Tonight, Walter and I were doing our shopping as usual at Walmart and needed a few groceries. We begin to think "JOLLY JOLLY" and start making Christmas shopping items on our list early, but there is one problem, my stomach keeps upsetting me, and with me being pregnant, I get letting out gas uncontrollably toward the toy aisle. So I hurry and walk to the other side of the store, telling Walter I will be a few and have to use the bathroom while I was embarrassed.
Well, when in the bathroom, I thought ...
ahhhhh. What a relief!
THINK NOT!
There is a peeking tom - a child, a small child, about 3 or 4 years old looking under my door. She looked under my door almost 3-4 times, went into the stall next to me and hid near the toilet, closing the door behind her. I look under the door beside me, seeing her small legs bit up from something (bugs, bites or burn marks on her skin). Not only that, she it sitting on her knees, scared and paniced after I assume looking for mommy. I'm the only one in the restroom for the next 5 minutes, thinking "is her mommy in here?," while I hear no sinks running or any toilets flushing.
Finally, I get up, without being able to concentrate, worried about this child.
What if this little girl were my own? Lost in a restroom, scared, not knowing where her mother is?
I'm not sure what to do, but I knock on the door next to me, asking "Where is your mommy?," trying to crack the door a little bit with her on her knees in the way. I tell her, "please move back a little bit, so I can open the door." She crawls back out from underneath the door and looks at me, shaking all over scared and paniced. She won't talk.
There is a Walmart associate and two customers now in the restroom. I look at the women and say "is this your child?" They tell me "no," and I look at the Walmart associate and say "I think she is lost and she has bite marks all over her legs".
The Walmart associate puts her in the seat of the cart, not putting the plate down (so her tiny legs are crunched in the cart and she is sitting there). The woman thinks nothing of my concern of bite marks (I tried in between the lines of saying, I think there is abuse in this case/neglect), but the Walmart associate ignored what I said about bite marks on the legs. Instead, she has her in the cart and as I walk away, I hear her mother's voice yelling, "Oh, she runs off like that!," not seeming a bit concerned, not asking where her child was and just continues her shopping.
How can she leave her child in a bathroom? How would her child wonder to a bathroom? Why were there markings (I think were welts) on her legs? Why did I have to find a paniced little girl, about to cry, scared, looking for mommy, but not talking or responding to a stranger and not wanting to be touched?
Now if that doesn't raise suspicion, what will make people wake up?
I am wrongly accused and my baby girl is in foster care - FINALLY, being reunited with me, but that's not the point.
How can any mother just "lose" their kid? That's nonsense. If you know where your child/ren are at all times, this would never have happened and if it weren't for myself finding her, she would have been in that bathroom hiding for hours - or simply, worse could have happened, you just don't want to think about!
I know if that was my little girl, she wouldn't have been crawling under doors in a bathroom, scared, paniced, wondering "where is my mommy?"
I'd have my child contained on a harness, in the cart, a stroller, holding her hand - and I would know where BOTH of my children are at all times. Now this was an OLDER mother - and most people look at young mothers similar to myself as not looking out for a child's best interest. Sometimes it disgusts me how its the other way around, then again, please don't take me wrong, many young mothers are on drugs and abandon their children.
What would YOU do if this were your child? How would you have reacted?
I know as for myself, - if it did happen, doubt it will ever happen, if I know where my child/ren are at all times, but if it say were to happen, I'd atleast show more concern than blame my child. I'd ask "Where was she? Is she OK?" and so forth.


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Its hard to say but it could really happen to anyone.. I am a mother of 4 and when I have to go shopping without my husband things can get hectic.. My 3 fixing to be 4 year old trys to wander off and I Stay firm with him and its hard.. It could have been an accident for the child to run off and mom not relalize it... BUT if it did happen I would expect me or any caring motehr to be so dang upset and scared that I would be in tears and hugging my child and not yelling at them and being mean!! Of course I would be upset but not at the child.. myself! As for the "bites or something" it could have been abuse yes.. definitly.. BUT it could have been some bites.. A friend of mines 2 daughters has VERY sensitive skin and any lil bite can make them knot up like a bruise around the bite.. Its very sad in fact.. But usually you can tell.. Seems here their could have been abuse of some kind.. I dunno.. Its just so hard to tell these days!
If the mom was by herself there is absolutely NO reason that the girl should have been allowed to get that far away!
Nowadays we have to be quite sensitive to things like that as there are people quick to judge and accuse.
Now, if I found a child like that. I would call and report it to police. I would of also followed closely to the child and mother after being reunited. That way I can give a clear description. Plus I could of gave a license plate number fi they would of left before hand. Under no circumstance would I have left it unattended if I seriously thought a child was being abused.
I'm not sure what you could have done. The others are right about taking her to the front - it could be miconstrued. And, without knowing the mother's name or address, there wouldn't have been a lot the police could have done. There weren't any overt signs of criminal activity so it si unlikely that Wal-Mart employees could have held her until the police arrived. I guess I would have just made teh biggest commotion I could have in finding the little girl's mother so that she would know someone had noticed her negligence. But then, that could backfire and get the little girl hurt when she got home.
A toughie.