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by David Matthews
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May 31, 2008

Great book review (& shameless self-promotion)

June 12, 2008 08:06 PM EDT
views: 1191 | comments: 309

 I AM SO PLEASED WITH THIS GREAT REVIEW OF MY BOOK, THAT I JUST HAD TO SHARE IT WITH MY GATHER FRIENDS.  THANKS FOR INDULGING ME!

 

     Every Man Sees You Naked: An Insider's Guide to How Men Think

     David M. Matthews

     Wheatmark (2008)

     ISBN 9781604940282

     www.EveryManSeesYouNaked.com

 

 

 

 

Reviewed by Paige Lovitt for Reader Views

 

As soon as I got my hands on "Every Man Sees You Naked" my world stopped. I put everything

down to focus on this book. It was definitely well worth my time. David M. Matthews really tells it

like it is. He takes us into the minds of men. I learned a lot. Rather than saying that men's minds

are simpler, I will be nice and say that they are less complex than I thought. Matthews says that he

got the idea for this book from the many conversations that he has had with women. He writes with

humor, which helps soften the blow of his brutal honesty. I was very impressed with his ability to

understand the minds of women. The way that he explains how men's minds work as compared to

women's showed me that he has a good understanding of how we think.

 

Even if I was in the perfect relationship (relationship, what relationship?), I would still love reading

this book to gain more insight into my partner. The humor that Matthews infuses into his writing

also makes it a very fun book to read. He doesn't hold back with his words, so the reader should be

prepared for some graphic details. In addition to gaining insight into how a man thinks or doesn't

think, he also offers some great advice on techniques for spicing up the relationship. This is

definitely excellent reading material for someone who wants to make positive changes in her

relationship.

 

Matthews answered some rhetorical questions that I had in my mind in regards to issues in previous

relationships. One was, "Why would a man want to be intimate with me, if he doesn't treat me with

respect?" Well, I learned, in a man's mind, respect doesn't play into sex issues. They don't need to

have respect for a woman to have fun with her. I also gained some insight into men and women just

being friends. In my own life, I have noticed that there are guys that say that they are okay with just

being friends, but then they get all bent out of shape when I start a relationship with someone other

then them, or if the friendship doesn't extend into the friends-with-privileges level. Matthews taught

me that guys really don't want to just be friends with women. They always want more. I will

definitely keep this in mind for future friends!

 

"Every Man Sees You Naked," is a must read for all women. It should be required reading in high

school. Actually not high school, because then the moral majority would have to hold book

burnings, but definitely for college. Every woman needs to read this book. If she can read it before

she gets into her first relationship, she will have a much easier time. But it's never too late, at least

not for a divorced, almost-middle-aged woman like myself. Mr. Matthews please keep writing.

 

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Comments: 309

Vicky P. Jun 12, 2008, 8:22pm EDT
Hurray for you, now I will have to read it. Congrats.
Lynda Cook Jun 13, 2009, 9:12pm EDT

Having read the review I will now have to go and buy the book,interesting to view a man's mind,well done.

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David Matthews Jun 12, 2008, 9:06pm EDT
Thanks! Hope you enjoy it.
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sheila ~the hapless housewife~ j. Jun 12, 2008, 9:11pm EDT
Sounds like a really good read!
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David Matthews Jun 12, 2008, 9:33pm EDT
People tell me it is!
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Donna Hammett-Tooker Jun 12, 2008, 9:49pm EDT
I read the Sensuous Woman back in the 70s and she already revealed most of what your reviewer said about your book revealing. Men are not simple, just driven by simple motives - you either eat it, kill it, befriend it or make love to it. Some men go beyond the basics but it is up to the guy.
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David Matthews Jun 13, 2008, 1:46pm EDT
You have a good point, Jade. On the other hand, sometimes knowledge is power.
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David Matthews Jun 13, 2008, 1:49pm EDT
Thanks for your comment, Donna. What you say is true. The Sensuous Woman was a landmark book with lots of great info. I'm hopeful that my book builds on that book's foundation and gives even more insight to the male mind.
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David Matthews Jun 13, 2008, 1:49pm EDT
I hope so, Judi. Check it out and let me know what you think!
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t b. Jun 13, 2008, 4:36pm EDT
Can't we have both from men Amber?
And I understand, in real, I keep most women at a distance, I feel safer that way.

