Last night, I attended a Christmas party at my mother's house. Mostly family attended the party; however, a couple of my sister's friends attended the party since my sister, her signficant other and their children reside with my mother.
A couple attended the party and this couple is friends with my sister and her significant other. Actually, my sister's significant other works for the guy friend, we will call him Scott. After Scott and his wife (we will call her Leslie) left the party, I commented on how nice Leslie is and how I enjoyed meeting her. My sister then replied that she feels bad for Leslie, so of course I asked her why. She then said that Scott cheats on Leslie all the time with various women. I asked her if Leslie knows about this and she said that she doesn't think Leslie does know. I was totally shocked! I asked my sister if she had ever mentioned it to Leslie and she said that no, she had not and did not want to get involved. I then replied,"Well, isn't she your friend though?" My sister said that yes, Leslie is her friend, but it is their relationship. At that point, I just ended the conversation, but I was still just stupified by it.
To be honest, I do not know what I would do in this situation. I think if a person were my really good friend, I would have to tell them that their significant other was cheating on them. I mean, what if the cheating mate contracted a disease from someone and then gave it to my friend??? I would feel horrible if i knew about the affairs and didn't tell my friend about it.
What would you do in this situation? Would you keep the information to yourself and just remain uninvolved in the situation? Would you confront the cheater? Or would you mention it to your friend?? I know in my heart that part of the reason my sister does not say anything is because her significant other works for the cheater in the relationship. I don't know...sticky situation.
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If it were one of my friends, I would broach the subject. If she didn't seem concerned, I would assume that b or c was the case, and I would drop it.
Mooch
I don't know things are really a catch 22, you never know how the other person is going to react if you tell them. I try to give people the benifit of the doubt and the opportunity to straighten up their act. If the person is going to be told they are being cheated on it is best done by the person who is doing the cheating.
Yes, some friends deny it happening and get mad at you. But you know what When that happens you tell them when tehy want to wake up, you'll be there. They will respect you more in the end.
glitter-graphics.com
Merry Christmas
You tell your friend her whatever is cheating.
They split up.
You offer a shoulder of comfort and support and agree with your friend what a jerk, butthead, and anything else she says he is - is true, he is all of those things.
A little while down the road he comes crawling back and they make up.
Your friend never speaks to you again because you said her whatever was a jerk, butthead and whatever else she came with.
You just have to chose your battles carefully and decide if you want to risk the friendship because her whatever cheated on her - which you had nothing to do with in the first place.
No easy answers here.
Merry Christmas!
Luckily for you, you do not have a friendship with this lady, because then you would have to make a decision of your own and then you would have to live with it.
After that incident, I couldn't deny what I'd seen, so I discussed it with my fiancé, and we ended up deciding that his friend had to know for his own safety... with his wife having multiple partners, he was at risk for any STD she might pick up, including AIDS. It was a really hard choice, not because telling him might be the wrong thing to do, but because no one wants to be the bearer of that kind of news.
In an odd turn of events, when my fiance called to invite his friend over to talk, the friend instead asked us to come to his place because he needed someone else to see the files he'd just found on his computer. In cleaning out old, unnecessary files, he'd come across the computer's cache where it stored text versions of every email from her account. Not knowing what all these text files were, he'd read the first one, which was an email from a guy confirming a date with her. There were several after that, some of which were really, really revealing, and we didn't have to bear any news at all.
In almost all cases, women whose husband's cheat on them - KNOW...they may live in a state of denial but when he comes home smelling like Dial and all you ever use is Dove - duh he's doing the dirty with someone else.
So, bottom line is that she'll eventually find out for herself - and who knows - she may have a little sideline going on herself and not much care. Salud
Have a Great & powerful day W/J!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
if it is not your friend, it is not really your business though but i can understand the dilemma
your sister has to make the choice and made it
there are worse things than cheating in my opinion and it does not mean everything if someone is being faithful