Useful Mindsets for Disarming Male Competition

Have you ever avoided talking to a woman just because she
was talking to another guy?

Or maybe you fear of getting embarrass if you approached a
group of girls with one or two guys with them because you
ASSUMED that those guys were cooler than you.

There are two reasons why guys have a fear in talking with
women who were with other guys.

They think that the woman is "with" the guy, and assume he's
her boyfriend.

This shouldn't be the basis of not talking to a woman.
Especially in a social setting like in the bar, where people
meet other people. Plus - that woman is not a "slave" of the
guy or a piece of property, she's a human being and is free
to whomever she chooses to talk to.

You will extremely look confident if you approach more often
a woman who is "with" a guy and this can draw out the guy's
jealous side, making him look weak and insecure.

The second reason why guys don't approach woman who is
"with" a guy points to a deep insecurity based on a simple
misconception.

Men tend to be threatened by other men, instantly assuming
that the "other guy" is stronger, cooler, or somehow more
powerful.

This is founded in an ancient survival strategy that has
been hardwired into the human brain.

It's often hard to tell who the more "dominant" human is in
any given interaction. The social hierarchy is very subtle,
and mostly unconscious. So when a male is confronted by
another male, he doesn't know how dominant the other guy is.

A guy doesn't know if he will be embarrassed verbally, or as
was probably common thousands of years ago, beaten up.

So it's better to play safe by assuming that the other guy
is a threat. Guys that were too bold may have won a few
confrontations, but it will take a single loss to end up
dead or exiled from the game.

And then their genes were taken out of the "game" so to
speak.

Usually the one that can lived long enough to survive and
reproduce are those guys that played it safe and avoided
confrontation.

The irony of this is that nowadays this hard-wired survival
strategy is the basis for most approach anxiety - guys avoid
women unnecessarily because they are making false
assumptions.

The thing is, most times when you see a woman talking to
another guy in the bar or club, she's not WITH him.

Usually, they JUST MET!

For many instances I've approached a girl with a guy
thinking it was her boyfriend, then only to find out that he
was just a random dude who just approached her. Or he was
just a friend or relative.

I have regrets to those times that I've missed so many
opportunities talking to a woman just because I saw her with
another guy. And this brings me to my first point:

DON'T ASSUME THEY ARE TOGETHER UNTIL YOU SEE PHYSICAL
EVIDENCE. YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT HE MEANS TO THE WOMAN.

You will know it if you try to act and find out. Just
remember that in time that they are together you should be
alert an respectful, the guy may be the insecure jealous
type and may start a confrontation.

So use your brain - just don't be stagnant in making a false
assumptions.
The other important thing I want to talk about is the idea
that another man can be more "dominant" than you.

The concept of the alpha male is completely outdated. In the
caveman days, the alpha male had real power - he had access
to resources like food, and was physically stronger, so he
could beat up competitors.

But ask yourself if those power still exist today. Every man
can survive on his own if he has the source of income - you
probably have an access to food and shelter if you're
reading this. You're all set.

Plus, in this modern world it is irrelevant to use the
physical strength just to beat people up. It's illegal.

It is always to your loss if you attack another person
because the police always win.

You are LETTING RANDOM GUYS STOP YOU FOR NO REASON! if you
are thinking about it.

Pardon my French, but who is HE to say who YOU talk to???

I recall all the girls I missed out on because I was afraid
about some DUDE. And it makes me mad remembering that and
knowing that the other guys are dealing with some crap!

When time comes that you're on your deathbed, you are going
to reminisce on all the things you did and didn't do. How
painful would it be to say "I didn't meet that woman because
I was worried of the other guy she's with," or "there were a
lot of beautiful that I could have enjoyed, but I didn't
even try to approached them because I saw them TALKING to
another guy.

I don't want to happen that to you.

So let's analyze it deeply. You truly don't understand
dominance if you are seeing the other guy as more dominant.

You see, you instantly consider yourself NOT dominant when
you're concerned with who is more dominant. There's a better
focus.

Dominant men don't think about who is dominant. To be
dominant, you must first THINK like a dominant man. So what
do dominant men think about? Whatever it is they are doing
or want.

So you see another guy talking to a group of girls. Instead
of worrying about whether or not he's more dominant than
you, focus on the girls.

I rarely even acknowledge other guys, because too often it's
proven to be a waste of time. 9 times out of 10 the girls
don't even know the guy - they just met him.

Or if they do know the guy, it's because he was a friend of
ONE of the girls, and the rest barely know him.

Normally, seldom for women to go out with a guy they are
dating, more often they would like to bring with them a guy
that is more of a  protector/friend because a guy like that
is more valuable when they go out on the town.

And aside from that, if he IS with one of the girls, then it
will be a fair game because it means that he's NOT with the
other girls.

You are NOT the alpha male by definition, if you are
concerned with who's the alpha male is. In fact, in this
modern world it's questionable whether alpha males truly
exist .

Have your focus in a USEFUL place and don't assume anything.
And don't let some random guy prevent you from enjoying YOUR
LIFE!