Today, a man's body was found near a pond in about 15 minute drive from where we live. They think he shot himself. It is thought that he has been dead for about two days. This man was divorced with a grown daughter who is pregnant and a grown son.
The County Medical examiner declared it a suicide but the body was still sent to the state medical examiner for further investigation. I knew this man. I knew him well. You see, he lived with us for three months last winter after he got out of rehab for detox.
For three months he felt our love for him and he was doing so well. He was gaining weight, smiling and beginning to joke around. After three months, the urge for his addictions were just too strong for him to resist. He gave in to his urges and gave up his freedom. You see, when you are addicted to something - anything really - you loose the freedom to make choices. Your addiction makes your choices for you. Yes, you are strong enough to fight them but I guess sometimes the will power and the instinct to survive is not as strong enough for you to want to fight. This man is my Brother In Law. He had problems but he was a good man. However, he could not see the good in himself. Today was a sad day for our family and it will only get worse until we hear from the medical examiner.
This photo was taken last December at our home. It is my Brother In Law and his Daughter.
A sad loss of life. A sad way to die. A life that could have made a difference in someone elses life was taken for whatever reason. He will not see his unborn grandchild. He will never be happy or joke around again.
Treasure life! It is a gift and it can be taken away at any given moment.
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so sorry to hear that...
may he rest in peace... God bless you and your family always...
love and hugs to you...
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I know it doesn't really help but it seems as if this man was in a lot of pain emotionally and nothing you or anybody else did was going to relieve him of it.
Suicide is very hard on those who are left behind... I know because I have had to deal with this type of loss myself...twice. Only time can dull the pain and bewilderment left by your friend's decision to take his own life.
I am so sorry for your loss.
{{HUGS}}
This is SO true Connie.
Love and Hugs
It about kills me that my daughter is with DCS in foster care, and I cannot say I haven't felt that low because of it, but I know that my daughter needs me, no matter what, so I have to get my mind out of that state. So currently, I try to block as much as I can out as possible, since its so traumatic.
Again, I'm sorry for your loss. Suicide isn't the answer, but some people get so depressed, they're afraid of being judged and don't talk to others because of it.
Best wishes to you and your family during this hard time.
((((Big Hugs)))))
Michelle
suicide isnt something we as human can jusitfie in our brains or hearts we look at them as being cowards or selfish . but if you really look at there life you'll find out why they left there loved one behind.
I look to see what push him to do the unthinkable it must have been a great stresser that push him over the brink .
as a person who watched two sisters grief after the suicide its harder on the family and friends I hope you all are sharing your grief and feelings dont bottle them up let them come out even if it is going into the back yard and screaming the house down . Misty
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I have another friend that has struggled with being raped when she was 6 & a few years ago she had come to visit me & she told me that she had attempted many times to commit suicide! I cried so hard with her & I let her know that I loved her & didn't judge her (she felt her family judged her & everyone else...) I felt the spirit so much that night! She has 3 kids & she has gotten a divorce because her husband said she wasn't the girl he married (cause her issues just came out & she changed...but I told her I still saw her as the same girl I knew since 4th grade.) She got me through my surgery & tough times & has always been there for me...It was my turn to be there for her! It made me feel really good. I would be so sad if she continued to hurt herself!
Good article Connie! I hope you are doing well! I haven't heard from Victoria lately...I need to visit her profile! ;o) TTYL
I am so incredibly sorry.
A little over a year ago, my 19 year old nephew committed suicide after a fight with his girlfriend. It's going to take quite some time to get over this. I still have days where it's still almost hard to function from the grief.
You are in my thoughts and prayers. {{{hugs}}}