Karma is always there. Some of us call it luck, others fate, others faith. Although, I beleive in God, I do not believe he directs every aspect of our lives. I do beleive that a lot of what happens to us is do to Karma.
Irony of Karma is that you get twice as much as you give. Everytime! If you are helpful, joyous in the assistance, and willing to give when the time comes that you need assistance there are many people who are willing, joyous and ready to assist. I think I have some awesome Karma! I have 6 friends that no matter what happens to me they are there and ready to pull my rear out of the fire. But the cost in return is that I must be willing to sit through theirs.
The best example of Karma coming to bit you in the arse happened recently. My friend, Ferr, has a husband who works out of town on the gas lines. They have been together for 5 years married 3 of them, until recently very happily married. She stayed home, cared for her daughter and his son during visits. Paid the bills, kept the house spotless, cooked for him when he was at home, made sure there were always cold beer in the fridge, just in case he showed up early. Life was going great, until October. He was home and as she stated it "just different". There was a picture of a lady in his truck, the daughter of a coworker who rode with him frequently. Nothing to question, as he did ride with an older gentleman, who did have a daughter around our age.
Thanksgiving comes around, the three of them are waiting on him to show up. They spent Thanksgiving day by themselves, that Friday and Saturday as well. Hours prior to his son having to go home he shows up, shares a quick dinner, then gets a phone call from work and then has to get back to the Panhandle area as they have a full work load. All of this is quite common in the industry, but the normally do make time for the family holidays.
He doesn't show up for Christmas or her birthday but sends special notes. Then shortly after her birthday in January, there are rumors going around about him living with another women. She asks him about it, he tells her flat out that it's lies, she must learn to trust him if they are to make it during his absent. She agree and backed off. After all there was no extra spending, no unexplained missing money. The paychecks were still coming in, he has been staying in the workbunk house, nothing else is amiss, and it was only rumor. We all know how rumor can spread and get exaggerated as it moves forward. He hasn't been calling as often but that's because he has been working so much.
No show for Valentines, not even a phone call, those are getting to be less and less and is working more and more. Then a coworkers wife calls Ferr. This coworker and his wife had some serious marital trouble a few years ago, but they've worked it out on the condition that he never lie to her again. He was caught living with another women while working out of town. This couple had stood up and witness the wedding. The wife asked her husband for the truth, and told him to lie would put their relationship in jeapordy. Ferr's husband had been living with another women since October, her husband informed her. She relayed the information to Ferr. But still she did not want to throw away a marriage on "rumor" even if it was a little more reliable.
So she called lawyers in the area he was working to see if they could referr her to a PI. The first one she called, she explained the situation and what her request was. The lady asked for his name, Ferr stated she wasn't ready to go to the lawyer just wanted reference to a PI. The lady stated "Then let me ask you is his name ---- who works for ----". Ferr was floored how could she know... "yes" she responded. The lady happened to be the best friend of the lady that was currently living with Ferr's husband. "He claims that you are crazy, dated for a short while but trying to claim common law marriage. Do you have any proof." she asked of Ferr. "Yes, what do you wnat? Marriage certificate, joint bank accounts, or joint bills?" responded Ferr. "Anything you have".
Ferr faxed over copies of everything showing their names on it. Everything was forwarded on to the "girlfriend" Now we just sit and wait to see what happens next.