by April H.
Member since:
March 20, 2007

My heart is broken !! I had to tell my 3 year old Grandaughter her Mommie died!!!!

January 06, 2009 03:10 PM EST
views: 322 | rating: 10/10 (67 votes) | comments: 112

My friends, I am sorry I have not been on much since New YEars Day.

 

At 5 pm on New Years day our worst fears came true, My beloved 3 year old Drea lost her mother to a drug overdose!!!!!!

 

I am so mad, sad, glad, disppointed frustrated & devastated  all mixed up together.  If only the court had seen this 3 years ago and believed me, if her parents had believed me but NO!!! everyone the court , DYFS her parents were in denial they gave my son & her 50 50 custody.  It could havebeen much worse she could have died with my grandaughter in a crash, or at her home and no one would have known until the next visitation pick up.  IF only they would have believed she was misusing her , methadone, belladona, clausapan and getting street drugs but they believed her!!! And I had to with my son who is broken sit on the floor ( my son could not speak ) and tell her her mommie has gone to heaven and then I placed my hand on my grandaughters heart and told her her mommie will live here in her heart!!!!!!!

 

There is so much more my friends but more later!!!!

 

A grandmother should never never have to do this !!!! My heart is forever broken!!!!!

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Comments: 112

Robin"Buffy's Stunt Double" D. Jan 6, 2009, 3:12pm EST
This is so sad. Sending thoughts and prayers your way.
Kat W. Jan 6, 2009, 3:14pm EST
April, I am so sorry. This is awful.
Maria W. Jan 6, 2009, 3:14pm EST
OMG, i am so sorry for your Son's and Grand daughter's loss. God be with them in their time of need.
Jessica S. Jan 6, 2009, 3:14pm EST
oh, april! i am so sad to hear this news... my prayers are with you and your family...
Vikki M. Jan 6, 2009, 3:16pm EST
I am so very sorry! How horrible! My heart goes out to you and your whole family at this difficult time.
Cyndi B. Jan 6, 2009, 3:16pm EST
I am so sorry to hear this sad, sad news. I will be sending along prayer for your family

God Bless!
David W. Jan 6, 2009, 3:16pm EST
Having lost a child who left a little girl behind, I feel your pain.
Oh April, I am so saddened by this news...
LEЯA © Politcally Incorrect M. Jan 6, 2009, 3:19pm EST
Blessings to your son and grand daughter.
norma e. Jan 6, 2009, 3:19pm EST
Oh April I am so sorry. My prayers are with you and your family at this time.
Bridget ♥ Jan 6, 2009, 3:20pm EST
I know that nothing I can say will make you feel better! I'm so sorry!
Rae M. Jan 6, 2009, 3:21pm EST
I am so sorry this happened to your poor little innocent grandaughter. I am also sorry that you had to be the one to tell her. I am sure it was very heart breaking. I have had the misfortune of having to tell people that a loved one has died it is one of the most difficult things to have to do in life. Big hugs to you.
Teresa A. Jan 6, 2009, 3:22pm EST
Oh, that is awful. I am so sorry for you, your son and granddaughter. Sometimes you just can't help people.....
Stacey *Mamasaid* D. Jan 6, 2009, 3:25pm EST
My sympathy and prayers are with you and your family. Very tragic.
Kelly M. Jan 6, 2009, 3:25pm EST
I am sorry for your loss...
juley g. Jan 6, 2009, 3:28pm EST
How horrible. I am so sorry.
Netty B. Jan 6, 2009, 3:29pm EST
Oh hon, BIG hugs and lots and lots of prayers for your family....
Linda T. Jan 6, 2009, 3:29pm EST
I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad it did not happen when your granddaughter was with her. I can well understand the mix of emotions you must be going through. It is a shame that addictions take over a person and destroy so very much. It is a shame that this poor girl was unable to conquer these drugs.
Sandy (back in Ohio...blah!) Jan 6, 2009, 3:31pm EST
I am sorry for your son and granddaughters loss. No grandmother should have to tell their grandchild such terrible news.
Cindy A. Jan 6, 2009, 3:31pm EST
so very sorry...my prayers go out to all of you
Sunaura *. Jan 6, 2009, 3:32pm EST
So sorry for your loss
Kelly Kay Jan 6, 2009, 3:32pm EST
Wow, that is just devastating. I am so sorry for your family, you really showed so much love and empathy in telling your grand daughter her Mommy will always be in her heart. That poor girl, I am so incredibly sorry!
Nancy Biri Jan 6, 2009, 3:32pm EST
That is sad. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers
Sandy M. Jan 6, 2009, 3:36pm EST
April, I am so sorry. my prayers go out to you and your family.
Brittney R. Jan 6, 2009, 3:43pm EST
I am so sorry for your family's loss! I know words can't make it better, but I will keep them, especially your grandaughter, in my prayers.
Elizabeth H. Jan 6, 2009, 3:44pm EST
This is heartbreaking. I will keep all of you in my prayers.
♥ Adair ♥ K. Jan 6, 2009, 3:47pm EST
So sorry. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
April H. Jan 6, 2009, 3:52pm EST
This is so sad, I'll pray for you and your family!
Dena A. Jan 6, 2009, 3:53pm EST
I am soooo sooo sorry to hear this. My heart goes out to you and your family .. and hers. I have lost a friend to a methodone overdose too. No one knows if he did it intentionally or not ... but he wasn't even 25. Drugs are so dangerous. So many people use them thinking they could never get addicted. Then before they know it the drugs have taken over. I am so sorry this little one has lost her mother .... thank god she still has you and your son. Nothing is ever going to bring her back .. but her memory can live on in the hearts of all who loved her. When little Drea gets older please do encourage her to 'know' her mother. Keep pictures of her for the little one ... and be prapared to answer questions as she gets older. I had a friend growing up who lost her mother .. there is always a void there .. but all you can do is love her ...

