Mars and Venus do it ! but why ?

You listen. You soothe. You try and take the burden off of their shoulders. You hug back. You kiss back. With sincere passion and no intent to be cruel if and when the green monster, jealousy rears its ugly head. Total honesty comes out, you act irrational and boom ! Disclosure, heart-felt loving non-physical but nevertheless intimate exposure of the soul barred. You get excited because its good, its all good, right ? You believe it will be soon, or for the right reasons, or just be patient and it will be all yours !  and then that phonecall comes in and your world gets turned upside down . . . You sob into the sheets and ask yourself, "Why do they CHEAT ?"

As to why you just don't kick her / him to the curb until finally free, is beyond reasonable thinking. I mean s&^% they are still married to someone else and trying to get with you ? Why? Because you don't choose whom you fall in love with, I geuss. I am no expert but I feel compelled to find out. It broke my heart today seeing one of my friends, after a twenty year marriage, is falling apart because the number one threat to marriages today has been looming in her shadows, without knowledge for more than half of her and her husbands married life together.

Anyway, the scenario stands to show that you love this person. Painfully obvious as in the emotional net you have placed underneath to capture when indecisiveness, fear and total insecurity just slaps you in the face, also breaks. Its LOVE. You accept the wrongdoings of this person and after seeing change, good change, you begin believing in this person, again.  But because a divorce is not final, you are still being 'cheated on' like the other is being 'cheated on' and the one before that and the one before that and so on.

Is cheating habitual, like 'once a cheater, always a cheater?" Can the most compatible with one another, erase infidelity?

So I ask both women and men this question, thinking it over well in their mind, to honestly answer why a person can cheat on their mate, married, engaged, dating for five, ten fifteen years etc ?

Why still, leading the number one reason for divorce in this country, INFIDELITY,  is at the top of the Don'ts list.  Why ?