Friday morning both my mom and I dropped off Kyleigh at the day care. Normally when I was there dropping her off by myself, she was fine and waved goodbye at me when I left. But it was not the case with my mom. She screamed and cried and wouldn't let the day care teacher touch her. My mom ended up staying there with her, and finally took her home around noon. My mom said she was hoping to stay at least till after Kyleigh ate lunch, but the day care owner kicked them out just before lunch.
Next Monday I will drop Kyleigh off by myself and have my mom stay at home. Hopefully Kyleigh will behave better. My mom needs some sleep anyway. Ever since she got here Thursday afternoon, she almost hasn't slept at all. She has jet lags, and she is very excited to see Kyleigh. So, the plan is, my mom will catch up on her sleep next week while Kyleigh goes to day care. In July, my mom will keep Kyleigh home all day and care for her.
My husband and I are a little bit concerned about Kyleigh's behavior. She clearly knows that she can "get away with things" when Grandma is here. While understanding that she's still very little, we think she should learn discipline already. I hope she won't become a "problem child" after my mom leaves. We will give her a few days to wear off the excitement.
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Comments: 16
If it's just Grandma, that's normal. My kids always acted different around different people; it'll go away a few days after Grandma leaves. Don't blame your Mother. I forsee the whole Grandma gig in my future and my Grandkids are in for one heck of a ride since I never had a Grandma! Boy are my kids in trouble! lol!
By spoiling, I mean when I am with Avery, he has my undivided attention. I sit and play with him the whole time. He pretty much gets what he wants from me. Now that he is moving around I have to tell him no about certain things. When new things occur children will act different, but they go back to being themselves pretty quick.
She may not be happy at the Day Care and knows grandma will protect her, but you as a disciplinarian would insist on her going anyway to show that she is a good girl...
Grandmas should spoil the little ones in certain ways, but depending on the situation - like when they are full time taking care - she needs to stick to your wishes. An exception here and there, letting the kid know this is only allowed at grandma's and is not generally accepted behaviour is fine.
Kids are smarter then we think - they can handle it.
On the other hand - acting out - is never OK, but if that is the case you still need to find out why and deal with it.
The hardest time to deal with my children was always after grandma visited because they felt like they needed to test me all over again - after their antics worked with grandma.
Kids....kids.....kids.....anything to do with kids...
It is indeed a mixed issue. We do think that the day care has some issues. We were talking about switching but then Kyleigh seemed to have adapted, so we dropped the "switching" topic. So if that's the clue ("she wanted Grandma to rescue her") then we need to get back on the day care issue again. We might actually do that. I never really felt 100% comfortable with the day care. I just don't know if other day cares are even worse.
As far as my mom spoiling her.... It's actually far less spoiling my grandpa did me!! But I didn't end up being a brat. So I am ok with my mom spoiling Kyleigh a bit. Actually my mom has been complaining that I didn't allow her to spoil Kyleigh (in certain aspects, that is true).
I'm sure that Kyleigh is enjoying her grandma attention. However, I don't really think it's a problem unless she allows her to do things that you wouldn't let her do. It's just a very exciting time for Kyleigh to have her grandma so near.
Thanks for posting this to my group Point4mepoint4u