The title is misleading, they are not all in the same place at the same time, except for the train running through my mind.
Moths - I'm just finishing up a battle with pantry moths that has gone on for about two months now. Apparently, these things are what mealy bugs grow into if not found in time. Who knew?
They are some of the most resilient boogers I've ever met, they even lived through straight on spraying of pure bleach, which has felled mighty insects, like a queen bee.
After throwing away almost $200.00 worth of dry food, bleaching all surfaces, etc., etc, they were still here.
I finally had the building management call in the bug people. I've only seen four since then and they were sad. Every dry food I've replaced (slowly) has been put into sealed containers to isolate any new infestation. GRRRRR!!
All this while going through my major polymyalgia pain thing, yep, it's been grand! Bless my daughter's energy and willingness to help out mom.
Mattress - I've been saving teeny bits here and there for over two years, to buy a new mattress. The set I've been using was a cheap replacement for an old piece of crap. Being poor is really painful for an arthritic back.
I was telling the woman next door (my fellow apartment complex old biddy) that I thought I'd be able to swing something with the January White Sales and the deep discounts that retailers are putting on prices. Turns out she used to work for a mattress retailer here, before she contracted cancer and was ready to buy a new mattress also.
She was able to swing us a deal that got us top-of-the-line mattresses and box springs for half-price. She got a marvelous Stearns and Foster and I got a great Sealy set. Mine was originally $1,250.00 and I bought it for $625.00 with free delivery. If the guy hadn't known her, we would have been thrown out of the store for behaving like assholes, making mattress angels, testing bounce on the end resilience, etc.
It came on Saturday and I did not want to get out of the bed this morning. I have never had such a comfortable bed. I also haven't gotten up out of bed able to walk immediately in years.
Straight Queers - This is a fairly new phenomenon that my daughter apprised me of when we were talking about self-identifying. She claimed that I'm bi-sexual, I stated that I identified as a lesbian because that is my preference and my emotional attraction is to women, blah, blah, blah.
Then she started blithering about queers that claim hetero-sexual privilege when they marry members of the opposite sex. "What the hell are you talking about? If your queer and marry someone of the opposite sex that usually makes you bi at that point, doesn't it?"
"There's a whole new group of people who don't have same sex relationships but identify as queer in solidarity." She told me.
Now I may be older and a bit set in my ways, but I try to be fluid and open to new thinking, but this was one step beyond for me.
I just had to leave it and with that I'm done.
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I don't know what to think of the bi-sexual thing I have a friend who was married once and had a son, but he was in denial. He is now divorced and lives a normal gay live. I don't think of hm as bi-sexual
(is my age showing, too ??!!!)
I know straight women that I've called a "heterosexual dyke" because they can do all the man things, and act so aggressive and dyky about everything. My sister is sorta one, she doesn't just ride horses, she goes fox hunting (they use a faux fox these days) and she rides to win !!! But then she grew up on a farm and did it all so much better than I did.
(I don't think she ever chopped wood though)
LOL
(the way I chopped wood it's a miracle I still have my feet)
(but I digress)
Glad you have that good bed and some reasonable sleep there is nothing worse than poor quality sleep.
Now on this other subject ... I too will let it be ... at the same time wondering if it has anything to do with compassion.
I'm thrilled that you have a wonderful mattress. I just got one about a month ago. It makes such a difference!
Them mealy bugs are murder, glad you are at the end of that battle!
The sexuality? I have no clue.
The mealy bugs? My sister in Australia found it took her almost SIX MONTHS to get rid of those things.
Lisa I think it's youth thing. Vivian I had you figured for a wood chopper.
Peter, you and and axe sounds pretty scary.
Ishbel, I hope not.
Gay, Lesbian, Bi, Transgendered.
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Peter - your comments ALWAYS make me smile.
Congrats on the mattress deal.
Man! I was pissed about all the different music genres today. I remember when there used to be just country, pop, and rock. Now they're messing with sexuality too?! I'm not even going to try and wrap my head around that one. Let's keep it Neanderthal that way it will be simple. Me like you, you like me? Ugh! Good!
Oh, this crazy, big, blue marble we call home!
sounds like you and your daughter have a great relationship - wonderful...
I think everyone is queer. Salud
MOST dry goods have the eggs in them... put them in the FREEZER for an hour or two WHEN YOU BRING THEM HOME and you'll not have buggy problems...
now, far as the other goes... can't help ya there.