Congratulations on the publication of your book.
If it is offering it to us to read and review, please let me know, I would very interested.
tammy b. Aug 14, 2009, 3:29pm EDT
I think that we should be able to have it all when in a good relationship. Esp. if that relationship comes with privileges.
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David Matthews Jun 13, 2008, 6:43pm EDT
Don't let the whole "male friend" thing get you down, Amber. The truth is that although they may all want to sleep with you, most of the guys you hang out with won't have the guts to make a move or make their intentions known. You can still hang out with them...you just now have the knowledge of what is behind their attraction to you. And take heart from this: I know many women who have had long-term, 20-plus year relationships with men that never became anything more than platonic. Not that the guys wouldn't have liked to get more physical, but for some reason (lack of nerve, fear of rejection, being involved with someone else, etc.) their relationship maintained a "good buds" status. And at the other end of the spectrum, you have a large pool of willing participants to choose from, should at any time you have an interest in having a "friends-with-benefits" type of relationship.
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David Matthews Jun 13, 2008, 6:49pm EDT
T.B., I would love for you to read and review the book, but unfortunately my publisher doesn't provide me with review copies to send out. If you're so inclined, however, the book is available from Amazon.com for a reasonable price (currently, around $11), plus free shipping under certain conditions. Thanks for your interest, and if you do read it, I'd be interested in your thoughts!
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Bonnie S. Jun 15, 2008, 12:22am EDT
"Matthews answered some rhetorical questions that I had in my mind in regards to issues in previous relationships. One was, "Why would a man want to be intimate with me, if he doesn't treat me with respect?" Well, I learned, in a man's mind, respect doesn't play into sex issues. They don't need to have respect for a woman to have fun with her."

So true. I equate with the Discovery Channel...no feelings, just primal instincts...
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ISABEL Y. Jun 15, 2008, 11:42am EDT
Congrats!
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David Matthews Jun 16, 2008, 3:55am EDT
Good comparison, Bonnie!
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David Matthews Jun 16, 2008, 3:56am EDT
Thanks, Isabel!
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David Matthews Jun 16, 2008, 3:05pm EDT
The book is available at Amazon.com, BarnesandNoble.com, Borders.com and most other online booksellers. It can also be purchased at most book stores. I recommend Amazon, though, because right now I believe they have the best price and free shipping on orders of $25 or more! Thanks for your interest, Selene...and hope you enjoy the book!
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Jean E. Jun 17, 2008, 5:31pm EDT
love and sex do not come hand in hand - however, for me personally, a hand in sex is handy ~ great review for Mr. Matthews by uhmmmm.....well, someone who has already read the book ~j
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David Matthews Jun 17, 2008, 5:36pm EDT
I agree with you about love and sex (and about the importance of hands). Thanks for the comment, Jean!
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Janice Haskins Jun 18, 2008, 4:28pm EDT
Wow David! After reading the review by "the almost middle aged woman" I'm very interested in getting a copy! I'm positive I'll enjoy it! Great review and some interesting comments too.
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David Matthews Jun 18, 2008, 6:02pm EDT
Thanks, Janice. After you read it, let me know what you think!
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Cindy P. Jun 18, 2008, 8:35pm EDT
Sounds like an interesting book.
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David Matthews Jun 18, 2008, 8:43pm EDT
Interesting...and entertaining, too - I hope!
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Brenda (square peg in a round hole) H. Jun 18, 2008, 8:53pm EDT
It sounds like a very interesting book.
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David Matthews Jun 18, 2008, 9:57pm EDT
Thanks, Brenda!
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Angela A. Jun 19, 2008, 2:04pm EDT
Do we all truly need to know what men think? I have pretty much known the male minds since I've been old enough to learn. My grandmother pretty much filled me in on the basics. I do know that men always think about sex. I just choose to ignore that fact most of the time.
I have been married for over seven years now and if I didn't know that by now, I'd be in serious need of counseling.
Anywho, I am into romance novels and wouldn't read this book, sorry.
But, thanks for the information anyway.
You do have some good selling points and I am sure that you will do well.
Best of luck to you.
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David Matthews Jun 19, 2008, 2:24pm EDT
Thanks for your good wishes, Angela.
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Bhawana 'Gather Proud Mom' Jun 20, 2008, 1:17am EDT
Congrats! sounds like a good and very interesting read.
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David Matthews Jun 20, 2008, 5:02am EDT
Thanks, Bhawana. I hope people find it enjoyable.
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Monica R. Jun 23, 2008, 4:57pm EDT
Congratualations.... very interesting....
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David Matthews Jun 23, 2008, 5:48pm EDT
Thanks, Monica!
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Mandi -Watch where the chalk-white arrows go. To the place where the sidewalk ends. S.S. Jun 23, 2008, 7:27pm EDT
Just where the hell were you 15 years ago BEFORE I got married?
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Renda B~surviving the storm by dancing in the rain. Jun 23, 2008, 7:54pm EDT
Congrats. I'll have to add this to my list.
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David Matthews Jun 24, 2008, 1:00am EDT
Sorry, Mandi. I wish I HAD written the book fifteen years ago.
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David Matthews Jun 24, 2008, 1:01am EDT
Thanks, Renda!
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Rebecca C. Jun 24, 2008, 9:15pm EDT
Congratulations!
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David Matthews Jun 24, 2008, 9:23pm EDT
Thanks, Rebecca!
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Billie H. Jun 25, 2008, 12:09am EDT
I will have to read this one.Sounds like a must read for all of us gals. Thank you for being my friend.
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Angel sent from God Secret Sisters Jun 25, 2008, 12:26am EDT
I had 5 brothers when I grew up.....I was a tomboy and had lots of friends that were guys I did learn alot that way....Durning college is when I learned a lot about men since most my friend were men...(law enforcement)
But its still nice to get more infomation on guys..
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David Matthews Jun 25, 2008, 12:44am EDT
After you read it, Billie, let me know what you think (if you feel like it - no pressure).

