Child issues - bleck!

ugh. I'm a homeschooler and my oldest daughter, Bethany, age 7, attends a homeschool P.E. program. She goes for 3 hours every Monday and LOVES it.  However, over the last few months she's coming home telling me about issues with one particular girl. I'll call the girl "C."  Anyway, the first issue was that the girl called her a "dumb-butt."  Now, we don't allow name calling, but I know many kids are allowed (or not disciplined for doing so).  So, we talked to Bethany about it and explained again that not all moms & dads are concerned with name calling, but that we feel it is never acceptable and that she should simply ask C to please not call her names.  So, that seemed to blow over easily.  But then I've been hearing other instances about C trying to boss her around, yelling at her for making mistakes in the games, or telling her to shut up when Bethany is  just trying to be friendly with her.  We had suggested that Bethany just continue to be nice and maybe C would come around.

Well, today when I picked Bethany up she asked me if I had put a Capri Sun juice in her lunchbox today. I said no, that I had put the Minute Maid in. She said that's what she thought. So, I asked her why. She said that after their snack break she had zipped up her lunch bag and put it away. When I came to pick her up and she got it, it was all wet. so, she opened it thinking the freezer pack had leaked or something. But, instead she found an open capri sun juice pouch that was either upside down or sideways and had leaked all over.  Now, her lunch bag is one that not only zips, but has a flap over the zipper too, so it would be hard to accidently stuff it in the wrong bag. And my daughter is very meticulous when it comes to closing stuff up like that, so I know it was closed.  Bethany's immediate response was "C did it because she hates me."  Hate is another word not allowed in our house, at least in reference to people.

So, I've had to email the head coach to see what's going on.  My daughter is the kid who befriends everyone she meets and goes out of her way to get people to relax around her and be friends with  her. I've never seen another child continually be nasty to her because she just continues to be nice no matter what. So, I'm at a loss as to how to deal with this, especially when I'm not there to see first-hand what is going on. And, yes, I guess I expect a bit more from these other kids as they are all from Christian homes with parents who homeschool so they are around them all the time.

Anyway, will have to wait and see what happens from here. Bethany was adamant that I not talk to the coaches at the place they meet because she was afraid C would see it and that it would cause more problems. But they have to watch for it because if C is like this with my daughter, I'm sure she is like this with other kids too.

Ugh..I forgot how cruel kids can be to each other...