Do you want a bed of your own? Without your SO in it ?

We share - but sometimes when he snores - I think I might like your idea! LOL

We don't have separate beds, but it wouldn't hurt my feelings if he did want to go that route....we have the same sort of issues that you described...I like it cool, and I like cotton sheets....and he often hogs the bed....I've gotten out of bed and gone to the other side or to the couch from time to time because I didn't have room to turn over....he learned a long time ago how much I value my sleep.....I do know people who have separate beds, and in some cases, separate rooms....

I think it would put more distance between us emotionally if we had separate beds....but who knows until you try?

This is one of those issues that I need to do my homework on because I'm a firm believer in the expression 'Happy Wife - Happy Life'

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Yeah, I probably would be more comfortable in my own bed, but at the same time I also like having her next to me.

I watch King of the Hill. last night Hank was showing his son how him and Peg had twin beds pushed together. He says, I like my mattress firm, she likes hers extra firm. LoL! But, honestly I have heard of others doing that as well.

We share a bed but many times I have thought how separate beds might actually be a good thing. I would not even mind having separate rooms.

Good luck with this one. I can understand the situation because it's crucial to get a decent night's sleep. Sorry you're having such a challenge with this. At least you are being thoughtful of your wife's feelings.

When Terry stays here, or I stay up at his place I have mixed feelings about the beds. For the most part I really like having him there beside me. He keeps me warm, and I sleep a lot better than I ever have. Then on occasion I won't sleep very well at all, that's typically when he stays down here because my bed is smaller than his. We're both 'fluffy' people, and I end up jabbed up against my shelves a lot. So if we had a bigger bed, everything would be better. Which is why we're taking his when we move into our apartment and not mine. Not to mention he's too tall for my bed so his feet hang off the end. =-\ He likes to steal the blankets too, so I just have an extra one I keep beside the bed, and I'll put that one on if I wake up to find me lacking a cover again. At this early stage of our relationship, I believe that individual beds once we live together would be a bad thing. It would hurt us emotionally more than anything I suppose. But even when we get older, I don't think I would enjoy having separate beds, and separate bedrooms? No way.



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we've slept apart since my injury (I didn't know him and I don't sleep well), if we ever have a house we'll have it with 3 extra bedrooms, an office for each of us and a joint bedroom with very large bed, his parents has separate rooms

Jody I am a respiratory therapist who for the past 15 years works with people who have sleep disorders. I have to say that what I have seen very few people sleep in the same bed.
I have restless legs and my now ex-husband could not sleep with me...I did not blame him.
If I do not take my meds I average 75-events an hour....that is very disruptive to another person. Our bodies do not function if we are not getiing restful sleep. If you have a chance do a liitle research on circadian rhythms. Very interesting about our body clocks.
I am a lark, asleep early and up early. This is genetic.

Funny, now that I am divorced my RLS is much improved hmmmm

I totally understand where you're coming from here Jody.
Being almost 6' tall, I take up a lot of space....not to mention that I'm not exactly skin and bones either. In addition, I'm a chronic insomniac so when I do sleep, I sleep hard and snore as well as toss and turn.
All I can truthfully tell you from my heart is....that whatever is decided BOTH of you have to be completely and totally ok with it and then there will be no problem at all. If one of you is even the least bit uncomfortable of unhappy with it then don't do it at the risk of ruining your relationship. Have you ever thought of a much bigger bed?

Let me ask my cats.

If I had one, I'd share...

My husband has his own bed and room but we often share our bed but if he gets to warm or his back begins hurting (He had back surgery and there are days and nights he can't sleep) I am an insomnic and like a cooler bedroom. He says I hog the covers but he snores and then I cannot sleep. We love each other and we often do cuddle in the big Kingsize bed get togather and often do fall asleep togather but other times we like our space. It works and works well. No problem and we actually are happier with it. Started doing this about 11 years ago. It has not affected our intimacy at all. If one of us feels lonely we know where the other is and are always welcome until we feel sufficently loved and wanted.

My parents sleep in separate bedrooms unless there is company staying over. My mother has sleep apnea and wears a mask at night; my father has back problems and needs a much softer mattress than my mother can tolerate.

When I have stayed at my boyfriend's house, about halfway through the night he will get up and go sleep in the recliner--I snore, but he has sleep apnea and sleeps better on a slope. Or I will go sleep on the couch if his apnea/snoring keeps me awake--then he travels to the recliner and I migrate back to the bed....his cat generally sleeps with whoever stays put the longest.

We say all the time we need to get our own beds but we don't have room!! LOL! We have our own blankets, and if Don can't sleep because as he says I am hogging the bed, he goes on the couch-we would have no problem with 2 beds!!

Oh Kerrell that is so sweet

Although I understand the reasons behind separate beds, I don't think I'd be happy about it nor would hubby. We just got a bigger bed as we got bigger, and we've learned to find a way around the resident cover thief (me). When I make the bed in the morning, I make sure to put more sheet and blanket on his side so that during the night when I pull them, he still has a bit left. I've finally stopped kicking him during the night (I think), so there haven't been any complaints for a few years now.

as soon as there was a empty bedroom i moved out of 'our' room and into my 'own' room.......love it love it ......he does too.....on our wedding night 43 years ago he was snoring so loudly i got up and got in the other bed covering my ears with pillows.....lol.... maybe we should have had seperate rooms that night too........

buy one size bigger blanket than your bed size and it should help that problem at least. my husband steals the blanket too.

No, not really. We have a kingsize. I have wanted to put a pillow over his face on nights he snores way too loud and my sleeping pill doesn't work, or when he steals my pillows. But the truth of the matter is no matter what I do I can't sleep if he isn't in bed with me at night. It doesn't matter if I take my ambein or what. If he isn't on the other side of the bed I just can't sleep. When he goes hunting I sleep so lousy we both crash when he comes home.

We have had separate beds for years.....he snores and won't put any heat on in the bedroom in the winter(he likes a cold room). I, on the other hand, really dislike the cold. I tried sleeping in the cold and went to bed dressed like an Eskimo, didn't work! The solution was to sleep in separate rooms and it has worked out great. We will be celebrating our 38th anniversary in Feb.

I went for years sharing beds, first with siblings, and then married, and all my life I thought I was one of those people who just slept on and off. Now, these last few years, Hubby and I live in seperate towns, for situational reasons (working toward our retirement out here on the ranch). Having now most of the time having only myself to sleep with, except on the weekends when Hubby comes and stays, I've realized how sleep deprived I've been most my life due to sharing beds, with another.

I sleep so well. all through the night, but when Hubby comes, I get mashed, groped, pushed, too hot, too cold, and on and on, and by the time Hubby goes back to his town, I'm exhausted. He also snores horribly loudly.

It is nice to have coffee in bed, and snuggle, in the mornings, but through the night, we both need to rest well. I treasure, now, my alone time.

we not only have separate beds but our own rooms as well and I love it. I can have my choice of decor, bedding, andas many pillows as I want without having them thrown on the floor everynight. But to be truthful I do still have to share my bed with a 12 pound Jack Russel Terrier and a 16 pound cat.

We don't have separate beds, though I am the one who would enjoy it. (He snores, and sometimes I send him down to the couch). However, I think it would be taken the wrong way if I suggested separate beds. Then the cats would have to choose between the two of us and it could lead to a lot of consternation...

I found this great luxury natural mattress. We have separate beds due to snoring issues and its great being able to have exactly what I want.