Having a meltdown

This is my first real life about Mary post.  I probably will not do this too often, but here is my week

October 19th (my birthday).  14 years ago my Dad went to the hospital.  He knew he was not going to live, his will to fight his empyhsema was gone.  He told me that he was sorry he went into the hospital on my birthday, and to not let this date bother me in future years.  He said he giving up the fight and was ready to go be with his family that was in heaven.

October 22-My Dad had a very long goodbye with me.  He told me everything a daughter would want to hear from their Dad.  My Dad and I did not always get along until later on in my life.  He told me how proud he was of me....I do not know why but out of 6 kids in the family I was the only one to have this conversation.  Only my sister and Mom know this took place.

October 24th--My Dad passed.  We were all there with him.  He said hi to his Grandma who raised him and then he was gone.  I now believe that when it is time, a family member comes to bring you to heaven.

I have been divorced for 2 years.  My ex is getting married on Friday the 24th.  I am very happy he is getting remarried.  I am glad he is moving on, he really really does not like me.  He is helpless in many areas, so he needs to remarry-esp for financial reasons.
But my two sons are having a difficult time with this.  They are 22 and 20, they are  okay with the fact that he is getiing married.  But they do not want to attend the wedding.  First of all his family runs me down at any chance and the boys are sick of it.  Then the sister of my ex has decided to do a remodel while they are on their honeymoon.  They did not confer with my boys, they set it up and expected them to both help.  Well neither one of them live in the same town...one son is 9 hours away.  The other is one hour away.  One son has a job interview in Nebraska on Saturday...he is graduating from college in December so he cannot help.
My other son does not see this as a joyous event and does not want to be around them after the wedding.  He wants to hang out with his brother (before he heads to NE) and decompress.  But their Aunt has been very mean to them about this, how they are a disapointment and all other kinds of guilt.  I feel very sad for the pressure they are under. You mess with my boys you mess with me.

Then I get an email today from my ex.  When my Dad died my husband (now the ex)
gave me a cat, well now he wants to take it to a shelter.  I have been gone for 2 years, and now today the cat has to go?  She is 15 years old and he said she is not happy!  How can you tell if a 15 year old cat is not happy?  You are taking it to a shelter on the anniversary of my father's death, the reason why you gave me the cat to begin with?  How mean is that?  I cannot take her because I live with my family and they have allergies.

I am so blessed to have a great family.  My birthday was great, my family loves me very much.  I need to focus on the positives in life at this time, which I will try to do.