So I figured I was down with that. Then I met a couple who were bothe Transgender. She was male to female and he was female to male. They had both been queer before they started their change and then they're sexuality change with the influx of hormones. They found each other and decided not to have the bottom surgery. That blew my mind. It was very difficult to wrap my mind around that. Just like when friends of mine came out about being into S&M. There was a a real issue for me about that because of Violence against Woman and I really struggled with it.
Finally I came to the conclusion that I don't have to understand everything, just accept people for what they are as long as they are with other consenting adults. What they do is there own business.
I kind of like Wade's take.
Nippy I've always looked at sexuality is a continuum, but the kids just keep tripping me up.
Peter, you can stop chopping wood now, you don't even have a fireplace, do you?
Not too sure about the queer/straight thingy.
Col. They are crazy expensive. It would have taken me another painful year if it hadn't been for my neighbor's deal.
The other thing, I'm not even ready for that one.
It really bites to have to buy fresh mixes every darn time you want to bake something. I put stuff in the freezer for 12 hours before putting them in the pantry.
I must say that since I found Martin's I G Regulator Spray I have had ZERO problems with bugs of any kind! Some Ace hardware stores carry it but I had to find it on the INTERNET last time I bought it!
It interferes with the ability of bugs to reproduce and altho it may take a long time to eradicate bugs........once they are gone.....they stay gone for 6 months before you need to reapply again.
I have had a water bed for 35 years..............my kids like the idea since I am notorious for smoking in bed. LOL
As for the other subject I figure as long as any 2 people treat each other with love, respect and consideration what difference does plumbing make?
I figure we are who we are.
I have a waterbed and I love it. God forbid I am not able to get into it or get out of it.
We were given a mattress by someone in the family when we first got married and we drug that mattress and box springs all over the world for 20 years, always having something "more important" to spend the money on. Finally, about 10 years ago we bought a good quality mattress and box springs and it just made a HUGE difference.
The straight/queer thing - I can't even begin to figure that out. I've read that if sexuality in each person is measured on a 1 to 10 scale with 1 being completely hetero and 10 being completely gay, everyone would fall somewhere on the scale but that no one would be an absolute 1 or an absolute 10. If I was gay I'd have to be the Portia di Rossi type of gay because I love girly things too much, like nail polish and dangly earrings.
So sorry to hear you're feeling poorly again. Enough of that already!!
The next time the meal moths pester you, check out the local health food store. They either will carry or can order traps designed for this purpose. We had them so badly one year that the nasty little worms were dropping off the cathedral ceiling in the dining room onto my late MIL's head. God love her....she didn't notice and we didn't tell her. It was gross. The traps got rid of them in about ten days. Eeeeeew....I don't even like thinking about them!
As for straight queers....I guess that's a new one in my book as well. Will have to check with some of my gay & lesbian friends and ask them if they're familiar with the term!
Definitely gonna do the borax. Grems my daughter is my debate partner and my supreme helper along with my friend Debbie. Once I finally admitted that there were some things I could no longer do they were more relieved than anything.
Ape - When I smoked I never smoked in bed and wouldn't let anybody smoke in the bedroom, bathroom or living room. Kitchen was the smoking room.
Just the way I like it.
Grems, I could never get in or out of those.
I was the only one in my projects years ago, that didn't have roaches. I've always been a bug warrior. I like a clean house. This is the first time they got me. I'm aware it doesn't mean you aren't clean, but I've always been quick on the warpath. I'm not quick anymore.
Sigh.
Don't know nothin' about moths.
Straight Queers? What about Queer Straights? What your daughter was saying is like when someone crosses the color/culture line they have a free pass into that world? Like hell, I say! A couple years had to pass before I learned how to stop making macaroni and cheese like a white girl. It was a matter of acceptance before the recipe was shared. LOL
Kimberly and Mariana - such a huge compliment about my posts, thank you.
Kathy - I have my mattress.
I'm finding that out Don.
Since then my motto is "If you come into my house, you are DEAD!" I won't bother pests that stay outside, but it's "both barrels" if the little bastards decide to invade.
I've found that a propane torch works really well getting rid of ants.