Good to have you as a friend!
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David Matthews Jun 25, 2008, 12:47am EDT
Sounds like you already have a lot of knowledge about guy, Janet. For you, the book might be more like a review...with maybe a few surprises along the way!
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Katherine M. Jun 25, 2008, 1:22pm EDT
Awesome!!! Congrats ... now I have to go find the book!
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David Matthews Jun 25, 2008, 4:09pm EDT
Thanks, Katherine! Check out Amazon.com for the best price on the book. Hope you like it!
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Mariah H. Coruth Jun 25, 2008, 4:11pm EDT
Congrats! I will have to read it.

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David Matthews Jun 25, 2008, 4:31pm EDT
Thanks, Mariah. When you finish it, I'd be interested to hear your thoughts!
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David Matthews Jun 25, 2008, 5:29pm EDT
Thanks, Cassandra. And glad to hear you know how men think...although I may have one or two things in the book that may surprise even you! In any case, it's very nice to meet you! Oh, and I love your icon!
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David Matthews Jun 25, 2008, 8:16pm EDT
I'm concerned about your other internal organs, but really happy you're enjoying the book!
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Emily H. Jun 25, 2008, 8:30pm EDT
sounds interesting
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David Matthews Jun 25, 2008, 8:48pm EDT
Thanks, Emily. That's what I was going for!
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J. P. Jun 26, 2008, 1:49am EDT
Is the men in the book all straight or including bi & gay? Just curious...
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David Matthews Jun 26, 2008, 2:37am EDT
Good question, J.P. Although, as a straight male, I can't authoritatively speak on behalf of bi and gay males, I strongly suspect that all men are hard-wired to see all members of the gender they are attracted to...naked. Thus, straight men see women naked, gay men see other men naked, and for bi men, all the world's undressed.
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David Matthews Jun 26, 2008, 12:47pm EDT
Thank you very much, Mary. I hope you find the book both entertaining and informative!
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Ruth MacGill Jun 26, 2008, 1:03pm EDT
Congratulations, David. It sounds like a fun read that I wish I could have read 70 years ago. When I was entering the world of sexual competition and confrontation, I thought guys would like me better if I was one of the guys. Guess what - it never worked.
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K D. Jun 26, 2008, 1:51pm EDT
That's a pretty good review, David. Congratulations! This book sounds interesting!
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Anna Cellmer Jun 26, 2008, 2:42pm EDT
Congratulation and welcome :)
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David Matthews Jun 26, 2008, 2:49pm EDT
Thanks, Ruth. And you're right, being "one-of-the-guys" does not usually enhance your appeal or increase your odds of getting romantic attention from men. Right or wrong, men are most attracted to women who are, well...womanly.
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David Matthews Jun 26, 2008, 2:51pm EDT
Thank you, K.D. I've been fortunate to have received a lot of positive feedback so far!
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David Matthews Jun 26, 2008, 2:52pm EDT
Thanks, Anna!
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Debby C. Jun 26, 2008, 2:59pm EDT
Hmmmmm I guess I'm gonna have to read it. No wonder you are so proud.
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David Matthews Jun 26, 2008, 3:03pm EDT
After you read it, let me know what you think, Debby!
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Nyota *Star* Jun 26, 2008, 7:00pm EDT
Wonderful reviews! I am sure you are well pleased!
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David Matthews Jun 26, 2008, 7:40pm EDT
Thanks, Nyota. And you're right, I was very pleased with this review! It's always gratifying to have people appreciate your work.
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Jade Autume Jun 26, 2008, 10:19pm EDT
Great Review David.
I haven't read your book but you can expect anouther sale coming your way.
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David Matthews Jun 27, 2008, 3:40am EDT
Thanks, Jade. I hope you enjoy it!
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denise e Jun 27, 2008, 9:12am EDT
congrats
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David Matthews Jun 27, 2008, 1:15pm EDT
Thank you, Denise!
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Christine Zibas Jun 27, 2008, 4:50pm EDT