Good luck ... and god bless.
Tammy N. Jan 6, 2009, 4:03pm EST
This is tragic. You are very brave for making it though this!! I wish you all the best life has to bring. I honestly believe everything happens for a reason. Maybe it happened to spare your granddaughter many, many heartbreaks later.
Quirky Jessi Jan 6, 2009, 4:06pm EST
I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this all, from the beginning of knowing that she was using drugs and worrying about everyone's safety, I'm sure, to having to tell the little girl her mommy had gone to heaven, to everything that is yet to come. Hang in there and I wish you all the best of luck in coping with this tragedy.
Very sad...so sorry April...
Terry M. Jan 6, 2009, 4:15pm EST
I will pray for your family.
Dawn S. Jan 6, 2009, 4:15pm EST
God bless her and you!
Kimberly Ripley Jan 6, 2009, 4:19pm EST
I'm so sorry, and will keep your family....especially your little granddaughter, in my prayers.
Sandra H. Jan 6, 2009, 4:23pm EST
I am so sorry for this tragic loss! Your grandaughter, son, you and your entire family are in my prayers......please take care of yourself.
Dagmara H. Jan 6, 2009, 4:24pm EST
I am so very sorry
CyberGwen ! Jan 6, 2009, 4:29pm EST
I am so sorry.
Holly K. Jan 6, 2009, 4:29pm EST
I am so sorry!!!
Cheryl W. Jan 6, 2009, 4:38pm EST
Oh, April. My eyes are filled with tears at even thinking of this. I can imagine how heart wrenching this was for you to have to do. My prayers are with you and your family. Please take care..
Nora Davenport Jan 6, 2009, 4:42pm EST
What heartbreaking news! I am soooooo sorry to hear you lost your daughter........I just cannot imagine all the pain.......yes, I have tears in my eyes, reading all of this.......the poor little thing.......my heart just breaks for your granddaughter.........all of you are in my prayers!
Bob B. Jan 6, 2009, 4:45pm EST
I am so, so sorry, April.
Jennifer N. Jan 6, 2009, 5:18pm EST
April, that's just heartbreaking. You tried to tell them - it's all you could do. Hopefully Drea copes with it okay.
Amanda C. Jan 6, 2009, 5:21pm EST
That is so heartbreaking. I am in tears right now, what a terrible thing to have happen to your family.
I am so very sorry.
So sorry to hear this April. How sad! My prayers are with you and your family also.
Renee S. Jan 6, 2009, 5:34pm EST
I'm so sorry for you and your family...
Cecilia Lyne Jan 6, 2009, 5:36pm EST
I am sorry to hear about your lose. I will pray for your family.
Drenda M. Jan 6, 2009, 5:41pm EST
April, I know your heart aches.....I have lost many friends and family members to addiction and I too have struggled with addiction and have put my child in less than ideal situations....the only peace I have found is thru my involvement in 12 step recovery programs....without all their and my Higher Power's help none of this would make any sense and I could not forgive myself or others.....God bless and protect the innocent children including your grandchild who don't deserve the life that addiction involves...
Amy just hangin' out M. Jan 6, 2009, 5:57pm EST
I am so sorry! You are all in my thoughts and prayers!
Vivian P. Jan 6, 2009, 6:01pm EST
This is so sad I too went through the court system over an unfit mother. O am so sorry you and your had to go through this

