Why Weep, When You Can Pull Yourself Up?

Regret, tears and depression. That's an old, worn out trick that everyone involuntarily uses when they go through a crisis, somehow.

When your life is reasonable, with average amount of problems that doesn't really affect your psychology, you keep on going. You don't really think about the reasons of those problems because they're very minor and they usually go on their own. Or maybe you got fed up with the little problems that eventually gather and make one huge problem.

How come people start asking themselves dozens of questions everyday, when they're in trouble? Why do they start thinking about the reason of their misery, only when misery takes place? They keep whining and weeping over what happened. Losing friends, losing lovers, losing principles. Think about it, you usually get upset only when you lose something, or gain something that you never wanted.

The problem isn't about the weeping, because humans are emotional creatures.. Or at least, they are creatures with emotions. The problem settles in this: You face a problem; a heartbreaking and self-changing problem. So, you decide on changing yourself and taking new principles. But you see, after only a few weeks or a few days sometimes, you forget about those principles. Or worse, you let go of them voluntarily, thinking you've grown stronger and you won't get hurt easily anymore.

And then you get hurt again. And then again.

It's normal for humans to forget. But how to solve that? Sometimes, it helps when it's a very very big and intense crisis, to the extent that its scars never let you forget about what you've been through.

Though, you don't need to wait for a crisis to understand some truths. You don't need a friend telling you they don't give one ounce of care about you, so you'd give up that friendship. Teach yourself how to move on. Maybe even move on and avoid the crisis before it happens.Stop taking refuge to crying, because it's weak and it's a stress release. You don't need to release your stress, but you need to use the stress to solve it with excitement and will, yea?

For instance, why get disappointed that no one is helping out with your work, while you can do your work on your own? Be independent; no one will be able to help or understand what you truly need. Be certain of that and don't tire yourself with over-thinking the fact.

Why get upset that no one understands you or listen to you, while you can convince yourself that you don't need anyone to lean on? You can solve your own problems and with your own plans. Yes, humans are social, but they shouldn't be dependent.

Of course, ask for help. But only advice, not practical help. You're just as rational as other people are.

Just put it in mind: It is impossible to be fully understood by someone because even if they sympathize and do their best, they won't know how you truly feel. That's when it comes to true friends (The rare ones), now think how shallow the fake friends are. Don't take it for granted that all your friends are real ones.

Just be independent and don't say you have nothing to live for, when you face a problem. If you have nothing to live for, live for yourself.