Is this what it all comes down to? Surely you have oversimplified the relationship between men and women for a laugh? Or possibly there are levels in the relations between men and women. If not, why do men choose to marry one woman and not another? Also (other than sex) wha's in it for women?
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Lionel LaVergne Jun 27, 2008, 5:17pm EDT
Shucks David. Did you have to tell all of our secrets. We men have so few.
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David Matthews Jun 28, 2008, 1:20am EDT
I'm a little confused, Christine. I'm not quite sure what you're specifically referring to when you ask, "is this what it all comes down to?" Are you reacting to the book's title, the review, or people's comments? The title is meant to be provocative, but nonetheless is generally true. The book is meant to be informative and enlightening, but is certainly written in a humorous manner (at least that was my intent). There are certainly levels in relationships between men and women, but in general, straight men are fairly unanimous in their perceptions and motivations in certain key areas of their lives. Are there exceptions? Certainly. But for the most part, they are rare. And when you ask, "why do men choose to marry one woman and not another," are you asking how men decide on a mate or why do they bother to choose one at all? And though I'm happy as a man, to speak on behalf of my male brethern, I would not be so presumptuous as to tell you, a woman, what women get out of marriage, other than sex.
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David Matthews Jun 28, 2008, 1:21am EDT
Sorry, Lionel, but sometimes the truth just has to be told!
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David Matthews Jun 28, 2008, 1:22am EDT
Thanks, Marlive. I do hope you find it entertaining and informative!
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Leigh Featherstone Jun 28, 2008, 5:47am EDT
So I was all ready to read and then I get to the end of the INTRO and it states"..not for a divorced, almost-middle-aged woman like myself. Mr. Matthews please keep

So now I will read bcz I guess I should have a scarlett ltr on my chest.........

I love it this sounds good I am on my middle-aged way!
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Leigh Featherstone Jun 28, 2008, 5:51am EDT
Ok I agree this should be a "must read" For teens.. And I will say right on; for the input and you were right...Not for the middle-aged or the big "D" folks!!! Yet, this is really good!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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David Matthews Jun 28, 2008, 6:31pm EDT
Thanks, Leigh. I think you'll enjoy the read. Let me know what you think!
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David Matthews Jun 28, 2008, 10:09pm EDT
I think you'll find the book very interesting, Sandy. And I agree with you, "better late than never!" Oh, and just a tip, I believe, Amazon.com currently has the best price on the book.
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Chris E. Jun 29, 2008, 1:42pm EDT
I think I have the male brain pretty much figred out. This book sounds veryi nteresting and would help confirm or deny what conclusions I have come too. LOL I will check this book out.
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Bebe S. Jun 29, 2008, 1:58pm EDT
Your book sounds great! Congrats!!!
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David Matthews Jun 29, 2008, 2:37pm EDT
I hope you enjoy the read, Chris (and maybe discover a few things you don't already know)!
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David Matthews Jun 29, 2008, 2:37pm EDT
Thanks, Bebe!
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Beverly P. Jun 29, 2008, 10:45pm EDT
Interesting! I'll have to check this one out!
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David Matthews Jun 30, 2008, 2:06am EDT
Thanks, Beverly. I hope you find it enjoyable!
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Lois R. Jul 1, 2008, 12:01am EDT
Great review. This middle aged mama will order!
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Stefania H. Jul 1, 2008, 12:20am EDT
Sounds like a good book to read.
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David Matthews Jul 1, 2008, 12:29am EDT
Thanks, Lois. I hope you find it amusing and informative!
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David Matthews Jul 1, 2008, 12:30am EDT
Thanks, Stefania. I think you would find it interesting!
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Marilyn M. Jul 1, 2008, 1:21pm EDT
Well, if you say so. I've always considered men to be better friends than women. And it's doubtful that while they were asking for advice about another woman that they were trying to undress me as well. I think when we think that all men are one way or all women are one way, we're making a huge mistake. I also think that letting men buy into an idea like this gives them an excuse to be jerks.