Love and Prayers and many Blessing to that precious little girl
Larry H. Jan 6, 2009, 6:44pm EST
Everyone is saying they should have listened to you now., Really sad for that happening. She has you to and your son to love her now..
Pam S. Jan 6, 2009, 6:45pm EST
This is so sad, my heart goes out to you.
Heather M. Jan 6, 2009, 6:49pm EST
All of our love thoughts and prayers go out to you and that precious little girl.
CC Miranda the artrat (or am i?) Jan 6, 2009, 6:49pm EST
wow, that stinks as a way to start of the new year.
Jennifer G. Jan 6, 2009, 7:06pm EST
I am so sorry about the loss your family is experiencing. I will keep you and your family, especially your granddaughter, in my prayers.
Donna S. Jan 6, 2009, 7:15pm EST
I am so sorry. How horrible. She is at peace now and no more struggling with bad decisions.
sheila ~the hapless housewife~ j. Jan 6, 2009, 7:21pm EST
Oh no! I am so sorry!
Brenda (square peg in a round hole) H. Jan 6, 2009, 7:45pm EST
I am so sorry. Sending big hugs your way.
Deborah Panger Jan 6, 2009, 7:54pm EST
My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family,
B F. Jan 6, 2009, 8:03pm EST
My heart and prayers go out to you and your family in this difficult time...
dee b. Jan 6, 2009, 8:07pm EST
I wish words could ease the pain your feeling, but alas only time will truly do that. This is one of the many tragedys that befall us sometimes in life. But take heart they do make us stronger in the end. I pray the best for your family, especially for your little grandaughter. From what you wrote you obviously have a great love for her, and that in itself will help her.
Angela <:3---}~~~~ M. Jan 6, 2009, 8:48pm EST
That is just so sad that no one believed enough to help her, and now her actions will effect that child for the rest of her life. Our mental health system royal sucks, sounds like she needed inpatient care. When parents do this children live with guilt that they may have done something to cause the parent to do this. I suggest as she grows up do everything possible to see that she knows that it was not her fault.
sharon SugarMomma is a wise woman, Jan 6, 2009, 8:54pm EST
Your grand daughter doesn't truly understand right now, but the good news is that she has healthy loving family to raise her.