As far as mattresses go, a few years ago I was making some decent money and my rent was very low. I saved up and bought an $1100 'memory foam' (not TempurPedic brand) and I never slept better in my life. I ended up giving it to my old girlfriend's son when I didn't have room for it anymore (it was Queen Size) and he is delighted with it.
As far as gender issues, I don't really care what somebody does or wants to call themselves, as long as they don't mess with me.
Can we use your mattress on alternate wednesdays when you are not using it? We need a new one to, but no dinero's.
I hate bugs and live in the wrong place for someone who hates bugs.
MATTRESS: Sounds like you bought a great mattress. We finally bought a real mattress...king size and really good...I know exactly what you mean about comfort. I have never had a bed so comfortable...and I wake up feeling great.
QUEER/STRAIGHT/BI: Say what? This was stoo hard to follow for a tired old lady on Sunday night.
Chana, I didn't join that group because I hate them. I've actually disconnected from some Pay It Forward people because I got tired of my feeds getting all clogged up with that stuff. Sure, come on over (I feel safe saying that because I know you live too far away). The marriage thing you talk of is different.
Ellie - I'm going to try the Borax, I'm picking some up today, but if it doesn't
work, I'll mail you. I didn't see anything like that when I was looking on google. You don't need to understand it, it's hard enough for me and I'm constantly in touch with the the
younger ones through my daughter and to a lesser extent, my son.
To all - DO NOT LET MUGGS BE YOUR EXTERMINATOR!
Hugs!
I hope your back feels better soon !!!
Good deal on the mattress - congrats! I bet it will help your back and other aches and pains a great deal.
On the gay/straight thing...I agree with Nippy. Just like everything else, human sexuality ranges over a very wide continuum. I've been married almost 30 years, but I was just saying to my husband that I'd jump Rachel Maddow's bones in a NY second. :-)
Moths suck. I hope they are gone forever and ever!
I wish people could make up their minds on this sexuality thing and what each one really means. I guess I live a sheltered life in my little house, but my daughter continually comes home and tells me how other kids ask her if she wants to go have a three way or if she likes boys and girls. C'mon kids....whatever happened to three-way meaning three people on the phone at once?
Never had the moth problem but once had ants in my pants.
And hooray for the new mattress! Now you have a place to put all your money!
Sheryl - I would also jump Rachel Maddow's bones, she's adorable.
Heather - I have known about three ways being participatory for a long time. I'm so with it.
Ron - They all think they have a license to define.
Michael, I don't want to talk about your pants, seriously.
Lois are you hot for Muggs? He likes women in g-strings ya know.
And a great big WOOT! on your bed, that's the ticket all right! Did that myself when I finally shook all the baggage, and 20 years on a waterbed other than keeping me snuggly warm on a cold winter's night, even if the heat had gone out, did me no good at all. Each year I woke up with more and more pain and stiffness, and was getting to the point I'd thought I'd need a crane to get me out of it, lol. Then, I had nothing and slept on the floor a short while, whole new level of pain in that, and my sweet niece noticed and gave me her old Futon. Love that girl, and was so thankful to be off the floor, but my shuffling gate was continuing worse every day and betraying me more than my years had a right! Enough! I figured a bed is an investment, after all, I don't have a house now and don't want one, dang it, I want a bed! Blew the bank. Sealy posturpedic/orthopedic memory foam pillow top, praise the goddesses!!!! Now, that's the only thing I care about never leaving me again, gots all I need, WOOT! for you now too!
And the other, well, to me all that labels schmabels, in the words of Karl Klein that I had to steal, are best left for jelly jars! I figure just a blanket, sexual, should do for all human kind and lend a great deal towards Peace on Earth. And I'm sure that will happen too, right about the same time we no longer see color, race, gender or religion and everybody loves everybody the same. Yea, I know, too much Prozac......... =~P
Oh, and I am so ready for a new mattress also. Saving my pennies but it sounds like I've gotta figure out who I need to know to get such a good deal. Glad that it is making life more comfortable for you.
You so don't take any poop from anyone! You Rock Sharon!
Pantry Moths? We had those a while back and the only way we could get rid of them is to stop using that particular cabinet. We had to tear it out. Some how they had managed to burrow into the wood and reappear after we thought all was clear. I tried everything...even an exterminator. He was the one who suggested just removing the cabinate entirely. Good luck with that.
