I’ve heard it said, and no doubt you have too, that to write emotion you first have to feel it. Author blogs and writing books will tell you all sorts of things. Write what you know, write what you love, and write what you feel. These are all true statements in so far as they go. It’s how we understand those statements and what they mean, and how to apply them that the trouble starts.
I think there is a mistaken assumption about writing emotional impact into our writing. What it is and what it’s not.
I can write about fear because I know what fear feels like. It doesn't mean I have to feel my heart racing, have clammy hands, and hyperventilate as I'm writing the scene. I know what anger feels like too, and what makes me angry, but because I am choosing to put my characters in an emotional situation of anger or fear doesn’t mean I’m feeling those emotions as I write. You see what I mean?
As a writer, I'm ultimately the narrator carrying the story from point A to point Z. To do that, I have to be able to keep my wits about me. I have to keep my goals clearly in mind, which means I can’t get bogged down in emotion as I’m writing. Look at it this way, a writer is dealing with a set of people going through various situations, having problems, facing heartbreak, making love, laughing, anger and fear—the gamut of emotions. As narrator of this group’s story I have to be able to relay everything clearly. I have to stay removed from the situation to be focused. Otherwise I’ll go off in a tangent or lose the thread of where my story and characters are going.
I’m rather clinical as I write certain scenes. In that sense I’m the observer as well as narrator. I equate it to being a therapist. Therapists hear the most heartbreaking details of people’s lives. While they have to have compassion and understanding for their patient, they also have to remain detached to effectively do their job.
Knowing what an emotion feels like, gives us a base from which to write emotion for our characters. Our characters have to be real not only to our readers but to us. They have to act and react realistically. As we write, we put our characters (or they put themselves), into certain settings/situations. Much of the inner conflict for our characters is about them facing their fears. So we produce external conflicts in our story so they have to face those internal demons.
For example, if we’re writing romance or a suspense and we have a character that has grown up in an abusive home that got so bad she and her mother have to run for their lives. They’re always looking over their shoulders, always changing their names, always in fear because they’re hunted. Never taking a stand and able to fight back. Now we have her background and some idea of her inner conflict. As an adult she stays clear of anything that resembles the trauma of her childhood. What is the worse external conflict we could put her in? To keep it simple, let’s place her in a situation where she has seen a murder, and the murderer knows she’s seen him. Now he’s after her. Just like that she is again on the run, living in fear. But now she is an adult, not a helpless child. She has to take her stand at some point. She goes to the police. Add to it a hero whose job it is to keep her safe, keep her from harm. He’s tough and strong and very good at his job. But let’s say as a child he came face to face with the inability to keep those he loves safe because he was too young and inexperienced. Now his job choice makes sense, as does his inner pride/need in being very good at his job. But internally his greatest fear in not keeping someone he cares about safe from harm. Hero and heroine come together, and emotional attachment forms. Now we have both characters facing their inner conflict/fears while dealing the external conflict/fear. Now we have in place a plot specifically designed to trigger emotional responses from the hero and heroine. And the reader.
Writing what you feel is the ability to write or invoke an emotional response in your reader. You don’t have to be feeling whatever the emotion you’re writing as you write it. You do need to know what a particular emotion feels like to set it up and then amplify it via your character’s reaction to the stimuli. If you know the feeling then it follows you should be able to imbue that emotion in your writing by the story set up, character reactions and hence trigger the reader’s reaction.
That’s writing what you feel and what you know. That’s creating emotional impact for your reader.
Any thoughts?
© Sia McKye 2009 all rights reserved



Comments: 312
Nah, excitement is getting over 600 people visiting Marketing Floozy for an article...and 30+ comments isn't shabby either.
Seriously, Great article, Sia! I don't have anything intelligent to add (obviously), but I enjoyed your insights. I particulary enjoyed your example. Interesting!
At this moment, the Google ads selected for this article include: (1) Weed abuse, (2) Marijuana Rehab Treatmen, and (3) Obamas New Grant Program.
And on half of our Valentine's entries, we've got ads for gravestones and flowers. What a morbidly romantic, yet substance-abusing, group we are.
I guess I'm just weird that way. Writing is never clinical for me. It's cerebral sometimes, but more often it's visceral.
1. Greet them like normal asking if they'd gotten to listen to the Treasury Secretary because you'd missed it.
2. Feign disappointment when they say they haven't gotten anything through their innerbank news.
3. Sit across from the table from them so you can converse easily.
4. Just as the meeting is about to start, with an innocent expression, ask when they expect the banking inspections of their banks announced in the morning to happen.
5. Enjoy the amazing rapidly changing facial expressions.
6. Laugh and laugh and laugh
7. Laugh some more
Emotions. Hmm. Im with Sia. Id rather not feel it as Im writing it. I get carried away too easily. But if I write something really well, then I will feel it, and respond. Luckily that happens rarely.
See you after the black out.
Cathy
But wait, Gather will return. Oh joy!! Happiness reigns supreme in my heart.
See? I do emotion great.
See you all on the other side of oblivion.
Sigh.
Sherrie, I have several patents and don't know s*** from shinola what they are all about.
I'm in Beijing. My ability to connect to Gather is sorta iffy so I just wanted to say "Hi!" and I'll chat in greater detail later.
For today, post upgrade. Lisa doesnt count, she's in China.
Wow she's in CHINA!!! Hi Lisa, we await further word.
