My mom joined Facebook a few months back and things became awkward right away. First she friended all of my friends. And they felt obligated to say yes. Then she became a fan of all of my favorite brands (I mean my mom in J Brand jeans...are you kidding me?). Then, the worst offense occured. My friends and I have an agreement that we don't tag each other in photos. So imagine their shock when my mom started tagging all of us. UGH!
We have not talked openly about her Facebook activities...yet. I have been subtly (read:passive agressively) trying to talk to mom about how Facebook might not be the right fit for her. Once I joined the Gather team the conversation is much easier because I can talk to her about moving to an amazing social site developed with her in mind.
I would love to hear stories from moms with daughters on Facebook. Are you on Facebook too? Have you left Facebook because of potentially embarassing moments with your daughter? Have you decided not to join Facebook to avoid those embarassments?
What are your stories? I would love to hear them.
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(my sister invited me as a facebook friend and I think that's okay)
When my kids get older I hope I am a member of sites they join because then they know that I am paying attention to what goes on in their lives. I would choose the people on my friends list more carefully.
"No way! Stalker Mom!"
My middle daughter just ignored my friend request.
My youngest daughter accepted with no comment. When I asked her, she said that she figured if she didn't friend me I would ask her what she was hiding.
21-19-17...that's their ages.
I would NEVER friend their friends. It even bugs me that Facebook suggests it.
My mother did join Gather but never figured out what to do once she did. I wasn't exactly helpful. I didn't think Gather could handle both of us.
That was before it started to stink with all the stupid applications.
My Space is one of the ways my grand kids and I stay in touch. Yes...sometimes their friends post comments that I wish they hadn't, but I don't say anything. The kids know how I feel about the important things. I don't go adding my kids or grand kids friends unless they invite me. I tag NO one.
These sites are what you make them. Nothing less, nothing more.
My 15 year old son is on Facebook, as are all of his friends. He, and they, keep asking me to get on, also. I haven't so far, and really don't intend to. I don't have the time. However, he has given me his password in case I want to get on to say something to one of his friends. He's also on Gather, though he posts very seldom. Again, time is the factor for him, as well. He's taking some college courses for credit and has other interests.
As for privacy, there have been days he's told me that he had a private conversation with someone, or just a plain "please don't read right now" and I abide by that. I know my son and I fully trust him. He needs his privacy, too.
As for being "one of the kids" I don't think so. I'm a mom; I'm also his friend; but I'm not his age and I can't expect him to open up to me about everything like he can with some of his friends. After all, I can tell his dad or my friends things I can't tell him! He has his style, I have mine. I do feel very fortunate that he can come to me with his feelings, and that we sit and talk almost daily.
My mom just joined facebook so I was like "uh..." but I'm helping her to navigate around facebook and find her friends and family members. I know my mom won't go adding my friends and she respects my privacy as I do hers.