by Becca J.
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December 5, 2008

Ugh . . . . my mother . . . .

December 17, 2008 05:55 PM EST
views: 106 | rating: 9.5/10 (18 votes) | comments: 32

My aunt whom we all just got close to again in the last 6 months or so sent my mother a check for a small monetary amount for Christmas. 

My mother & I both know my aunt (her sister) is easily offended by what she feels are slights.  My kids and I wrote "Thank You" letters for what she send us.  And sent a card & photos ect. 

My mother also got a card from my aunt 3 days after I got mine. 

Today after my mother got home from her bible study, she questions me, if I told my aunt that she is a JW or not.  Because the check is dated 12-25-08 and says Merry Christmas on the memo line. 

My mother decided she is returning the check to my aunt, because she doesn't celebrate Christmas.  And refuses to acknowledge the spirt the check was sent in. 

All I can do is shake my head . . . .

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Comments: 32

Laura C. Dec 17, 2008, 5:59pm EST
it wasn't your place to tell your aunt that, it was hers.
Netty B. Dec 17, 2008, 6:13pm EST
well I guess that is between the 2 of them. You did right on your part.
Karen L. Dec 17, 2008, 6:26pm EST
Apparently your mom is going to make lots of enemies and hurt feelings with her "new" religion and beliefs.
Amy K. Dec 18, 2008, 6:01pm EST
Sorry that this is stressful and messy. I would just say thank you and accept it. Otherwise, lots of bad feelings arise from a sweet deed.
Rebekka S. Dec 18, 2008, 10:23pm EST
Hope that it doesn't offend your aunt. Maybe your mom should've just accepted it as a kind gesture. :)
Debra H. Dec 19, 2008, 10:18am EST
Well thats sad Bekka but it is typical JW behavior too, and not meaning any offense to those who choose to be JW, but it's just another recruitment tool.

To you and yours ...

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Cortney R. Dec 19, 2008, 2:02pm EST
I think it's the thought that counts and that's what your mom should have thought about.
Becca J. Dec 19, 2008, 2:52pm EST
My thought was she should accept it in the spirt it was given.

If Mom didn't want to keep it for her self then she could donate it to someone or group the could use it.

But I can't see offending the giver, on the principle that shedecided to be a JW without telling our entire family.
Sandra L. Dec 19, 2008, 9:55pm EST
So did becoming a JW automatically make her rude and inconsiderate or do she and her sister have underlying problems?
Becca J. Dec 20, 2008, 1:12am EST
Actually, it seems to be mostly the JW issue on Christmas.
Elizabeth Madrigal Dec 21, 2008, 4:42am EST
You had me as soon as you said "Ugh... my mother". I have stopped playing the game with relatives who want to have problems and crazy-make. I let them do whatever they want to do, and I don't take responsibility for them or what I cannot control. Emotional blackmail is about all I got before and eventually I became estranged from my mother. It worked for both of us, but that would not have been my choice.
Lisa C. Dec 29, 2008, 10:19am EST

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.* Sandi * Dec 29, 2008, 4:29pm EST
Thank you for sharing
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Ginny A. Dec 29, 2008, 4:36pm EST
She could have cashed the check and then donated it to a worthy cause. Then everyone would be happy.
Cecilia Lyne Dec 29, 2008, 6:14pm EST
Hopefully she was not offended
Heather ~of the Whippets~ M. Dec 30, 2008, 12:44pm EST
The sudden religious conversion and rude behavior makes me wonder if these things may actually be linked to a medical issue.
Kelly M. Dec 31, 2008, 3:15am EST
She should have told your aunt about it...
Sandi S. Dec 31, 2008, 7:34pm EST
She should thank you Aunt and donate the money to a childrens charity.
Lin B. Jan 1, 2009, 11:35am EST
got to love them relatives thru the hoilday season....well I guess all year is botter!
Andrea (Ms. Conservative) L. Jan 6, 2009, 5:03pm EST
God Bless - HH
regina k. Jan 7, 2009, 3:32am EST
good luck with this one!
Nancy Biri Jan 8, 2009, 10:48pm EST
Here to lend a helping hand
Elle L. Jan 8, 2009, 10:51pm EST
family politics can be very stressful. I hope it all blows over soon.
Ariel Storm Jan 9, 2009, 9:13am EST
I try to avoid family politics at all costs. There is absolutely no good that can come from being dragged into it.
Baylee C. Jan 9, 2009, 11:22pm EST
I feel for ya. I, too, deal with too much of the "family politics", and my therapist is finally getting it in my head that I don't need to feel guilty for not going to family events that are just gonna make me miserable!
Austin Cushing Feb 5, 2009, 5:08pm EST
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V S. Feb 8, 2009, 8:17pm EST
My hubby's sister is JW and we always send her a Christmas card but I usually make sure it's one that says Happy Holidays. She always graciously accepts it but doesn't reciprocate (and we don't expect her to).
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Lesli B. Feb 19, 2009, 12:19am EST
Parents, gotta love 'em!
Dorothy H. Feb 19, 2009, 8:51am EST
Points Nation!!!
K D Lovett Mar 14, 2009, 10:57am EDT
I have had students that were not allowed to take part in any sort of "Christmas" activities. It was important that the families let the teachers know. Same with family members that practice a different religion. Sharing information can help prevent hard feelings.

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