Now, there's a book I loved - All Men Are Jerks Until Proven Otherwise. :-)
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kelldogg ! Jul 1, 2008, 4:00pm EDT
sounds like something i would enjoy! thanks!!! when i get the dough, i'll pick up a copy!
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michelle K. Jul 1, 2008, 4:13pm EDT
Sounds like a good read! I'll have to read it after I finish "The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands." I like to know as much as I can about the male mind. Makes my life easier!
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Jeanne O'Neill Jul 1, 2008, 8:27pm EDT
Okay. Guess I will be buying several copies for friends daughters and one for me to see what's up....Hmmm. Jeanne
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David Matthews Jul 1, 2008, 11:45pm EDT
While you are completely correct, Marilyn, that generalities don't apply to everyone, I would bet that more than one of your male friends who asked your advice about another woman, had a mental image of what you looked like sans clothes. And truth be told, guys already think this way on their own, they don't need me to put the idea in their heads.
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David Matthews Jul 1, 2008, 11:46pm EDT
Thanks, Kelldogg. I do think you will enjoy it!
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David Matthews Jul 1, 2008, 11:49pm EDT
That's one of the main reasons I wrote the book, Michelle - to help women make some sense of out the things that the men in their lives say and do!
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David Matthews Jul 1, 2008, 11:52pm EDT
Thanks, Jeanne. I love that you're going to share the knowledge with others. And by the way, I always tell people to check out Amazon.com's price on the book. It's usually the best, AND they offer free shipping on orders of $25 or more!
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Rebecca Florido Jul 1, 2008, 11:54pm EDT
where can I get this?
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David Matthews Jul 2, 2008, 12:00am EDT
The book is available at bookstores everywhere, and even if they don't have it currently in stock, they can order it for you and get it in in a couple of days. It is also available from most online booksellers. I think Amazon.com has the best price right now (I'm always recommending them - they should give me a commission or something). Plus Amazon has free shipping on orders of $25 or more. Thanks for your interest, Rebecca, and hope you enjoy the read!
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shelly voorhies Jul 2, 2008, 4:05am EDT
I can't wait to read it! What a great idea for a book, sometimes us women could use a little inside info. I'm very happy for you!
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David Matthews Jul 2, 2008, 4:42am EDT
Thank you, Shelly. I hope you enjoy the book!
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Elizabeth Madrigal Jul 2, 2008, 7:11pm EDT
Were truer words ever spoken than the title of your book? Ha ha ha.
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David Matthews Jul 2, 2008, 8:22pm EDT
In answer to your question, Elizabeth - I don't think so. Thanks for your comment!
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pamela hurley Jul 3, 2008, 1:08pm EDT
David, I enjoy reading anything that reveals the male mind ( and to know males have one when interacting with a woman). I feel men have often played into the parody of the "men gone wild" stereotype regarding their unleashed libido and one-dimensional obsessions. I want to think men aren't really like that (or that they aren't quite the caricature they are often portrayed). A book written in the 80's (before Men/Mars...Women/ Venus) by two Denver psychiatrists reveals that men have a language that women struggle to decode but is very relational and connected. That book (definitely a good read) is called, MEN: A TRANSLATION FOR WOMEN by Joan Shapiro, MD and George Hartlaub, MD.
I will review your book and hope you didn't exploit the cartoon image of men being dictated (no pun intended) by their penis.
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