My ex is not looking to get back with me. At least, as far as I am aware. I'm currently with someone else but do I still have feelings for him? Of course. The problem though, I hardly ever speak to this boyfriend of mine and I have a hard time even getting in contact with him. So I cannot even sit him down and have a conversation about his lack of communication. To make matters worse, my ex sends me messages and talks to me whenever I get on AIM. Sometimes I don't mind so much, like this morning getting the message he wants me to show up at his next gig. He's still a friend despite any feelings I may still have for him. Other times though, he only has one thing on his mind but it doesn't involve restarting a real relationship. He does a lot of begging. As for my current, he said he wanted to be kept up to date on this should it happen again after a break in it occuring but I have no clue how to even get through to him to give any such update. Facebook and calling doesn't work, and he rarely get on AIM, which is how my ex normally contacts me.
So, what would YOU do in this case?
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The ex just wants what he wants... ask yourself if he really is a friend. Friends do things for each other. I knew many people from the music scene, when I was younger & believe me a call to go to a gig while harmless, means very little. If you want to go, go... but to have fun.
The one that worries me though is the current beau. Why is he so hard to get in touch with? This makes me VERY suspicious. Who is he to expect a report on the ex's actions, when he is missing in action all the time. hmmm
First I would talk to your boyfriend..if you have a hard time getting touch with him. Tell him he needs to find a better way to communicate. Even if it means making a weekly date to chat to you. Tell him than and only than will you tell him about what is going on with your ex. If he truly want to know..he'll make that date with you.
As for your ex......is he truly your friend? Or just want you to come to his shows and see what you are missing? Only you know the answer to that.