My morning didn't start out so well this morning. I went to leave for work and found I had a flat tire. After I got the spare put on, I drove to a local tire place to have it checked out. While waiting, I was watching TV in the waiting area. After the local news was over, the Tyra Banks Show came on. The show featured two teenaged couples who were engaged.
The first couple was a 15 year old girl and an 18 year old boy. They having been living together in her mother's house (yes, sharing a bed too). I can't remember how long they have been "engaged" but she has been trying to get pregnant for a year. She even went as far as ordering fertility drugs online using her mother's credit card. And recently, she doubled the dosage.
They didn't go into as much detail with the second couple who were both 16 and freshman in high school. They knew each other since they were 5 but had lost touch after the boy moved away and recently reconnected after running into each other at a store.
I, along with the other customers, were laughing at that fact these kids have no idea what they are getting into at such a young age.
My question to my fellow Gatherers... if your teenage son or daughter came home and said "I"m engaged", how would you react?
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I do not have kids ;-)
Luckily, Rocky & Beau are both fixed so at least they can't get their girlfriends preggers.
Me, when I was 15, I was engaged to an 18 year old, complete with an engagement ring. Luckily we were not that compatable, so it never came to anything. But being raised inner-city Minneapolis is a lot different than how we are raising our daughter.
That first mom needs smacked. Hard.
My parents weren't happy with me when I became engaged at 19 and was in college. The marriage never took place (which was for the best).
In Mexico!!
When my husband was 19, we decided we were going to get married. He had just turned 20 when we officially became engaged, though.
they cannot pay rent , raise a family, on those wages . Children should be raised knowing that if you ever think you are old enough to to do whatever, you had better be ready to support your own self.
When I found out my daughter really liked a young man for the first time, I was a bit concerned. I had told her that she couldn't even date until she was eighteen. I told her there was no reason to date seriously at a young age becuase there was no way she was ready for marriage. What I did do was let him sit with her in church and in the living room with her dad and I. I let him call her. This went on for about a year. Then, I let them go on double dates with her very overprotective brother and his girlfriend. Then, after another year, I broke the eighteen rule, and let them date when she was seventeen . . . if i knew exactly where they were, and I did check up on them. Then, after another two years, I let them get engaged . . . and pretty much knew he was there to stay, so I let her date without as much stipulation. Anyway, when he graduated college, we started planning a wedding, and so it went.
So, yes, at that age feelings can be deep and abiding, but there is a right way to go about it. I don't claim to have all the answers, but I do know it is irrational to allow your fifteen year old to shack up in your home and let her use your credit card to order fertility pills. Geesh! Just say NO!
by me coming here and
paying it forward