explained about the lost mitten and the mismatched gloves and she understood, and gave me the mitten.
After my son was secured, and all the doors were closed and we started to drive away my son said, "Mrs. C was really mean she told me my Deigo glove was not mine, I told her it was mine and she said it wasn't mine, she is mean."
On top of everything else, I have just about had it with this woman. Why would my son lie and say a mitten was his if it wasn't? The fact that she outright told him that it was not his is just rediculas, and the fact that he said she was mean, I have never heard my son talk that way about anyone.
The last thing I want to do is cause someone to lose their job, and I hate to complain about anyone, but I can not have her being mean to my son. I know I have to complain now, but I am not really the kind of person that complains. I have to decide if I want to confront her or go over her head to the school's director. I am thinking the right thing to do is comfront her as I don't like going over people's heads.
I know I have to do something now, but I just need to decide how to handle this. I could let my husband deal with it, but if I let him loose on her she may never recover, LOL, when provoked he is not nice like I am.
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Comments: 23
Perhaps you could coach the conversation in a way that won't be like you want to see her face the firing squad in the morning. LOL
"I am not quite sure why you may have disbelieved my son when he answered your question truthfully but if you are ever in doubt, please call me. I know he can be head-strong but when he does act that way, it's because he strongly defending himself against someone who doesn't seem to hear him. Even though he is 5 years old, he still deserves to be respected and honored."
"Your job is a tough one trying to understand ---(# of kids) in your class but please try to understand how a parent feels when her child has been hurt by a comment from an adult."
Good luck.
You definitely need to have someone else there and have what you want to say all planned out. It's very easy to get emotionally upset when we feel like our children are being abused. Don't address the glove problem alone. The nicer teacher very likely told her it was his, especially since she apparently believed your son. The far worse problem is the continued negativity. I'd choose the nicer teacher as a witness.
I think you seriously need to re-think going over this person's head over such a minor issue. Especially without bothering to take time out to speak to the woman in the first place. In your other post you griped about things you don't like about this woman, but you didn't mention having ever spoken to her about your concerns. Now, going over her head to complain to a superior without first voicing your concerns & trying for a compromise or resolution first is not an adult, polite, reasonable thing to do.
Just my opinion!! :)