Update on my son after the death of his friend.
My son's friend from school, Giovanni, passed away Tuesday night after an ear infection went terribly wrong, leaving him in a coma and eventually leading to his death. I do know that the family has the funeral planned on Wednesday.
My son was so upset that he didn't go to school on Wednesday (well he also complained of a sore throat). We haven't really talked about the death of the boy, I figured if my son wanted to talk about this, he would come to me. My son is so soft hearted that if I bring it up, I am afraid that he will start crying all over again.
My son didn't go to school Thursday because he has ear aches. Due to his PIDS (primary immune deficiency disease), he has a real hard time fighting his own infections, even through he gets man made antibodies weekly through an infusion in his stomach. So I did call the dr and they saw him early this morning. The dr said that there's some sort of a virus going around that presents itself with earaches, sore throat, and a stuffy head. The dr said he had a bad head cold, take him home, love him, and give him mucinex. Which we did. He does seem to be feeling a little better now.
Friday my kids were out of school for teacher conference days, then they are off on Monday for MLK birthday, so for my son this is going to be a long weekend. By the time he gets back to school he will have missed about a whole week of school. I am suppose to pick up his school work of what he missed, tomorrow before lunch. The high schools here function on a 4x4 schedule, which means that the students attend 4 classes all day for the first 1/2 of the school year, then 4 more classes after the Christmas break.
Giovanni's wake will be Tuesday night and the funeral is scheduled for Wednesday morning. My son asked that I not make him go because he's going to be too upset. I told him it was better for him to pay his respects to his friend in his own way, his own time, rather than being forced to do so in front of strangers.
Well, I guess i am done with my rambling for now, I hope to get back here to write again later on today, first I have to catch up on some more of my comments,
Thanks,
Stephanie
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Comments: 34
I also lost a close male friend when I was in 7th grade to a freak accident of a piece of wood being used as a frisby breaking his windpipe, it was sooo sudden and unexpected. Really hard to understand and put together at a young age. I still come close to tears thinking about it and I am 32.
If there is a friend or family member he can speak with (without thinking he will make you upset as alot of big hearted people tend to put others first too often) I would try to nudge him to get things out as soon as he feels up to speaking about it.
But maybe you should encourage him to go, he might regret it later on
I wasn't able to attend my best friend's funeral (due to lack of $$ and no way to get there). But I mourned Brad in my own way and still think of him often.
paying it forward.