by Lisa B.
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September 5, 2006

What do you think???

October 25, 2008 02:25 AM EDT
views: 47 | rating: 10/10 (13 votes) | comments: 18

I want to get your opinion. I think i'm right and my husband keeps looking at me like im crazy. 

 He's going in to have surgery (date not scheduled yet) to have his gallbladder removed. He says that he'll stay one night in the hospital ect and thats its a simple surgery ect ect ect.  I told him that I want to go with him and stay the night with him at the hospital.  My MIL can watch my 3 year old and my other 2 kids will be at their dads house.  He says theres no need for me to go and that i'll be bored or whatever, but  I want to be there. I'm not really the type that can stay home and act like everythings normal when my husband is in the hosptial. I need to be there to see that hes ok. So am I crazy for wanting to be there with him? He's always been there with me when i've had stuff done (childbirth, my tubes tied, colonscopy) and I feel like I should be there with him.

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Comments: 18

Elsie Duggan Oct 25, 2008, 3:07am EDT
Go be with him, or you will be like I would be , climbing the walls, no matter how little the surgery or test, always went along with my Husband, no matter how he said he could take care of it and he didn't need anyone, I knew in my heart he was glad I was there, and I knew in my soul I had to be.
Lune Wolfsong Oct 25, 2008, 4:09am EDT
My opinion is that if you want to be with him, you should be. Doesn't sound like there's any big reason not to be. I'd feel a lot like Elsie about it, personally.
J F. Oct 25, 2008, 5:26am EDT
Be with him. You will probably worry yourself sick if you don't.
Renita P. Oct 25, 2008, 6:43am EDT
Go and be with him, since you can. If it will give you peace of mind, then that's what you need to do. My husband had to have surgery when I was about 7 months pregnant with our first. Because of being pregnant, I went home for the night. I didn't sleep and just sat there worrying. Probably would have slept better sitting up in a chair! So,go!
J W. Oct 25, 2008, 7:00am EDT
I think you should go be with him
.* Sandi * Oct 25, 2008, 9:48am EDT
I would be going with my husband
No way would I allow him to go alone, if i had babysitters, i trusted
Karen M. Oct 25, 2008, 11:41am EDT
Stay with him, but usually gall bladder is an outpatient surgery these days.....at least here it is...so maybe you won't have to stay !
Carol Lloyd Oct 25, 2008, 1:21pm EDT
I think
Cheryl W. Oct 25, 2008, 1:21pm EDT
I would want to go too if I was you....It would make you feel better.
donna h. Oct 25, 2008, 2:28pm EDT
I probably would go up to the hospital for awhile then go home, unless he was in critical condition.

I had this surgery and my husband went home while I stayed overnight. I was fine with it...but it is a personal choice.
CyberGwen ! Oct 25, 2008, 2:50pm EDT
You have to do what is best for you:)
Larry H. Oct 25, 2008, 8:16pm EDT
When I had mine out it was a one day affair. I was in and had it taken out and home by the end of the day.. Just one little hole, can't even see the scare. Might have to spend the night if they cut the skin open though. It would depend on how it is done..
Heather ~of the Whippets~ M. Oct 26, 2008, 8:36pm EDT
Go with him if it will make you feel better.
I would go with him. Wishing him a short recovery.
Kimber L. Oct 30, 2008, 10:00am EDT
You should go with him. My hubby always stays by my side when I am in the hospital even if it is when i am just there for a migraine where they are running 2 iv bags and pain meds through and i sleep the whole time. He says he was brought up that way and I tell him I am okay and will just be sleeping anyways and he still gets his parents to stay with the kids and is right there beside me loving and supportive.
Sandra L. Oct 30, 2008, 10:26pm EDT
If you feel the need to be there, do it. If not for him, then for yourself. Most likely it will be a day surgery though.
Lisa C. Nov 16, 2008, 9:53am EST
~~Paying it Forward!~~
Elizabeth S. Feb 6, 2009, 6:41pm EST
In my experience, men make lousy patients. They can be doubled over with pain and when the doctor asks, the response is "fine." Feeling the way you do, you should go unless it really makes him uncomfortable.

I sure could have used help when I was in the hospital. The room set up was extremely poor, the way things were done was insane, and I would have liked some help.

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