Providing thoughtful feedback to fellow writers can be daunting. Haven't we all been taught to say something nice or say nothing at all? As a general rule it's a good one; in the writing world, it's not very helpful. It is possible to express both likes and dislikes about any piece of writing in a constructive and respectful manner.
As I've said before, I believe it's better to leave a few well executed comments than many that simply provide a quick pat on the back. Anyone who's serious about growing as a writer will appreciate others taking the time to read their words and provide them with thoughtful feedback worthy of their consideration.

The guidelines presented here were developed by Writer's Digest and used by WOW (Writer's Online Workshops). I highly recommend using this format whenever possible in providing feedback to writers.
(Courtesy of WOW, Writer's Online Workshops)
GROUP CRITIQUING GUIDELINES
Giving and receiving constructive criticism is an important part of the education of any writer. In order to maintain harmony in the group, and to ensure that everyone benefits from their participation, please read and adhere to the following guidelines:
When You Are Reviewing Another Writer's Work
Being a good critic will make you a better writer; being a good citizen will make you a welcome, productive member of the group. So when you are evaluating another's work:
1. Try to always begin with a positive comment. It's as important for writers to know what's working in their writing as to know what's not.
2. Be specific and objective. Offer suggestions, not just criticisms. If something doesn't work for you, or if you think there is a weakness in the writing, try to identify specifically what the problem is and how it could be fixed.
3. Don't get personal. Direct your comments to the writing, not the writer. Subjective comments such as "that's stupid," or "I hate it" don't do anyone any good-the writer certainly doesn't benefit if you don't take the time to figure out what it is you don't like and why. Learning to think critically about someone else's work and articulating your impressions will make you a much better self-editor.
4. Unless you are specifically asked for grammar/composition advice, don't focus on individual mechanical problems. This is not a copy editing exercise. The role of the group critique is to get the overall reactions of other writers on the work as a whole, not to focus on the mechanics.
5. Remember that you will most likely only see a portion of a longer piece, or a work in progress. Please focus your comments as directed, and not on what's "not there."
6. Don't repeat what others have already said. Go beyond the obvious and try to dig deeper into the work. When your writing is being critiqued, you'll appreciate a wide variety of thoughtful comments; be prepared to offer the same.
7. Do unto others . . . Remember, your work will be in the spotlight, too, and you'll be in the hot seat. Treat the work of others with the courtesy and respect it deserves, and that you'd expect in return.
8. When Your Work is Being Reviewed. We know how hard it is to put your work (and by extension, yourself) on the line. Remember that the people who will be reviewing your work here are your peers-they all face the same challenges and difficulties that you do. Their writing isn't perfect; they're still learning; they don't know everything either. Together you can help each other by sharing insights, creative suggestions and support. So when your writing is selected for group critique:
-Stay out of the discussion unless you are asked a direct question. This will be the most difficult rule to follow, but it is perhaps the most important-both to your growth as a writer and to the productivity of the discussion. You will want to defend your work. You will want to explain why you did something a particular way or why others didn't understand what you wrote. The need to respond to a challenge to your writing will be as instinctive as the need to protect your own children. You must resist. Let the work speak for itself and let the group react without your intrusion. Yell at your computer, stomp around your office, go for a walk, but keep your hands off the keyboard unless someone asks you a direct question. And if you do need to clarify something, limit your response only to what is asked.
-Don't take negative comments personally; no one's here to hurt you or to pass judgment. It would be nice if all the reactions you ever got to your writing were positive. But if that were the case, you probably wouldn't be here in the first place. You came here to improve your writing and sometimes that means listening to some hard truths. So, accept everyone's comments-good and bad-in the spirit in which they were given-as suggestions from writers just like you who want to help each other get better.
-Give it some time to sink in. Read all of the comments carefully and think about what each person is really saying. Give equal consideration to all comments-even the ones you don't agree with. It's a good idea to copy the discussion window contents at the end of your session so that you can refer back to it later, and take plenty of time to think about what's been said.
-Give your peers a break. They may be looking at your work for the first time, and maybe only a portion of it. They may make comments or speculate about something that you know would be clear if they could read the rest of the piece. As already mentioned, the point is not to defend your work or to prove how smart you are. If someone makes a suggestion that you try a particular method or reveal a specific piece of information and you know you've done exactly that in the very next paragraph, fine. At least you know that your instincts were good, and you can consider the comment a reminder that you're on the right track. Many times you'll be able to say to yourself, "I did that already," or "that question will be answered by the end of the article." But just as often you'll say, "I never thought of that," or "I didn't think the reader would be interested in that information," or "I thought I was clear on that point, but I guess it still needs some work."
-Remember, this is your work and you must ultimately make the creative decisions that feel right to you. Whatever the group's response, you should:
* stick with an idea that is deeply interesting to you, even if it needs a lot of work
* never compromise your vision for the piece
* try everything to see what works and what doesn't
* please yourself first


Comments: 21
In class and in my informal crit sessions, I use the same formula:
What works: here I list the strengths of the piece.
What needs work: here I list the things that need to be strengthened.
People often feel the need to praise and encourage. They understand how hard writing is and how much of ourselves we invest in our work.
Good!! But to grow, we need criticism.
The critiques I like the best are the ones poised as questions:
"What are you saying here?"
"Didn't you say the guy was out of town when the murder happened?"
"Why should I feel sorry for your main character?"
I agree that it's okay for more than one person to make the same point. What I think they were getting at is people mimicking others with a "me too" kind of response. Adding something additional to an agreement with another critiquer might be appropriate in that case.
The other, even more difficult situation is when a piece is so bad that you are left not knowing what to say. To be kind is really doing a disservice, but I think people are at a loss to know what to say and so they err on the side of trying to bolster the person and give them false hope. And then they wonder why no publisher wants to take the project on...and end up self-publishing something that needs much more work.
Writing is a hard business: hard on the ego and hard to get honest feedback.
In a true writer's group, that would not happen. Learning to give (and receive) critiques is part of the writing process.
My suggestion for here at Gather is to write a little intro. at the top of your post asking for honest feedback, and hopefully you'll get more helpful responses. After all, this is supposed to be a writers' group!
This is a timely topic. It is difficult to know which writers want a true critique and who wants a pat on the back. Your suggestion of adding "critique wanted" to the top of a piece would work well. Great post! Thanks so much.
Most new writers drop out of critique groups because they are looking for affirmation and not corrective insight,
Anytine you wish, you can drop by my postings and offer your thoughts.
This article is worth a TEN in anybody's book.
I'm sure you'll agree that we all love the affirmation, but it's the critical suggestions that help us grow as writers.
I think knowing the author's ambition is important. If they're dabbling and monkeying around, then one level of commentary is called for. If they're making an all-out, no-holds-barred effort to improve their craft, that's something else.
For all of us who put our work into the public eye, there will always be those who think, no matter how polished and golden, the novel is 10 kilometers of really bad road.
As always, calibrating the source of the critique is vital. I expect eveyone to know I'm a big, dumb, stubborn opinionated jerk and take that into account.
I like the above suggestions as guidelines.
BTW, Ken lies (but we love him anyway). He's stubborn and opinionated, but the rest is smoke and mirrors. Picture the Wizard of Oz and then picture the man behind the curtain. Ken gives great critiques, when he's in the mood for it!