by Connie C.
Member since:
August 4, 2006

Step 2 - Shedding Weight

January 30, 2009 07:34 PM EST
views: 85 | comments: 32

My success so far is this: I am drinking more water, exercising more and eating fruits & veggies.  Now I an dispelling 10 negative thoughts from my mind.

1. If you do not look n the mirror, you are not really overweight. I hate mirrors. Ask my kids. I do not have a full length mirror for that reason. My husband bought me one for Christmas and I was so disappointed.

2. If I skip meal I will not gain any more weight.

I will eat 5 small meals a day. My doctor told me to do this instead of 3 larger meals

3. I am not pretty or built well so why would anyone want to spend time with me.

4. If I stay in the house nobody will know that I am depressed

5. I am not good at anything anymore.

6. If I keep my curtains shut maybe nobody will know I am home.

7. If I do not walk on the treadmill today, nobody will know.

8. Why drink water, nobody cares anyway.

9. I am just in everyones way because I am so sick all the time.

10. I am such an inconvience to those who do care about me.

As you can tell, I am really down on myself. I feel like I am just a burden to eveyone because of my health problems. I hate the way I look and that is why I do not look in the mirror.

I will do better on all of these accounts. I will need support though. I am trying and this group is going to be the determining factor in my success. I will do this and I will make a chanage in my life and lose weight while doing it.

I will lose weight! I will feel good about myself again!!  Yeah for me!!

 

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Comments: 32

Denise C. Jan 30, 2009, 7:38pm EST
COngrats on your weight loss this far Connie! Keep it up as we all struggle together!
Angel sent from God Secret Sisters Jan 30, 2009, 7:39pm EST
This is one of our worst enemies , our thoughts of what others think or not think about us.
I too need to lose some weight , since my illness's its harder to lose it. I am going to add your article to my tool bar so it will also help me out too!!!
Connie C. Jan 30, 2009, 7:47pm EST
Janet,
I have major health problems that are getting me down these days. If you need a friend to chat with, just email me. :)
Mariana T. Jan 30, 2009, 8:01pm EST
Great Connie - good for you and we are just after losing ten pounds and doing the basics - we have to exercise though - you have to move and start Emphasize the uplifting things about yourself - if you find that this group is not for you, I can understand as I don't think like Western medical doctors - most people put too much emphasis on their illness and not enough on their health - Not in here - just the opposite. We each have a different constitution so I prefer not to post recipes or food choices in here at this time - I have put a link to a food pyramid in one of the articles. I believe this will help many make healthy choices. Water is probably more important than food. Glad you are eating fresh fruits and vegetables.
I am glad that you are in here and we hope that we can all support you. Please feel free to read the other articles on the Negative sentiments and how folks are turning them around. If you are unable to walk or dance in place, perhaps you can get an exercise ball and use that. The main thing is you have to move for a half an hour a day. Thanks for posting to Shedding Light! Salud
Judy Knudle Jan 30, 2009, 8:14pm EST
I hesitated to comment on this, since I'm not in the group, but keep your head up, Connie. I know it can be very difficult, frustrating, depressing to have health problems, but just remember that they do not make up Connie as a whole. You're so much more than your problems. {{{{hugs}}}
Marge H. Jan 30, 2009, 8:23pm EST
It sounds like you are making excellent choices for yourself. Good for you and congratulations on what you have achieved so far!
Jill~Sexy Back~ V. Jan 30, 2009, 8:30pm EST
You are an awesome person Connie! Keep your head up and focus on your goals. Good luck!
☃ Aunt Shanny Jan 30, 2009, 8:37pm EST
I didn't like how I looked in the mirror, so I threw away all my mirrors.
Mariana T. Jan 30, 2009, 8:41pm EST
Thank you Judy - feel free ot post anytime! Salud
Angel sent from God Secret Sisters Jan 30, 2009, 9:01pm EST
Thank you Connie, I have found a lot of friends on here with the same medical problems!
I am glad I found this site!!! I will do that , both Larry and I need to lose weight for our health. I think when you have more support when trying to lose weight is the best. :D
Angel sent from God Secret Sisters Jan 30, 2009, 9:02pm EST
I hate trying on clothes at the store because of their mirrors!!!
Sue * Jan 30, 2009, 9:30pm EST
Connie-you can do this. I already know that some of your negatives aren't true. You look cute in your picture, and you are good at Gathering and keeping us all informed. Hang in there, and just take baby steps.
Karen M. Jan 30, 2009, 9:43pm EST
Good for you Connie and I just know you are such an asset to those around you. I sure am glad to know you!
ISABEL Y. Jan 30, 2009, 9:52pm EST
Keep up the good work, Connie!
Janet "Jax" B. Jan 30, 2009, 10:49pm EST
Keep up the good thoughts Connie....and cronic illness is terrible to deal with...
Connie C. Jan 31, 2009, 1:15am EST
Wow I did not expect this kind of support. I turned on my computer to delete this post before anyone else saw it but I see it has already had many views.

