I received papers in the mail today about a case plan and it states that the permanancy plan is for "Adoption placement"... Now that outright scares me, as a mommy, I have went to all my visits. To all of you that do not know, Walter and I are no longer together (prefer not to go into details), but Walter and I talked last night and from what I understood, things have been slow on his case and they are being slow on my case too. It also states a date for adoption. I can't believe this.... Sighs. I'm sure the father will see this article. I'm not sure if as of yet he got papers, but let's put it this way; DCS dropped his attorney.
I'm going to call my attorney here soon and find out what is going on...
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i hope things can be fixed
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For example... I have my own custody thing that I'm going through but our situation is treated by the judge totally different than yours.
I filed a restraining order on my ex when our son was 2 and I got full custody immediately, then retained it all through our 2 year custody battle. We went through intense parenting studies and everything and it was proven that our son should be with ME and the dad needed to do a ton of things in order to start seeing him again. He never did a THING to see him that whole time and now our son is almost 8.
Suddenly he sends in a letter to the courts a few months ago asking to see him, still not completing anything he needs to do and the court is actually considering it? Why don't they just automatically tell him that he's required to do things and until he does those things, he's plum out of luck? He hasn't done anything at all to show that he's capable of being a parent and they're actually giving him a chance to see him?
It's the total opposite of what is going on with you so that is why I say the system is weird. I mean, YOU have been doing everything you're supposed to do but they're going to put her up for adoption?
HOWEVER, before any child can have an adoption plan, the bio parent has to fail the State's requirements. And, then, the State either publishes in a newspaper a request for a birthparent to come forward (in the case of one fleeing the law...maybe on a probation violation)...or serves papers for them to appear in court for a "termination of parental rights."
I wonder if you are confused and need to speak with the caseworker or your attorney.
In Oregon, a child cannot be placed for adoption until the parents' rights are terminated by the court...and that takes a great deal. Call and get support so you are informed as to what you can do and why this is happening.
Today is the very first day of the rest of your life.
How will you spend it?
I've been gone for quite some time, looks like I need to catch up.
Good luck!!!
Definatley talk to your lawyer.....
You're in my thoughts.