My Mom

This past July the woman that I called Mom for the past 32 almost 33 yrs passed away. She would have been 81 today if she were still here. She wasn't my biological Mom she was my Dad's Mom but when me and my sister was little she took us in to raise. I was 4 yrs old and my sister was 17 months so it was pretty much like her starting all over although my uncle was 12 yrs. My biological mom was abusive to me I swear I believe and still believe she hated me because of the things she did to me as a child. Anyways the one that I grew up calling Mom was in her 40's when her and my grandpa took us in. She never missed anything while we were growing up she was at every concert we had whether it was choir or band. When I got in High School and I joined the Marching Band she never missed a game or Parade that I marched in. When I grew up and got married she was there right beside me and then when I had children she was there for all but one birth and that was because she couldn't see to drive because of diabetes and laser surgery that damaged her eyes. My kids called her Grandma except Abby (my youngest that is 3 yrs) she called her Grammy. My aunts and uncle tell me I have no right to call her Mom that she wasn't my Mom. They said we were nothing more than grandchildren. When I heard that it was like someone kicked me in the stomach. When she got disabled and couldn't cook me and my husband cooked and took her food or we would go get her and take her out. We talked everyday even if it was her calling to gripe at me telling me not to spank my kids or for whatever reason she found to gripe at me. When she got to where she couldn't take care of herself I went over to help out. I cooked, cleaned, bathed and dressed her see her greatest fear was to be put in a nursing home. But I promised her that I would never let that happen that she would come and stay with me and my family before that would happen. Well my aunts and Uncle(that hadn't talked or had anything to do with her for almost 2 yrs) wouldn't let her come and stay with us so I went to her everyday and took care of her. She told me one day after I had bathed her and was getting her dressed that she didn't think I would take care of her like that I said I told you I would. She said you Love your Mommy don't you I said you bet I Love my Mommy and hugged her. This woman raised me and my sister in church and taught us about God. I miss the only Mom I ever had and even though I have my Mother in Law it isn't the same. Sometimes we take for grant it the people in out lives just make sure you always let the people in your life know how much they mean to you cause you never know when they will be gone forever.

                                Love You Mom 

                                       Happy Birthday