It was Christmas Eve this year. My son (who will be 4 years old in a few weeks) was acting up and not sharing a toy with his cousin. I took him aside and explained to him that his behavior wasn't acceptable and was about to stick him timeout. Well, before I even finished my sentence, my mom yelled across the room at my son, got his attention away from me and started screaming at him. I quickly said "Do you mind? Don't interrupt me when I'm disciplining my son. It's not your place to discipline him, it's mine."
Of course, my mom was pissed off by that. She thought that was about the worst thing I could have said to her. In her opinion, any child in her field of vision who acts up should be prepared to face her wrath.
To me, it's disrespectful to me to interrupt me when I'm disciplining my child. She undermined my authority with my son. First of all, she took his focus away from me and onto her. He's the type of kid that needs to be taken aside and calmly explained to what he did wrong. He's NOT the type of kid that responds well to screaming and spanking (which is my mom's first and only choice for everything).
Now I know some people will say that grandmas have had more experience than moms and so they know better. Well, that's bull to me. In some cases, I think that's valid, but not in the case of discipline. Each and every child is DIFFERENT and what works for one child may not work for another. I am the one who spends 24 hours a day with my son, not grandma. I know him better, and I know what works and what doesn't.
What's your take on this? Have you ever had a relative or friend interrupt you when you were disciplining your child? What are your thoughts?