2nd child... Extremely laid back... Is this normal???

As you may all know, I'm a new parent and before becoming a parent, I was laid back and a little uptight. When I had my first child, I was laid back, but VERY uptight (worrying to the extreme) and wanting things to be so called "perfect."

Now that I've had my 2nd child, things have sooooo changed. I feel more relaxed about things, since I know what to expect and since both children are close in age, I can remember mostly what to expect.

Pretty much now, I'm very laid back...

I don't worry as much as I did with my first child (her going to Granny's house, anxiety of leaving child, etc), but I know if things happen, it isn't beyond my control, but I will be the best mommy I can to my children and make sure their needs are met.

So, now as for my anxiety leveling down and being WAY more laid back... I'm not nagging Walter to do things "right that second", instead, I'm the type to say "let her cry. She will cry when she is hungry" as opposed to my first child, I fed her every 3 hours, made sure her diapers were changed EVERY 3 hours, woke her up for feedings (she wouldn't aware us though), but as for this child. It seems soooo easy. I mean, parenting, that is. It doesn't seem as difficult as my first. Maybe I have adjusted.

Does parenting your 2nd or more children influence how laid back you are about parenting? Does it change your parenting styles and anxieties? Is this normal??? Can any Moms or fathers relate to this, less worrying thing and being more laid back after the first child?

Don't take me as if I don't care.

I make sure my child is fed, changed, held for bonding time, but otherwise, if she isn't crying... I don't jump that instant. I just let things happen as they go. As long as she is changed, happy, not crying, then I'm relaxed and not worried and uptight.

As for my first child, if she cried, I jumped up immediately running. Now I'm the type to say "oh, what happen now?" Instead of "Oh my God, she is crying and running to the nursery, thinking she hurt herself when all it was, was simply, a messy diaper."

Can anyone relate to this? My sister has told me its normal and that her first child, she woke her up every so many hours to feed her and she became overweight and that her other two children, she lets them wake up on their own to be fed and that she is more relaxed and calm about parenting. I was just wondering if being laid back after the first child is normal.

Thanks in advance!

Michelle C.