Yesterday my daughter came in to my room to tell me her teenage brother who is 17 yrs old was choking her 9 yr old brother. I found my younger son and asked him what was going on. He didn't want to tell me because he thought he was going to get in trouble. But he did tell me. So, of course this meant I had to go talk to my teenager. Boy do I hate having to talk to him about anything. If you know anything about my teenager you would know we do not get along. When I asked my teenager why he choked his brother. He first denied it. Than responded by telling me his brother deserved it because he told him to get out of his room and he wouldn't. Now is that any reason to choke a child? My younger son was just trying to get the play station 2 that belongs the whole family that my teen took in his room and claimed as his own.
When I told me husband about what was said between us. My husband got all mad. Than we got in a big fight and are still not speaking at all. Because I told my teen that if he acted like that when he turns 18 I would kick him out. I am sorry, but when my husband informed me that he makes all the money so I have no right to say anything. Not even to my teenager to stop his bullying the younger kids. Or stop his niece from sneaking in my house at midnight or my teenager from sneaking out at night. That I was wrong to tell my teenager that he would be forced to leave when he turns 18 if he continues to choke his brother and other violent acts. I was really mad. I told my husband that if he doesn't want there to let me know because I would take my kids and leave. He never said a word after that. Just shut me out completely and looked at me like I was stupid.
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If your son does this when he's 18 you could call the cops and then they would deal with it. You really need to do whats best for you and your kids and not allow your kids to be in danger!! I'll be praying for you.
I also would have called the police and had the teenager removed since he's obviously a threat to his brother's life. He could kill someone that way!!!
It sounds like there may be more going on with your older son that needs to be addressed & counseling may very well be a good answer to get you all talking and finding solutions.
I do now the shelters in my area do not accepte you unless you are working. I don't work or get a check every month. So, I won't be accepted. I did already check in to that.
I am just going to keep my younger two kids away from their brother as best as possible.
I do think counseling is something my teen needs. But he and my husband both refuses to go.
You have every obligation to protect your younger children, so you do what you have to do.
Thanks for posting this to my group Point4mepoint4u