Billy Joel said it,
and I agree.
Don't go changing,
to try and please me
You cannot change me,
you cannot change anyone,
but yourself.
If we change to please,
are we being true,
are we being real,
do they see who we really are?
I walked down that path once.
It was uneven,
filled with thorns that
caught my soul and
stones that stumbled
the life I was trying to create.
Now I follow the cadence of
my different drummer.
Yes this path has its own
challenges, but you know me.
I am what you see.
So please don't go changing,
to try and please me.
Let me love you for who and
what you are, the person I
want to see is the person
inside. The person only
you can be.
Oh no, a pop song on a poem! I don't know about men, but alot of women I have known seem to have a problem with this. You meet a guy you like and because he is into X then all of the sudden you are into X also (whatever X =). I have been thinking about this and I have to say I agree with Billy Joel, I like people to be just the way they are. By all means work on the things you don't like about you, otherwise be who you are.
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A true person with an honest soul is what I've always sought.
I only have ONE "setting"... "jean". And, if people don't like it, they don't have to be near it if they don't want to... Surprizingly, most people I meet "want to"... Go figure... No accounting for taste, I guess... ;o)
I Love the song.
Yes, ladies, I am looking for someone special to walk the remaining steps with, to smell the roses with, hell, even to tiptoe through the tulips with while it's raining. But being in my mid-forties you kind of have to accept me for who I am and allow me to accept you for who you are.......
Don't go changing to try and please me ........... If I'm interested, I'll take you just the way you are!
People who try to change themselves to please another usually suffer from low self-esteem. They don't think they are good enough the way they are, and unfortunately, their attempts to make themselves more appealing usually end up failing, which lowers their self-esteem even further.
And there are many people who are more than willing to let someone jump through hoops trying to win their favor.
M A N Y !
http://happypeople.gather.com/
My take: We (women or men) are attracted to their ways, marry them and then try to change those ways. Doesn't work.
to share by this token write healthy !!!
My MIL helped me to change for the better! To this day, I credit her for teaching me to be more confident, to defend myself, when needed, and I credit my hubby for teaching me to stop apologizing for everything!!!
Change is good when you know the person you are isn't the person you want to be!!! Thanks for this, Chana!!!!