Blessings to her and your family.
Heather ~of the Whippets~ M. Jan 6, 2009, 8:55pm EST
I'm sorry to hear that, April.
Cindy B. Jan 6, 2009, 9:15pm EST
I'm so sorry... =(
Karen M. Jan 6, 2009, 9:21pm EST
I am so sorry !
Penny M. Jan 6, 2009, 9:24pm EST
I am so sorry...my heart goes out to your family.
Marilyn M. Jan 6, 2009, 9:51pm EST
I am so sorry.
Ruth Luce Jan 6, 2009, 9:54pm EST
Oh, you have told her in the most loving and caring way I've ever heard, how hard that must have been I can only imagine, my deepest sympathies with you all.
Chris E. Jan 6, 2009, 9:55pm EST
April I am so sorry. Although nobody can ever replace her mom she has you and I am sure that you are going to be an important part in her life.
Donna Besso Jan 6, 2009, 10:44pm EST
Such a tragedy, I am so sorry for your loss.
Mary M. Jan 6, 2009, 10:44pm EST
What words of comfort can I possibly give? My heart aches with you. My prayers are going up for your family.
Amy H. Jan 6, 2009, 11:07pm EST
So sorry about your loss.
Judy Kiser Jan 6, 2009, 11:12pm EST
I'm so sorry that this happened, but thankful that you were there for your little grand daughter. I will be praying for all of you.
Steph-in-NE ..... Jan 6, 2009, 11:30pm EST
so sorry may our heart and prayer follow you through these rough days ahead,,,
michelle K. Jan 6, 2009, 11:33pm EST
I am so sorry. My heart breaks for all of you!
allinadayswork A. Jan 6, 2009, 11:44pm EST
Oh my goodness. I'm so sorry to hear this. Many thoughts and prayers coming your way, your son's way, and your granddaughter's way. May you all have peace and no more worry now.
Wilma M. Jan 7, 2009, 1:55am EST
How very tragic. I'm so sorry!
Teresa W. Jan 7, 2009, 3:00am EST
I am so sorry for your loss during this difficult time.
Terry White Jan 7, 2009, 3:25am EST
You all will be okay. It probably doesn't feel like it, but you will. Your granddaughter will probably be okay quicker because it sounds like her mom wasn't very close to her and children that age move on a lot quicker than adults. It's just so good that she didn't take your granddaughter with her or have it happen when your granddaughter was older so that it would be even more traumatizing. Hang in there. You poor, poor thing!!!
I am so sorry. This is awful.
j - Frugal Mom - r. Jan 7, 2009, 8:45am EST
I'm so sorry for you and your family April.
☼ Lisa ☼ G. Jan 7, 2009, 8:50am EST
such a sad story, I am so very sorry to hear this! Sending prayers your way!
Lisa C. Jan 7, 2009, 9:07am EST
Oh April, I am so sorry. What a horrible and difficult thing for you to have to do. My thoughts will be with you and your family.
Gretchen Lee Bourquin Jan 7, 2009, 9:12am EST
So sorry
*LORA* M. Jan 7, 2009, 9:26am EST
I am sorry to read of this. God be with you.
J W. Jan 7, 2009, 9:28am EST
I am so sorry April. I will pray for you and your family.
donna f. Jan 7, 2009, 10:09am EST
April,
My deepest sympathies for your loss. You and the family are in my prayers.
Robin G. Jan 7, 2009, 10:36am EST
It is so sad that it came to this, my thoughts are with you.
I am so sorry April. I'm sorry for many things............that no one listened to you when you tried to enlighten them.....I'm sorry for all the things poor Drea went through that no one else knows about......I'm sorry for the scars that she will carry because of all this.........I'm so sorry your son is hurting from all of this also................I'm sorry you have to be the strong one and take care of all their broken hearts. I pray you will have the strength, I think you will.
Julie Ann Dawson Jan 7, 2009, 10:57am EST
Yet by the grace of the gods, remember the little girl still has her father, and a very strong grandmother. At 3, she'll never really understand her mother's self-destructiveness, and with your help will simply remember her mommie is in heaven. Just begin work now on creating happy memories for her.
kelldogg ! Jan 7, 2009, 11:02am EST
i'm sorry for your loss
Peter Joseph Swanson Jan 7, 2009, 11:41am EST
That is super awful !!!
Wurdzgurl !!! Jan 7, 2009, 12:39pm EST
This is very sad and it's important that you attempt to hook up with a grief counselor who can help you walk through the developmental differences that children experience grief go through. It's typical that children don't start grieving until the adults in their lives are finished with the grief process. It's amazing how our minds protect us. I'm sorry for your loss.
Billie H. Jan 7, 2009, 1:10pm EST
I am so sorry.
Trish A. Jan 7, 2009, 1:38pm EST
I'm so sorry. Why is it that the children have to pay so deeply? Bless you in your journey with this little girl.
Janet Somewhere Up On The Mount Jan 7, 2009, 1:44pm EST
I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine.
Prayers going up from Pittsburgh.
Karen Lerner Jan 7, 2009, 1:47pm EST
I can't even imagine what that must have been like - and I don't really want to. The best one can say is that maybe this terrible thing will allow your granddaughter to grow up in one home, a safe and stable home, instead of having to endure decades of goodness knows what with her unfortunate mother.

She's very lucky to have a Grandma who loves her so much.
Desiree T. Jan 7, 2009, 1:47pm EST
Hugs to you babe!
Janet H. Jan 7, 2009, 1:48pm EST
I'm so sorry. That's very sad.