I had someone here on Gather invite me to a group about relationships but it's really more about sex than anything else because most people in the world seem to view a relationship as revolving around sex. But that is not the way the Christian community should be perceiving relationships according to the Bible.
Sex from a Biblical perspective is very different from that of the world's perspective. Of course, we all have sex but there is more involved with it than just as a good time. There are spiritual issues involved and one of those is that you don't have sex with someone outside of marriage. Also, when you have sex with your spouse, there should be more concern for the relationship and how you treat that person than just as a physical game, which is what most people I've heard seem to think sex is all about. Christians are not supposed to be involved with or watch pornography which is watching other people have sex. And, we don't treat sex as if it's a sport.
In this day and age, sex is more of a game than the coming together of two people who deeply love each other and respect each other. It's become all about pleasure but not about satisfying the other person physically and emotionally.
The sad thing is that the people who treat sex so casually are missing out on the best sex of their lives because there is nothing like having someone make love to you who is fully committed to you spiritually, physically and emotionally but most people never experience that because they are too busy focusing only on the physical.
I just felt compelled to write about this. I hope no one gets offended.
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I agree with you that sex should be not taken as a sport, but not all of sex outside of Christianity is "sport." Not everyone is Christian. The world doesn't treat sex as a game, just some people are open to talk about it and have a healthy sex life . . . which is very healthy! Being closeted will only hurt your sex life in the future. I agree that there is a level of emotional and mental intimacy involved with sexual relationships. What I'm saying is, not everyone views sex as a game that isn't a Christian. I'm not but I'm in love. I've had friends wait until marriage to experience sex for the first time because it was "what God wanted them to do", and it's proven to be the biggest mistakes they've ever made! My best friend's hubby ended up cheating on her and they divorced after a year. Now, I know this isn't the case for everyone, but this isn't the first time I've known or heard about someone experiencing this. I think everyone just needs to be true to themselves. Don't treat others like pieces of meat, but don't deny yourself of what your body desires. Otherwise, it might just come back to haunt you! You need to be in love first and emotionally responsible first and foremost.
I know that most Christians will start throwing biblical references around like confetti (or more likely like hand grenades). But even the evangelical church doesn't live up to biblical standards or even try on some levels. Jesus spoke forcefully about divorce and didn't say a word about homosexuality; so what did evangelicals do? They chose to fight the finest way to seek gay monogomy: gay marriage. Go figure! They often even fight basic civil rights for gay people. How very loving!
Get my point? We're so sexually repressed that too often we can't even talk about it like adults. "Come, let us reason together..." and reasonably, too.
I have been with my fiancee, going on 8 years now.
Before I became a Christian, when we did make love, it was do satisfiing. Knowing that I have someone makeing love to me who is fully committed to me spiritually, physically and emotionally and it made me cry with tears of joy almost EVERYTIME.
As for the rest of the world treating it as a sport, that I would have to disagree with.
How vastly superior to the rest of us you people think you are. Don't you know that a great majority of non-secular people express, love, concern, caring and deepness of feeling within the context of having sex?
Wow!
Sex before contractual marriage actually implies marriage. One of my pastors did an excellent series on this topic.
I can say I am glad I am not in the dating world anymore. I really don't think I would make a good single person at all.