I was Hanging Up some Halloween stuff In The House and My 19 Yr Old son Kept telling me he was going to take One Down Because there Was Only 5 and that Didn't Look Right..
I told Him Dont Touch It and He Kept telling Me you watch I will take one down.. At That Point I was getting Very Upset and Kinda MAd and told Him DO NOT TOUCH IT... and He Got real Cocky with Me and I Told Him I'm your Mother Like It Or Not And you don't talk to Me Like That Got It...
Then He Said I DONT CARE if your my mother or not.. THEN came the Biggest thing he could ever do.. HE TOLD ME TO SHUT UP and Loud...
I'm Not talking to Him Right Now I don't know what to do I'm HURT, MAD, upset and He Has Been Treating His Brother Like a Little Baby and Thats Been Up setting Brandon..
I Know I Haven't Been there For The Last 15 Yrs While They growing Up But I fought 6 Yrs For My children and No Matter What I feel Like the worst Mother Alive right Now..
I didn't ask There Father Parents to steal All you from Me .. When My Children Were Taken From Me A Very Big Part Of Me Died . I Feel Like If I Kick Him Out All the Lies and whatever else They were Told All These Years will Make Him Hate Me even More And I Just Got Him Back Into My Life after 15 Yrs..
What Do I Do??????? PLease Be Honest and Blunt with Me On what you think I should Do...
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I think he could be testing you, and he is angry and maybe he doesnt even know why he is,
Does he know the story, the whole story, maybe sit him down, show him the bills, and express that you love him and that anything he does wont change that, but you would like a good relationship with him.
He Has stolen From Me and My 4 yr old Nephew..
The Only reason He Came To Me after 15 Yrs was Because He was Discharged from the Navy for adhd and The Grandparents Didnt want Him There For these reasons
instead goto tough love
its a group that will help you deal with kids
i used them and they were a blessing
As long as you are sure that this stuff isn't coming from drugs or other outside influences then I would just tell him, I am your mom and you don't talk to me that way. Just keep loving him and he will grow out of it, but be firm in the way he speaks to you. Good luck it is a rough stage even under good circumstances. BTW, does this 19 year old have a job, cause if not I think it is time he got one and bought his mom some more decorations.
2) he has adhd
3) the above two items might be interrelated.
IMHO this means he should talk to a doctor. He may be reacting to his disappointment, or he may be unable to process through a proper coping method.
If he was cross-eyed, you'd tell him to see an optical surgeon. If he had one leg shorter, you'd tell him to see an orthopedic specialist. He can get some guidance and help now.
He's still young. Don't wait until he's gone through a series of job failures and possible substance abuse before seeking help.