Okay, this may come as a shock to some of you, but yes, I am getting married . . . to my ex-husband. That's right. Last November, Jeff and I were divorced. We separated in May of 2007 and he moved to California. I posted here on Gather celebrating my divorce and thought he was out of my life. Then in March 2008, Jeff and his mom and 14 year old sister moved back to Tennessee and we started hanging out again. It was awkward at first, I will admit, and there were times when I thought "Thank God we are not married anymore," but there were more times when I wished there was more between us, wished we had not made the mistakes we had made, wished things could just go back to the way they were.
Well, in August I finally had a talk with Jeff. It was about 4 in the morning, and I woke him up to talk. I thought I was probably nuts, that he would definitely think I was nuts, but I had to know if he felt the same way I did. We had talked about it before but neither of us had the courage to make a move in the relationship. We did not know how our families would handle us getting back together and whether or not we cared anyway. We sat in the dark and talked for over an hour, each taking time to apologize for the things we did wrong before. We started the talk sitting across from each other, but by the end of the conversation, we were sitting side by side, holding hands. The conversation ended with a kiss, and "I love you."
Since then, we have been inseparable. We talk on the phone several times a day and spend all of our weekend time together. At church two Sundays ago it became clear to Jeff that we should get married, and on our ride home, he said he didn't care what anyone thinks, but he knows that God wants us to be together . . . this time forever.
We go tomorrow to meet with a pastor from our church to discuss joining pre-marital classes, which last six weeks. We will set a date tomorrow as well for some time in January. It will be a small wedding with family and friends, with a pot luck reception to save money. We will go this weekend to pick out rings. I am so excited and feel so blessed to have someone to share the rest of my life with. We were always best friends, and when Jeff was gone, a part of my soul was missing. I am so glad to be whole again.
Please keep us in your prayers!