Thank you for the support.
Connie C. Jan 31, 2009, 1:17am EST
Janet,
I usually do not even try on clothes at stores.

Amazing that we all do the same thing but probably never told anyone else about it.
Connie C. Jan 31, 2009, 1:17am EST
Judy,
I am glad you did comment. Thanks :)
Shirley ♡ ☮ M. Jan 31, 2009, 1:20am EST
Good for you ..for seeing your negative thoughts. Keep a positive outlook and keep up the good work! I'm cheering you on :)
Mariana T. Jan 31, 2009, 1:53am EST
Connie - you are a beautiful person and I want you to start thinking of yourself as a strong, capable individual. I want you to see your core as a very strong bright diamond that always shines. It gets even more brilliant when you're letting the sunshine flow in through the interaction with other folks, through happy thoughts and through good health...try not to define yourself as an ill person - you are very healthy and you become what you visualize - see Connie ten pounds lighter - not just from pounds but from other things that weigh Connie down...begin every morning to write down what you are grateful for - this is a start...we are here to support a healthy Connie! Salud
Shawnee G. Jan 31, 2009, 3:18am EST
I think the group coming together and knowing how alot of these feelings are common amongst many of us is a beautiful thing. I hope you all lean on each other for support, and make sure to offer it to each other openly. It is a HUGE thing to finally know you are not alone or different from anyone else, no matter how YOU see yourself.

I have not joined the group, but am connected to many of you here, and I wish you all the best and I also am here for support or a ear to chew off (feel free to message me) if you need one.
Victoria H. Jan 31, 2009, 11:24am EST
Mom, I'd have to disagree with all of those things. You are beautiful inside and out and we all love you. We just want you to be healthy and happy. You are not an inconvenience!
☃ Aunt Shanny Jan 31, 2009, 11:55am EST
" I did not expect this kind of support. "

You don't get it, do you? You are loved.
Carol B Jan 31, 2009, 12:05pm EST
Connie we all love you here on Gather. You have been a support to everyone here. Now we will support you through your weight loss goals and hopefully that will help your illness and depression.
Angel sent from God Secret Sisters Jan 31, 2009, 12:22pm EST
That s why I get a bigger size and use a belt , that way I do not have to take it back!! lmao
Holli G. Jan 31, 2009, 2:27pm EST
I am so glad you didn't delete this post...you have inspired me. You are an amazing woman and you are not a burden, you are an assest in their lives. The people in your life are lucky that you are in their life.

I just know you here but I am so thankful that I do know you!
tammie p. Jan 31, 2009, 4:30pm EST
keep up the great job connie
Amanda "middle of nowhere" C. Jan 31, 2009, 10:22pm EST
I think it's good that it's good that you're discovering what works for you. I HIGHLY DOUBT THAT YOU ARE CONSIDERED AN INCONVENIENCE BY ANYONE WHO LOVES OR CARES FOR YOU. Why, Connie, I think that's the most ridiculous thing I've heard of on gather! Have a good weekend.
Rose H. Feb 1, 2009, 1:09am EST
Connie - I can relate to your wanting to delete the post with all those negative statements. Well - they are here and now you just deal with them by following the steps. I just joined and I already know I will need support too.
I admire you for plugging along when things are so tough for you. I have no doubt you can lose ten pounds. You looked good in the pictures you posted of yourself - so go on and let's hear what happened by the end of the week.
Stacey *Mamasaid* D. Feb 1, 2009, 10:13am EST
Connie, I just met you here and Gather and see you as a vibrant, well-informed and interesting lady - I'm sure that's how everyone else around you feels. I understand health problems getting you down. Though it may be hard to move sometimes, it's essential for your overall well-being. When you're moving, all sorts of positive feelings happen naturally to eliminate the negative stuff that gets in our way. Drinking water flushes out lots of yucky stuff too - you can do this Connie and we're all here for you - just like you are here for everyone. Good luck!!
Pam H. Feb 2, 2009, 3:54pm EST
Connie, this post made me so sad for you. I see you as such a wonderful person, giving and caring about all of those around you. Even the ones you have not physically met, (like Gather people). You rank so high in my book of people and I know others feel that way too.

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