So far I dont see nuthin new. But then I rarely notice things until they are pointed out to me.
Don't write what you know, write what you feel.
- Sia McKie
Works for me...
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Talk Show From Hell
Good morning!
That's true for all of us. I'm sure I'm not the only one who has seen the "professional" step out in a comment or a discussion. We have some amazing people here.
And good morning. meetings starting in 10 minutes and running through lunch. Hope every one has a great day!
Good morning. Do you realize it's Wednesday already? Sweeeeet! And I've only got 3 lectures and an easy lab to teach today. More sweeeeeet.
Turtles turtles are in my hair
What was that? I do not know
I think I see a strange glow
I think I might
See a very disconcerting sight
Yes it is, this can't be true
It's a hoard, a walking zoo
We have to run, we have to flee
What is wrong with that tree?
I must be losing it, my brain is fried
Strange happening can't be denied
It is said this is Wednesday, the day of hump
All I can feel is in my throat a lump
I fear this might be the end
Or I could be simply going round the bend
Turtles turtles I see their spots
Turtles turtles we got lots
Happy hump day!
Well we know Mike saw the wonderful book "The Growing Menace of Turtles" lolol!
Yay Jamie on the easy day today. You sound relaxed.
Other than that, we've spent some time with family and friends and generally are just moving along.
As to the topic. I think emotion is absolutely necessary in writing. I want to feel like I'm a part of the story. Not that I'm just hearing about it later, but that I'm right there with the characters, feeling what they feel.
Pat S., I don't think that you have a bad approach to writing emotion at all. The emotions of your characters came through very well in Ashes. As a reader, it's easy to tell when an author truly cares about their characters. It comes through in the way that the emotions are portrayed.
I also think emotion is very important in getting a reader involved in and loving your story. Personally, if I come across something to read and after the first few pages I can't find any reason to care about the characters, I'm done. Why should I keep reading?
Lisa, Yay! Glad to hear from you! Good thoughts winging their way.
Cathy
"Turtles turtles we gots lots"
Discussion is welcome.
No peeking, Wombats!
Cathy
Thanks, Ken.
Cathy
No lie. I was paging through it just last night...
Snowed in again! How's the weather out at your place, Wanda? When it gets here (in 8 hours or so) it will be snow and more snow.
Elements of Grammar is wrong. It should be "Turtles--turtles--we got; lots."
Ugh.
No snow on my birthday - which is Friday, btw. In case you were all wondering.
Not that you were, I guess, but just in case.
Friday. The 13th.
Of February.
In 2 days.
I refuse to have ANY MORE.
NO. NOT ALLOWED.
Isn't it someones birthday this week? Hmmm *tapping my chin...
Rachael, I love snow...on Christmas cards, computer screen savers...Yep, that thar type a snow is mighty fine...no shoveling, no freezing my ass off, no slipping on the ice, no need for a ballspeen hammer to disconnect my dogs from the stuff when they go out to do their duty, or sliding down an incline attached to a 100lb pup...
I'm sure Beth dogearred the comma section of her book when she edited Ashes. I made the same mistakes 10,000 times. By about the 100th time she'd circled a misused comma, I wanted to shout "ok, ok! I GET it!" And yet, she went patiently right on pointing them out!
So Dr. Garte, just how much trouble are these turtles going to cause? ROLF
Gather came up and I got here.. that's all I really care about. grin
Plotting for MMW is in full swing and of course there's editing. Rachael I should have something for you soon, if you have time.
off with me.
So I should have time for yours soon :D
Cathy
Judi, I like that technique. I'll try it on my next piece. Thanks.
As I start to read the "How to play with the new Gather group structure" I'm impressed with what it allows you to do i.e. set up a little mini-social network within your group.
Sia--Great article. Sometimes I feel the emotion as I write, kind of like a reader does. Sometimes I don't. I've never been able to determine whether scenes turn out better when I'm feeling the emotion while writing them, or not.
By the way, you dropped a "ha" in Mwahahaha... ;)
I have the sense this might be a big birthday for you. 35? Not 40!! Must be 35.
(OMG, she's prolly turning 30, and I am in big trouble).
Say the word snow and they look at you like a deer
It is nothing but frozen rain
Warm weather sends it down the drain
Snow is a time for kids to scream and shout
Because the schools let them out
I ask instead why they do it
Make trapped adults have to grin and bear it
Do not the officials seem to realize
It's that time away that saves their lives
And with that I have to go deal with something serious.
John, that new group thing sounds cool. I'll have to check it out tonight.
OK, ok, I'm going back to work, now.
Gina, I heard Portland got a bit...
Does this mean my life is a sad one?
Judi & Pat have marvelous stories. You guys are gonna love forking over the money for them when you see them on your bookstore shelves. Or on Amazon. Or wherever books will be sold at a future point in time.
Sixty-seven degrees at the moment. I like it.
Lunch time!!
Sy, you, my dear, are NOT in the dog house. 44 for me. And, yup, I don't mind sayin'. (It goes back to my friend who died at 34 from lung cancer and never smoked a day in her life. She would LOVE to be 44, so I'm more than happy that birthday candles keep showing up on my cake.) And aren't YOU a sweetie?
Now, Ken, what's this about free ice cream at Outback. On your birthday? Seriously? Hmmm... I might have to re-think that Chinese food I was planning to order on Friday...