Can You Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back? Three Signs She Still Wants You.

If your girlfriend has broken up with you, that doesn't necessarily mean that it's over. You can still get your ex back. Often, she still wants you at some level, but she's conflicted. Stuff has happened, she's upset, she wants something from you, but she's not telling you want it is.

How can you tell if your ex girfriend secretly wants you back?

Here are three tell-tale signs she’s still interested in you - but doesn't want you to know. And if you can pick out even one, rest assured that your chances of saving your relationship are better than even, if you follow a few simple steps to get your ex back.

Sign #1: Doing Things You Don't Do With Someone Who is Just A Friend (e.g. excessive flirting, “innocent” kisses… or even having sex with you)

This sign should be obvious. Unfortunately most men mess it up. Why? Because they (mistakenly) treat it as an open invitation to jump back into the relationship.

However, when they have responded and been met with positive affection, they suggest getting back together … and the proposition is quickly met with a hope-crushing comment such as “I think it’s best we remain friends”.

Why does she say that? Simple… the attraction is still there but one or more of the pieces that keep couples together are missing. A relationship lives and dies with attraction - when the latter goes the former soon follows. But attraction in itself is not enough to keep a girl. She has other needs and if she decides she can't get them from you, she won't want to tie herself to you - she'll be looking for someone else.

The key here is to use an indirect approach. Subtly show her that you’re capable of giving her what she wants. Do not say this to her, ever. She’ll take everything you have to say with a grain of salt - after all you are the ex with an agenda, right? Just do the simple but subtle things which will build an image in her mind of you being everything she ever wanted in a guy.

Sign #2: She reacts emotionally when you mention other girls

Whenever your ex girlfriend reacts to something you say (or do) it’s a sure sign she’s still interested. This is particularly applicable if she gets jealous of other girls. She still wants you for herself, even though she's saying she doens't. It means that she’s not ready to fully let you go. In her eyes, you still “belong” to her in a sense.

It should go without saying - do not abuse this fact and deliberately try to make her jealous. She will see right through you in an instant. She knows you well, remember? You will just make her angry and disgusted with you. Take the high road, and only get involved with other women if you are genuinely attracted by them.

In the meanwhile, take comfort in knowing that you have a window of opportunity to win her back, if you play your cards right.

Sign #3: She gets furious when you break a date with her

Are you starting to see a pattern here? Even a reaction such as anger should keep your hopes alive. It’s indifference that should cause you panic. But again, do not abuse this fact - it will come back to bite you in the…

Whenever you make plans (to call, meet, etc.) - keep them. If you don’t, sooner than later the tables will turn and it will be she that’s blowing you off. And if you need some space and can’t be in contact with her, politely tell her next time you see her. Don’t ignore her altogether.

So there they are: three signs she’s still interested, or better yet, three signs you can win her back. And again, if your ex is showing even one… rest assured that the road to her door is still wide open. All you need to do is handle the situation with tact and you should be well on your way to saving your relationship.

By Jenny Bennett
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