Mugg Muggles, "The Man With the Jive", Jan 12, 2009, 12:34am EST
Mugg-- in other words, your ex's son sleeps with the memory of your body every night?
Mugss. you are wild and Lois is so hot for you.
Tonia - I just got lucky on that one and Mariana is one deep diva.
Carmel - those sanctimonious ijits can step. I hope to hell they haven't gone that deep that I have to convince the apartment building to take out a cupboard.
sharon SugarMomma is a wise woman,, Jan 12, 2009, 6:40pm EST
Then I guess I shouldn't mention the bees in my bonnet?
Back to the kilt, I guess.
sharon SugarMomma is a wise woman,, Jan 12, 2009, 8:18pm EST
Let's just keep that between you and me before it hits the front page of the Daily Planet. That Lois chick is a real demon when it comes to headlines.
Mattress = hubby and I bought a new one couple years ago....Love it!! The only problem now we can not touch each other we are so far apart....with the old one we laid in the middle of the bed on top of each other!!!! NO NO NO....not what you're thinking.....the middle sagged and we would just roll into the hole and stayed there!!!! LOL
Straight Queers = I am very straight but sometimes I can act queer! One of my best friends is lesbian but she never ever acts queer. I also have a great friend that is gay....he says I act too queer for him and I told him well you don't act gay to me!!! So what the heck.....it's all beyond me. I've come to the conclusion we all have some 'queerness'!!! LOL
Dorian - you drink it.
Phyllis - you two should take your cell phones to bed. If you want a little jump you could text him and say "Come on over". I act weird which could be considered queer, but no one even guesses I'm queer till I tell them. I always feel it's important to tell because people need to know that queers really are just people, like everyone else.
I love and care for everyone.....queer or not queer!! WE all have differences irregardless of WHAT we are!! You love me for who I am and I love you for who you are........and I LOVE YOU just the way YOU are my friend!!!!
Awesome on the new mattress.
Thirdly---I don't know how to wrap my little pea brain around all of that. I am a hetero--tomboy I guess. I always loved fishing and baseball and boystuff as a kid. I am attracted to men sexually. Maybe I am on the continum like Vicky said. Maybe I am a hetero, but was almost close enough to be a lesbian. Who knows?
I think I am a hetero-leave me alone type of person. Some days I want it, and other days I am a bitch on wheels. My husband knows when to leave me alone.
Monica - I'm a cook. It tore me up having to do that. I'm also on disability and food stamps, I can't begin to tell you how much that hurt. I'm a pretty girly girl, but I don't dress up a lot, I guess I'm just me. I swear these kids do this just to mess with us.
I so hope those critters did not get into the wood as well.
Carmel - You need to live where I do. Great schools, every economic level, more level playing field. You're going to have to be very vigilant with your kids about materialism and value. I went to high school with very rich kids and sometimes it was an issue.
I'm trying to keep up!! Your mention of a new mattress, reminds me that I need to replace mine and hubby's mattress before he gets home in the fall.. LOL... He and I can break it in together! ;)
Bugs- EWWW... I put flour, sugar, oatmeal, etc- all in my fridge, and freeze un-opened bags of flour, cornmeal,etc. Then, once they're opened, I either put them back in the fridge in original bags/containers or put them in airtight containers in the fridge.
Today I am working on your posts to make sure I have not missed anything. Hope you are keeping warm. Have a wonderful night
Outstanding on the mattress. Now you be nice to that old biddy. lol
The bug thing, I keep everything that has to do with grain (except boxed cereal) in the fridge. My flour, bisquick, cornmeal, etc. It stays fresher longer and no bugs. I learned the hard way like you years and years ago and since then, it all goes in the fridge as soon as I bring it home from the store.
maybe the idea is based on your sexual resume rather then preference?
Re: bugs
ick. My mom was a bug killer she kept a roach free house in FL for 3 years. When I lived in a high rise they were everywhere but since i've been in my condo it's been fine.
Re: Mattress I am excited for you and jealous of you.
Kitteh- You are a SCREAM!
Lynn - I'm learning - The bed is so yummy - my daughter laid down in it today and said "Oh my god I never knew they made something like this.
Marueen - I never had roaches either, even when living in the "ghetto" ya know.
On the mattress, don't be jealous, I'm old and it took me all this time to get one. Maybe when you're old, because that's when You'll need it.
Muggs - He does have a way with words.