How would you have handled this?

I was sooo mad tonight. So, most of you know that I spent a full week with my parents getting my house painted. I'd waited over FIVE YEARS to get this project done and I was feeling really good about the way my house is looking.

So, my 7 yr old has a friend over today - the neighbor girl that comes over often who has no discipline in her life, etc.  Right before she was to leave I hear something outside that made me get up to go look. They were playing on the patio where I can lock the fence and not worry about anyone getting in. I look out to see the 10 year old friend and my 4 yr old daughter standing on top of the playhouse we have. You know - those plastic kids playhouses.  My heart dropped as my 4 yr old falls ALOT and I was scared to death she was going to crack her head open before I could get her down. So, the top of the playhouse is totally caved in and cracked in 2 places. GRRR.

I have told them plenty of times in the past not to get on top of this thing so I was quite angry. I told the neighbor that she should know better, at 10 years old, than to get up there herself, let alone let my 4 yr old up there like that.

Then, after she left, I called her mom to let her know about her behavior and how unhappy I was about it. I was mad at my 4 yr old also, but she's FOUR so it's to be expected.  After I hung up with her mom, I go to walk past the door where we had just painted and saw that the paint had been being peeled off the door jam. ARGH.  My husband called both my kids in and asked who did it. My 7 yr old admitted that she and the neighbor had done it.

This is one of many instances where destructive behavior has caused problems - broken bikes from playing "bumper cars", broken toddler toys because she tries to play with them when she is CLEARLY too big for them, etc. It's very frustrating.

So, in this case we have told them that the neighbor cannot come over the rest of this week and all of next week. And, if this destructiveness continues, she will not be able to come over any more at all.

I feel bad, in a way, because she has no guidance. Her mom is oblivious to everything she does. But at the same time, I can't have her keep trashing my house and my kids stuff. I know my daughter does not do these things on her own...

*sigh*