For most people "The Suburbs" conjures up images of white picket fences, 2.5 kids, and doting moms baking cookies and driving carpool. Well, sometimes things aren't always what they seem.
In Part 2 of our "Secrets in the Suburbs" series, we take a look inside the world of a mother who is also a dominatrix.
Meet Allison, by day she's the married and the devoted mother of 1-year-old twin girls. But at night, she trades bottles for bondage and becomes Mistress Georgia, a dominatrix who inflicts pain for pleasure.
ML: How did you become a dominatrix?
Allison: I was in college on Long Island and taking an anthropology class. One of the assignments was writing a paper about a "different culture." I decided to write the paper on the SM (Sadism/Masochism) culture in NYC. I went to a club and a professional "house," and I was blown away by the whole lifestyle. I didn't really know much about it, but I had always dominated my boyfriends by making them walk behind me and carry my books and things like that. At the time I thought it was amusing and fun, but I didn't know that this could actually be a lifestyle. After I graduated, I waitressed at first, but then I thought, "Why am I doing this and making no money and not having fun? I'm going back to the "house" to see if I can work there." So I did.
ML: Did you start working as a dominatrix soon after that?
Allison: In most states in order to become a dominatrix you have to work as a "submissive" so that you can learn how to do everything correctly and safely. But in NY it's very different. I made friends with a girl and she taught me everything so I didn't have to work as a "submissive" first. I worked in NY for 2 years, and then I moved to Los Angeles, where I work now.
ML: Is being a dominatrix legal, and do you have sex with your clients?
Allison: In California being a dominatrix is legal because there is never any sex (at all) involved in being a dominatrix. But, it is illegal in some states -- not because of sex (because there is none) but because it's considered abuse.
ML: What does being a dominatrix entail?
Allison: First and foremost you're a psychologist. Secondly, you're an actress dressing the part and "on stage." The third part is a tech thing, knowing how to wield a whip or tie a knot without hurting someone. Well, you do want to hurt them, but you never want to really hurt them.
ML: Are all your clients into pain?
Allison: About 80% of the clients out there are not into heavy pain. There are that 10-15% who are, but most people are really into the outfits and the dramatics of me coming into a room. It's about the mind game and then the spanking comes along with it.
ML: Are most of your clients married men?
Allison: Most of my clients are married, and I would guess that their spouses don't know they visit me. But there are some men whose wives do know, and they will come in and give me a note from their wife telling me what a bad boy he's been. I much prefer when the wives know about it because I don't appreciate the lie. I wouldn't want that happening to me if I was someone's wife.
ML: You're married and have 1-year-old twin girls. How do you balance being a wife and mother with being a dominatrix?
Allison: It's hard sometimes. I especially find it difficult to change my mindset from mommy, putting my two girls to bed, to having to get dressed up and go on a session. I've noticed that sometimes I'll be getting ready and my husband will come into the room and I'll be in a bad mood. I really don't know why, but I guess I really just want to give all my energy to my kids, and when I go to work I have to give my clients all my energy.
ML: When you go to the park with your daughters do you tell the other moms what you do?
Allsion: I don't usually tell people that I'm a dominatrix. Sometimes I will, if I can feel people out and I think they'll be ok with it. It's not that I'm keeping it a secret, it's just that I find my kids to be the most interesting thing in my life, so I want to talk about that, not what I do to make extra money.
ML: What's the most unusual thing that you've been asked to do?
Allison: This might freak you out, but I had one client ask me to crucify him on a cross. He wanted nails put through his hands. There was no way that I could do that, but I found someone who could, and I ended up being paid just to watch. On the lighter side, I have another client who has a baby powder fetish. He likes to be tied up and then doused with it -- like 6 bottles of it. It's messy, messy, messy.
ML: How long do you see yourself continuing to work as a dominatrix?
Allison: If we didn't need to supplement our household income with my work as a dominatrix, then I would have probably already stopped. When I met my husband 8 years ago, I was a full-time dominatrix. But after I met him, a little bell went off in my head and said, "I don't want to be a full-time dominatrix all my life." So I decided to start cutting down a bit. Now, I have a completely conventional day job, and I work at night as a dominatrix. I'm hoping that in the next four years I will completely be out of the business.Â
ML: When they're old enough will you tell your daughters what you do (or did)?
Allison: I know that you can't hide things from kids forever, but I hope that if it does come up, it comes up when they are much older. I will try to be as honest with them as I can. I'm not ashamed of what I do, but I don't think that they have to know about it.Don't miss next week's "Secrets in the Suburbs." What will we uncover next?