Yes, I'm ranting a little. Lester Holt talked about a new story that said smiling is contagious. I personally think ranting is also a little contagious. Tonight I'm ranting over annoying things people do.
There you are sitting across the table from your friend, relative, etc (person y) and they say to you, "I don't want to put you in the middle, but why is person x so upset with me?" Your mind begins racing. Doesn't answering or not answering put you in the middle? The question itself puts you in the middle. It implies either a. you know something and you aren't telling or b. you are willing to tell. Person x of course had given me permission to tell since she was not happy with this person.
So, you spill the beans. Of course, person Y is offended. She's offended by you. But the reality here is, you never had a choice. As much as person Y claims she wouldn't have been offended if you hadn't told her - everyone knows she would have. If you weren't already angry with person Y, you are now.
That is mental assault. You are basically putting your friend in a position where she has no choice but tell you. Why are people so unable to understand this.
And while I'm at it, don't ask people things you don't want to know and then get mad at them when they tell you. If you've been a jerk and you ask, "Do you think I've been a jerk?" You have no right to get ticked off when they say, "Yes, I think you've been a jerk."
Oh, and one last thing, if your friend doesn't share your opinion that doesn't make her snob. It makes you a snob for not expecting that other people have opinions of their own.
Ok, I feel a little better for now.
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Comments: 25
Gosh this sounds like an algebra problem.
Vicky lol yeah but she knew good and well I knew what the problem was lol. I'm a horrible liar.
I was just merely saying what my momma always told me ... "Mind your own damn business." Then when one of the people that were the asker are on the other side of the spectrum, they won't have to feel like they have to hide anything from you or you're the gossip queen.
...ok every once in awhile I don't live by my own rules. I HATE when that happens.
And people wonder why I prefer books to real people :)P
Do you think I do that???
here's the better question.
If Y had no reason to ask you "What was wrong...." because Y knew the whole entire time (unless they are incredibly dense - in which case they should stop over analyzing everything anyway-it doesn't bode well with the denseness)
then how do you answer Y. You know Y HAS to know what's wrong. You just know this. So this leads to the question.....why did X feel the NEED to ask you anyhow. Unless ofcourse, the sole intention was to place you in the middle.
I mean, maybe Y running from the house and getting pissed off mught lead to a clue about what is wrong. Just maybe. It's just a thought.......
Then obviously both parties know or should know what the problem is. I mean, the problem was never hidden, and is not a new problem.
Maybe the you should deduce that Y asking "what's wrong" is in a sense related to the fact that A.)they know already b.)are trying to force you to take a side c.)love drama d.)really love drama!!!!
Yes, I said it twice.
I pretty much deduced that. I just keep wondering if Y gets that by asking that she is putting me in the middle. I'm going to be A. I choose A because it is a snobby letter.
So x-ybr>
I wish I could remember how to solve that.
Oh yeah is it x2y+A
Hmm 2 Ys would be interesting.
I am suddenly realizing why I teach history and not math.
So I have no idea to solve that other than breaking a calculator
I don't want to get you in the middle of anything.. but has Dawne said anything to you about me?
Of course they do.