Magic Of Making Up - How To Make An Effective Apology

It's one of the crucial stages in the making up process. The apology is something many get wrong when trying to get their ex back and the main reason is lack of sincerity.

Here's a good example. Someone does everything right in their quest to get back with their ex. They avoid the initial confrontation by walking away even though they were given their marching orders. They sit down and let the emotions such as panic and desperation simmer down to a trickle and then begin re-assessing their position.

They decide it's worth fighting for their relationship and begin the process of winning back their ex. Everything seems to be falling into place and eventually they are ready to step back into the life of their former partner.

It's just a matter of turning on the charm and convincing them you have changed right? Wrong. You see, all the lead up work is fine and with a blueprint such as the one laid out by The Magic Of Making Up, your chances increase exponentially.

However, the last hurdle still needs to be negotiated and most times those who are ready to take back the person they dumped simply want a sincere apology. In most cases, this apology needs to have no strings attached. Here's what not to say...

"Jane, I'm so glad to be back and really grateful you've given me another chance. I know I was wrong and can understand why you wanted to separate but..."

Can you see what's wrong with this picture? The magic word was used..."but"...and it's one of the most insincere words in the English language. When someone is getting an apology the last thing they want to hear is "but"...

The truth is, this last hurdle is really the final exam. Your ex is still 100% uncertain whether to take you back but in most cases, all that's required is a sincere and no strings attached apology to get you over the line. When you use the word "but" you are not sincere.

It's like "yes I understand why I was dumped but you have to take some of the responsibility yourself and admit you were at faiult too." That's not what they want to hear. Like it or not, you need to be totally sincere and take responsibility yourself. In this situation, there's just no room for negotiation.

Jackson regards this as such an important step that he created a special report called The Clean Slate Method. It's all about how to apologize correctly or at least to give you the best chance of making it over the last hurdle and getting your ex back.